This board doesn't get much action, so here's something with which the UER crowd may be able to help me that's not overly personal or embarrassing.

I was friends with someone for about eight years. We've been part of the same circle of friends and acquaintances since before we first met, and though this circle doesn't get together much any more due to various life changes, especially our "cruise director" (the person who's generally planned the get-togethers) moving over 400 miles away.

Well, the "cruise director" is coming up for a visit and another get-together has been planned, but since the last one, said friend of eight years, who I'd once considered to be my best friend, had gradually dropped me from her life.

I'd been trying to plan time to hang out with her, and after she didn't take a minute to say hi to me at a reunion party for our long-defunct favorite club, I asked her via IM what was up. What she said was, in a nutshell, that I'd done nothing wrong, but that we'd grown apart and she didn't think that she had anything further to offer me as a friend. I was devastated. I couldn't think of anything more to say to her, aside from an occasional comment on her Facebook posts, and around a year after that exchange, she quietly de-friended me on Facebook. That was over a year ago.

I used to speak very positively of her in all aspects, from beating cancer to career and other personal achievements, but I hardly speak of her at all now because I've felt incredibly betrayed and still bitter. Yes, people change, friendships end, etc., and she wasn't mean about it, but I still feel that her reasoning was bull and that I was dropped like trash into a bin.

Anyway, she's definitely going to be at this get-together, and while I'll be cordial up to a point, I can't imagine that I'll react well if she tries asking me how I've been doing or if she tries to greet me or hug me on the way out. I don't know if any of that will come to pass and I'm not concerned with coming off negatively if it does, but are there any suggestions as to what I should do?

A lot of people have looked at this but offered no response, so I'll just mention that the get-together happened and there was much ado about nothing. Everything went smoothly.

I mean, get over it. Appreciate the people you have now. Some people will not want to talk to you and that is ok. It does not mean anything is wrong with you and you should not take it personally. Maybe she unfriended you because you would not take no for an answer?