well... i haven't had a good relationship since my 3 year one which ended bitterly a few months ago. ever since then i have been absolutely CURSED to find anything remotely close to a man who is willing to treat me nice.


take for example asshole #1

Asshole #1 and i dated *technically* for a day, then he told me he didn't want to be a relationship and just wanted to be friends. sure fine, whatever i don't care.


this was 5 months ago.


now, he's still my "Friend" and only my "Friend" and about a week ago, i was talking to him, he says he really really likes me, but... just wants to be friends.

i should fill you in on the way he treats me.
When we're around our friends, i am completely invisable to him, he ignores me, never acknoledges my exsistance and stuff. when he and i are just hanging out hes the best person i've ever known, treats me really well, and we get along great.


Last night he flipped out on me because he saw me talking to another guy (not flirting, just talking i have known this other guy for a while and just hadn't seen him for a while), he said "well are you going to marry him or what?" i asked him if he wanted to be with me then if he was so jealous, and he said no, he just wants to be friends.



Can someone explain to me this behavior?




i am so sick of being single, i am so sick of boys though. too bad i could never be a full out dyke.


i miss having a boyfriend. the end.

So you can:

- Go for it anyway with him, because he probably just wants you to make the move anyway without admitting he wants it, himself

- Keep being friends with him, and if he gives you problems like that in the future, re-affirm the fact that he is "just your friend* and has no say in the way you act around members of the opposite sex.

Or you can do neither of those, play the single card for awhile longer and wait for "that person" to come along. I've been playing that card for many years now, and I don't advise it. I'm just too indecisive/shy/low of self esteem to change it. Yah it does suck being single. It does strike at my heart to see others together, and it does make me jealous. C'est la vie.

Posted by househunter Can someone explain to me this behavior?

Yup. But you ain't gonna like the truth.

He does like you, but he doesn't consider you in his league. Which is why, by the way, he ignores you around everyone else. But, he wants to keep you dangling around and attached to you for the attention it brings him and because he does honestly like you. He may even break down and start actually dating you if you press the issue, but he will never treat you right because he thinks he can do a lot better.

That's it in a nutshell.

And, although this is also probably not what you want to hear, you're enabling all this by keeping this guy in your life. You need to cut it off with him. There is no potential for anything here--not even real friendship.

The way he treats you around his friends, that is not immature that is just wrong in many ways. That does not even touch on the subject of his bizarre way of acting when you are talking to another man. Innocent and in full view, there is nothing wrong with that. What are you supposed to do when he is ignoring you? Sit in the corner and not speak to anyone? That is scary verbal abuse. Drop this guy fast. If he acts this way without a relationship it is mild compared to how he will probably act later, that is even if he commits to you.

you guys are right...



ack... i'm so sad.



drunken-ness-ness is in order tonight.

thats the spirit...

I think.

Toss him. Toss him now.

And while you are at it, take a look at why you even put up with such crap, and why it is even in your life to begin with.

Best of luck finding a better match.

Posted by househunter you guys are right... ack... i'm so sad. drunken-ness-ness is in order tonight.

From what I read, this guy sounds like he just wants a trophy. Have some fun with the drunkeness but don't go too far overboard.

Posted by dirt Toss him. Toss him now. And while you are at it, take a look at why you even put up with such crap, and why it is even in your life to begin with. Best of luck finding a better match.

Seconded! Good luck househunter.

i need to be cheered up...... god i hate being sad. *kicks wall*

Posted by househunter i need to be cheered up...... god i hate being sad. *kicks wall*

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Will this help? A little something I whipped up.

its cute...but now i'm drunk and really really sad i think i'm going to go to bed.

yah, you're not supposed to be sad and drunk. i see teh alcohol has failed you.

Posted by househunter i need to be cheered up......

Dr. Rabbit says come back to his office later for a special injection that will cheer you right up.

Well, at least asshole's truck broke down on him today! AHAHAHA!

omg Bandi...i can't believe it, and last night i even told you "the fuckers truck is going to break down today!" lol! i swear i didn't rig it. thats called awesome Karma....


haha i hope the fucker was stuck in wherever we were for a long time. and he says my car is unreliable...naw my car still runs...his truck dont!


man as soon as i pulled around the corner in the tour and saw his broken down truck, i couldn't believe my eyes!


haha...assholes who drive asshole trucks only ask for it!



omg...i don't belive in god but he musta been watching over me today.

oh and i forgot to add...



i got his broken down truck on VIDEO!




blackmail anyone?



he who spends 30 grand on a 1990 chevy, shouldn't forget...its still a chevy!

Posted by househunter he who spends 30 grand on a 1990 chevy, shouldn't forget...its still a chevy!

What the fuck? 30 grand? On a truck that's almost 20 years old? Seriously? Is it plated in gold or something?

its a show truck...new engine new tranny, new paint, custom box, custom interior, air brushing, chrome spinners, lowering kit.....stereo system worth more then my car....



hes a little die hard



i have pictures to prove this.

Posted by Stewie So you can: - Go for it anyway with him, because he probably just wants you to make the move anyway without admitting he wants it, himself - Keep being friends with him, and if he gives you problems like that in the future, re-affirm the fact that he is "just your friend* and has no say in the way you act around members of the opposite sex. Or you can do neither of those, play the single card for awhile longer and wait for "that person" to come along. I've been playing that card for many years now, and I don't advise it. I'm just too indecisive/shy/low of self esteem to change it. Yah it does suck being single. It does strike at my heart to see others together, and it does make me jealous. C'est la vie.

Love:

It's amazing but it hurts.
It won't cure everything - you'll still be indecisive, shy and have low self esteem.. but just wait.
Your time will come.

yah, im sure its all that jazz and such.

now wheres my pumpkin coach to take me to the ball?