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Shael
Location: Witherbee, NY. Gender: Female Total Likes: 7 likes
Baaaaah.
| | | Selfish? < on 4/2/2008 5:19 AM > | Reply with Quote
| | | My mom actually said that I was selfish the other day because I'm not interested in having kids. My sister just had a baby last week, I went to visit and it felt like I was holding an alien. That's putting it mildly. He's cute, but he's not exactly what I want out of life. Well, getting to the point...is it selfish to not want kids or is it selfish to have a kid, even though you really can't do everything you want to do for him/her? That's what I'm getting at. My sister's husband has a good job where I work, but they're really not financially set to have a baby, even though they had one anyway. Myself, I think it's selfish to have a kid in a situation like that. I honestly don't think they should have, but they did anyway. Now, why do people think I'm selfish? I don't get it. I've come to the realization that if I were to have a baby at this point and time...what little life I have would be over and my boyfriend, who doesn't even want to get married right now, let alone 10 years from now, would probably up and split. Anyway, my mother thinks I'm selfish because I want to keep what I have and not ruin things by getting married and having kids. Shael
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| White Rabbit Women's Advocate
Location: Missouri Gender: Male Total Likes: 3 likes
| | | | Re: Selfish? < Reply # 2 on 4/2/2008 5:56 AM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by SaraBellum Why they're so concerned with it, I don't know.
| Allowing other people to enjoy being childless, for them, would mean admitting that children have at least some significant, negative impact on life (and consequently, as parents, their lives, too). And most parents, who consider themselves and their children to be pretty much one solid quasi-life form, therefore take it as a personal attack against them that their precious little angel-schnookums might NOT be the greatest thing since sliced bread. Plus, it means acknowledging that they just might've royally screwed up their one and only life. The reason they're so concerned with it, though, is because people are WAY too narcissistic to stomach all that, and it's much easier to devote their energy to deluding themselves and telling you how wrong you are.
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| KublaKhan
Location: Edinburgh, Scotland Total Likes: 207 likes
With Satan, it's always gimmie, gimmie.
| | | Re: Selfish? < Reply # 3 on 4/8/2008 3:41 AM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by Shael My mom actually said that I was selfish the other day because I'm not interested in having kids. My sister just had a baby last week, I went to visit and it felt like I was holding an alien.
| Your mother's attitude will change after she's had a few long and unending hours babysitting your sister's little one. Congrats, btw, on becoming an aunt. Trust me on this. If you don't want one yourself, don't go anywhere near the baby. Move to another city. Out of province/state, if possible. Here's why: You'll be left alone in a room with this child one day. Sooner than you think. And you'll look at Baby and a different sort of slow creep will overcome you too, and pretty soon you'll be shooting out babies like a Pez dispenser.
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| Oryx
Location: Who knows Gender: Neither Total Likes: 40 likes
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| | | Re: Selfish? < Reply # 10 on 2/27/2009 6:43 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | I grew up with my mother always telling me to NOT have kids. "Ok honey, whatever you do, DON'T have kids please. I don't want to be a grandmother. I delt with you and that's enough." I'm surprised she wanted me in the first place haha. Adoption is awesome. If (for some unknown and highly unlikely reason) I were to ever change my mind about having kids, I would totally adopt. I was adopted myself. So was my mother, uncle, two cousins, and biological father. Family reunions were like meeting at the UN. We had Irish, Native American, Italian, Korean, Taiwaneese (sp?), German, and who knows what else.
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