I've been with my girlfriend for almost 4 years now. Our relationship has been a roller coaster in a lot of ways, and most of this stems from horrible depression that she has suffered from since she was in her early teens. Despite having her psychiatrist try pretty much every anti-depressant imaginable over the past 7 or 8 years, things improve a bit, but never become good.

Unfortunately, there is a ton of stress on our relationship at the moment. We've lived in Rochester for the past 4 years, and have been planning to move to San Francisco. About 3 weeks ago, she moved back out to the west coast and is staying with her parents while she looks for a place for us to live, finds a job, and just gets settled in. But all this stress plus the fact that she hasn't remembered her meds in a while has caused her to become incredibly miserable to the point where she just desperately needs something to change. She mentioned possibly breaking up, but she just keeps saying she doesn't think anyone else could make her as happy as I do. At this point, she's starting to ask what's the point to everything since she doesn't think she can be happy no matter what.

I keep talking to her and trying to make her feel better, but there's only so much that can be done over the phone or IM. We're still both committed to me moving out there and us giving everything a shot, hoping that being out of college, being in a better city, and getting on with our lives will help things. Even so, I'm starting to reach my wit's end between her suicidal thoughts, thoughts of breaking up, and just feeling useless from being so far away.

A lot of people seem to misinterpret our relationship telling me it's incredibly unhealthy for me to take care of her the way I do and that it will end up just crushing me in the end, but our relationship is also a lot more complicated than anyone can really know without knowing a lot more details than I've given here.

Anyways, I don't even think there was a point to this thread; just needed to get some things off of my chest.

Well, I ended it today.

Awww, Brind! I am so sorry to hear about this. On your behalf, how does this affect you as far as your apartment and all? Didn't you give notice? Not putting the heartbreak the brush off, I am just concerned that you don't end up out on the street if you are not moving. *hugs*

Wise, WISE move. I was just about to reply with the below when I saw your new reply.

but our relationship is also a lot more complicated than anyone can really know without knowing a lot more details than I've given here.

I know enough to know that you need to get out. Don't try to work it out. It ain't gonna. Just end it.

Posted by Opheliaism Awww, Brind! I am so sorry to hear about this. On your behalf, how does this affect you as far as your apartment and all? Didn't you give notice? Not putting the heartbreak the brush off, I am just concerned that you don't end up out on the street if you are not moving. *hugs*

Worst case scenario, I can move back in with my parents for a few weeks while I find a new place, but I'll probably just move in with one of my friends in the area. I'm at this place until the 26th, so I've got a bit of time to figure things out, but the deadline is approaching quickly.

Posted by White Rabbit I know enough to know that you need to get out. Don't try to work it out. It ain't gonna. Just end it.

Yeah, as much as I would've liked it to work out, I have to be realistic. Personally, with the way she is I'm not sure she could ever be in a permanent relationship.

Well, there are more ships on the sea. My 3 year relationship sort-off ended yesterday (we let each other lose and see what happens from there, maybe we come back together or maybe we find somebody else). Eventually someone will pop-up and makes you forget everything.

Posted by Uncle Goose Well, there are more ships on the sea.

This "sea"... I've heard Styx sing about it... they mentioned a "virgin sea"

Where is this "virgin sea"? 'Cuz it's certainly not the one that I've been swimming in.

Posted by Uncle Goose Well, there are more ships on the sea.

heh, but seriously . . . Hope it at least got a chuckle out of ya Brind.

You know, I've actually been completely fine with this whole break up until today when I found out she's in a relationship with someone else. Doesn't bother me as much as it probably should, but it's the first thing that's actually gotten to me at all.

On a much funnier note though, one of the biggest things leading to me dumping her was finding out that she cheated on me a few days earlier. I found out the other day that she got herpes from the guy. I guess everyone gets what they deserve

Posted by Brind I found out the other day that she got herpes from the guy.

Now send a two-line text message to her phone:

"Herpes huh?

That's a bitch."

Posted by White Rabbit Now send a two-line text message to her phone: "Herpes huh? That's a bitch."

I actually laughed when she told me...she wasn't happy, but it amused the hell out of me.