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Debi
Location: Worcester County, MA Gender: Female Total Likes: 23 likes
| | | Classic Loser < on 2/20/2008 4:29 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Some of you already know that I filed for divorce in December after my husband shacked up in a hotel for 3 days partying with some low-life crack whore. Since then, he has been crying, begging, and pleading his way back into my life. On a daily basis, he either comes over or calls to remind me how much he loves me, how sorry he is, blah blah blah. I've been bombarded with cards, money, flowers, groceries, gifts, and pretty much everything else you can think of from him over the last two months. Then yesterday I found out that he never stopped seeing the crack whore. He's been telling her that he loves her and just to "hang in there" until the divorce is done until they can be together. So tell me why in the world he has been trying to claw his way back into his family for the last two months. Even though I never regained trust for him and therefore was never going to take him back, it still stings nonetheless. I imagine while he was trying to get me back, he was keeping her on the back burner in case it didn't work out. It sucks to be humiliated (with a crack whore no less) after you've been a good wife to someone for TWELVE years. Fuck-tard.
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| White Rabbit Women's Advocate
Location: Missouri Gender: Male Total Likes: 3 likes
| | | | Re: Classic Loser < Reply # 4 on 2/20/2008 5:51 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by shellyl Damn WR I luv ya but what a typical guy answer. Now from a guy's point of view what is the motivation behind it.
| Yeah, it's a guy answer, but it's the truth. And the motivation is pretty simple, but I don't if it's something most women completely "get." You're a guy. You've been fucking the same thing for months, years, whatever. You see other women, and you think, "God I would like to see what that feels like." It's some sort of instinctual, base urge that all guys seem to have. Some caveman type-thing that we're programmed with to want to spread our seed around. (And unless they're gay, almost any guy who says he doesn't feel it is lying.) But most decent guys resist that urge. Then some don't. Then what happens? Sometimes they get that new piece of ass, and the change of scenery is so great that they keep doing it for a while. Sometimes they bail out of their relationship, just over that piece of pussy being so different. Then other times they just go, "Fuck, that wasn't that great! Why did I do this?" And go slinking back to their wives. This is not to say guys never cheat for love, by the way. But we're talking in generalities, and generally most guys cheat for the reason above.
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| Wiccan
Location: Hamilton Ontario Gender: Female Total Likes: 16 likes
| | | Re: Classic Loser < Reply # 7 on 2/20/2008 8:36 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | I remember you discussing this Debi,and I wondered how it was going for you. On the surface,it definitely sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it,too,and also that he has a bruised ego because you're refusing to take him back. For some reason,most cheaters seem to think that they're so damn fabulous,and that because they've left you in such an emotional wreck,that they seem sure that you'll 'get over it',if only to ease the pain you're in. Or the dreaded wanting to 'win' the guy back off of the other person they cheated with,guys (and girls) often love to see people fight over them. I really believe that they count on shit like that,because we've all heard of cases where these tactics actually work. Just my opinion, and I hope it makes sense. Out of curiousity though,did you hear from a valid source that he still has the crack whore around,and has told her to wait it out? I could be wrong,but I'm wondering if that didn't come from the crackwhore herself,who just may be pissed that he's trying to get you back.
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| Debi
Location: Worcester County, MA Gender: Female Total Likes: 23 likes
| | | Re: Classic Loser < Reply # 10 on 2/21/2008 5:11 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Senseriffic, I hope you take your own advice. There is someone better out there for you also, don't waste anymore of your time on that guy. I'm sticking to my guns for sure. And thankfully I'm not in a ball in the corner of the room crying; I'm pissed as hell and I hope never to see his face again. I've been preparing for this day for a while now, its so much easier to handle when its not a surprise. With that being said, I will be fine. I own my house outright, and its in my name alone. I'll be okay financially, and spritually I will be at peace. Course, probably the best part is that I work for one of the most powerful divorce lawyers in my area! It also helps that among our peers I am known to be an upstanding person. She, on the other hand is known as the "crack whore". I think the humiliation factor for him will be high. He told his best friend that OBVIOUSLY if he were given another chance, he would pick me and forget he even knew her. Boo hoo baby!
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| Sand
Location: Pac South Total Likes: 4 likes
Everything interesting is always behind a fence.
| | | Re: Classic Loser < Reply # 18 on 4/15/2008 6:30 AM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by White Rabbit
Yeah, it's a guy answer, but it's the truth. And the motivation is pretty simple, but I don't if it's something most women completely "get." You're a guy. You've been fucking the same thing for months, years, whatever. You see other women, and you think, "God I would like to see what that feels like." It's some sort of instinctual, base urge that all guys seem to have. Some caveman type-thing that we're programmed with to want to spread our seed around. (And unless they're gay, almost any guy who says he doesn't feel it is lying.) But most decent guys resist that urge. Then some don't. Then what happens? Sometimes they get that new piece of ass, and the change of scenery is so great that they keep doing it for a while. Sometimes they bail out of their relationship, just over that piece of pussy being so different. Then other times they just go, "Fuck, that wasn't that great! Why did I do this?" And go slinking back to their wives. This is not to say guys never cheat for love, by the way. But we're talking in generalities, and generally most guys cheat for the reason above.
| WR, I think men try to think that women don't think that way. But they do. Ever watch Cheaters? Truth is, both men and women cheat. Equally. And both can be scumbags. L
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