Been a bit quiet here lately. The conversation among friends the other night revolved around how do you answer the "sex" questions with kids. The best conversation I had about sex with my kids was after my daughter had put 2 and 2 together after seeing how the cow farm across the road makes baby cows. She asked me who the vet was that stuck his arm up my butt to make me pregnant with her. Thank God she was happy with the answer that I am not a cow so it did not work that way. (Hehehehe I was much thinner then) and she bought it. I saw this and decided to see how many here have had to answer "Where did I come from or how are babies made?" and how did you handle that one.


How little boys are born

A little boy goes to his father and asks
'Daddy, how was I born?' The father
answers: 'Well son, I guess one day
you will need to find out anyway! Your
Mom and I first got together in a chat
room on Yahoo. Then I set up a date
via e-mail with your Mom and we met
at a cyber-cafe. We sneaked into a
secluded room, where your mother
agreed to a download from my hard
drive. As soon as I was ready to upload,
we discovered that neither one of us had
used a firewall, and since it was too late
to hit the delete button, nine months later
a little Pop-Up appeared that said


You got Male!

that totally made my day

My wife and I have both taught sex education classes at a Unitarian Universalist church. I have taught one curriculum for 7th, 8th, and 9th graders, and a different one for 10th, 11th, and 12th. My wife has taught the 7th, 8th, 9th class, and a 1st, 2nd, 3rd grade class. My son took the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd class a couple of years ago from another teacher.

Needless to say, we think that the plain and simple truth is the best response. Kids stop asking when they get enough information to satisfy their current level of curiosity. As they get older, they ask more. It's all real easy.

It turns out that after my wife and I started teaching this program, I found out that my father and mother had taught a similar class at a Presbyterian church before I was born.

Even though there can be cuteness and tension with the subject MutantMandias good for you and your wife. I am glad to see that there are some who believe that kids need a straight shot when it comes to how life works.

Since she was 4 when she asked about the cows the answer worked. She is now 16 and the talks are much more adult. Well all adult really. I think about the age of 10 I saw it was time to get very serious about her questions. I am happy with how comfortable she is when we discuss these issues. She is still a virgin but not innocent. I believe that since I have not made it taboo or hard to talk about she will hopefully be safer and not apt to make poor choices with her sex life. I am not naive. I keep a close eye on her but she still has plenty of chances to make horrible mistakes. Lots of information, open and level headed communication and hope for the best I guess.

Yeah, by the time a kid is 6 years old, you have pretty much already passed your window of opportunity for teaching responsible behavior in life. You have to lay the base early, and then just try not to fuck it up as you go.

My daughter is turning 3 in about a month, and she has already starting asking me questions about her body and such.

Sort of caught me off guard when she asked if her 'boobies' will get bigger when she grows up, and if she would get hair on her 'pee pee'

(This is when I was walking around the house naked one morning)


I just never expected those questions from a 2 year old, I guess this is just the start.

But. Those. Aren't. Questions. About. Sex.

Posted by MutantMandias But. Those. Aren't. Questions. About. Sex.

No but if she starts there and gets comfortable with honest answers it's all good right?

Edit:
Oops came across a bit snippy. I didn't intend to have that happen. I just want this to be a semi serious talk about some sensitive stuff. No flaming intended.

Dammit. Civility sucks.

Ohhh, alright.

Yes, I was snippy too.
(Don't tell anyone you got me to act civil or I will shit on your face)


Those questions about body parts should be no more troubling to answer than, "Will I get taller?"

And, yes, I completely agree that being truthful without intentionally clouding the issue makes everyone more comfortable than the alternative.

For whatever reason, you may have reasons for being a little uncomfortable talking about these things, but it is truly easier to be honest than to try to dance around the subject or give mysterious or vague answers.

Going forward, you want kids to be able to talk to you about these things with no hesitation.

Just imagine if your kid was being sexually abused by someone, and you found out later that they hadn't felt comfortable talking to you about it, because you always got weird when talking about the "naughty bits."

Posted by MutantMandias But. Those. Aren't. Questions. About. Sex.

But it's questions about her sexual parts and such .. isn't?


.......Never mind........ lol

Posted by MutantMandias Going forward, you want kids to be able to talk to you about these things with no hesitation. Just imagine if your kid was being sexually abused by someone, and you found out later that they hadn't felt comfortable talking to you about it, because you always got weird when talking about the "naughty bits."

My wife and her three sisters were raised in a house where sex wasn't discussed openly. They were told that masturbation was bad, sex was only after marriage, and pornography & sex toys were only for perverts/sickos. Needless to say, after being with my wife for nearly 15 years, we still have issues with her sexuality. We are okay, but she definitely has problems. We decided that I will lead the sexual discussions with our daughters, if they are more comfortable talking with their mother, then I will just coach / counsel her along the way. The ironic part is, her household had no religion at all, her parents decision to treat sex as dirty was completely based on their own sense of morals, not religious interference.

On the flip side, I was raised in a very catholic household, also taught that sex was for after marriage, and that masturbation was private. My parents did answer questions honestly otherwise. They didn't approve of any premarital sexual contact, but they preferred we had all the information required to be safe if we choose to ignore their wishes. They taught us that sex (before marriage) and masturbation were sins, but they also said that we had desires and that god would forgive us for our sins. It helped that I didn't believe in god anyway, but they were realistic, not nieve.

My wife's little sister was sexually abused for years, she didn't tell anyone, she feared her parent's reaction and therefore hid the abuse. It was very sad to find out years later about the abuse. He was a cousin, and we even went to the little f#*kers wedding oblivious to the abuse.

Just because you don't approve of teen sex, don't assume your teens agree with you. Give them all the information they need to make their own decisions, also give them a clear view of your morals, clearly define what you approve of, and let your kids know it is still their decision and you will always support them regardless of your morals. It is their life, it is their bodies.

Posted by Squidgit Sort of caught me off guard when she asked if her 'boobies' will get bigger when she grows up, and if she would get hair on her 'pee pee'

Come on, be a good sport and set an example, have that pee pee hair removed before walking around your house naked. You'll be doing her future boyfriends a big favour, they won't have to beg her to mow lawn!

Posted by Nvr2loud Come on, be a good sport and set an example, have that pee pee hair removed before walking around your house naked. You'll be doing her future boyfriends a big favour, they won't have to beg her to mow lawn!

buhhahaha. Being 7 months pregnant makes me lazy to shave anything these days...

Posted by Squidgit buhhahaha. Being 7 months pregnant makes me lazy to shave anything these days...

Not to mention dangerous. It would be hard to see what you are doing down there.

Okay, YOU have a good excuse.... but what about your guy? What is his excuse to not mow your lawn right now for you??? My wife demanded basic bush maintainence of me while she was pregnant

Aaagh!

When did it become stylish to shave everything? Man, I don't want to simulate sex with a ten year old girl. GIve me some fuzz down below!

Posted by Jonsered Aaagh! When did it become stylish to shave everything? Man, I don't want to simulate sex with a ten year old girl. GIve me some fuzz down below!

How old are you? LOL

I see, your profile says you're 41.... that's why you like a hairy bush.

I mean, I don't mind a landing strip, but hair down below... yuck, it stinks and gets caught in my teeth, aaaggghhh!

Posted by Nvr2loud I see, your profile says you're 41.... that's why you like a hairy bush. I mean, I don't mind a landing strip, but hair down below... yuck, it stinks and gets caught in my teeth, aaaggghhh!

Natures dental floss my man.

Yeah, fish flavoured dental floss.