Posted by dirt Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they're yours. ~Richard Bach I don't really care what excuses you give, nor, Am I trying to convert anyone to anything. But with such strong words, you risk alienating people you love, not just people in the big vacuum that is the internet. A little understanding and compassion is all I ask.

EMO ALERT

Posted by KublaKhan EMO ALERT

emo's would care about this kind of stuff, as they want to be hurt over things. While my advice has the side effect of taking away the emo's game.

Posted by David Dong I may be making a broad generalisation,or my local culture may be different than the norm, I don't know. BUT where I am from we call girls that are open to the idea of their man having more than one sexual mate 3 things... 1. Doormat 2. Psycho 3. Slut All the links, studies and arguments on the world will not change my view that "poly" is just not natural and is a sure fire way to end relationships in disaster. Any girl I were to be involved with who would be open to that idea would set off alarm bells instantly. Needless to say, if they get "weird" down the line, I would not be at all surprised.

BUT where I am from, all girls are psychotic. 100%. It's a matter of deciding which type(s) of psychosis you want to deal with. And no, its never really surprising when they spazz, but hope springs eternal.

Also, if you are unwilling to let any link / study /argument change your view that doesn't make you very open, does it? Thats kinda like saying "I hide myself under a rock, don't listen to me."

Posted by Skold I figured as much, still that was only a small line out of the whole she theme. But fine, end of political correct policing. I too would never be up for some sharing, as it's complicated enough being with one other person. However, I doubt all these poly people are lying to themselves when they tell others they are happy with their relationships. I also don't think he expected her to be okay with him being poly, but then again she was fooling around with him while being with another guy (kinda)! In fairness, she is being weird, I assume she's known he's been poly for a long time, but this change in her seems more recent.

Correct!

Posted by dirt emo's would care about this kind of stuff, as they want to be hurt over things. While my advice has the side effect of taking away the emo's game.

KK's just effin wit'cha. He's fun like that.

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The Ethical Slut - A good read that will help all relationships (it has a whole lot on emotional intimacy / honesty) - but at the same time don't assume all poly people are complete, well, sluts. Just because some of them have sex parties doesn't mean we're all into that. I won't go as far, physicality wise, with any girl who is not my primary, but that gets into a whole-nother topic of hierarchies.

@Lexi - before you feel like you have it all figured out / you're some uber 16y/o, explain how the "her coming up and talking to me" fits in to the equation. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you wouldn't go out of your way to small-talk someone you find repulsive, would you? Especially if they are busy at the other end of a large room...

Posted by MindHacker @Lexi - before you feel like you have it all figured out / you're some uber 16y/o, explain how the "her coming up and talking to me" fits in to the equation. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you wouldn't go out of your way to small-talk someone you find repulsive, would you? Especially if they are busy at the other end of a large room...

Hi, my name is Lexi, and I have a vagina. This means I'm female. I've also done the exact same thing your little fantasy fuck toy has. As soon as girls are called out on things like this, they're too afraid to just admit to it. She's ignoring you because she really doesn't want anything to do with you. She regrets even putting her lips to yours. Odds are she finds the fact that you're poly really weird.

I've made out/fucked really ugly guys/guys that I wasn't attracted to and looked back at it going "What the hell was I thinking?" She was probably feeling guilty about just casting you aside and her talking to you was a way of calming her conscience. Has she called you once since?

Bear in mind I'm not calling you physically ugly (I can't judge yet,) but for whatever reason she's probably just not all that into you. So you've been discarded and she's moving on. Give up.

This reminds me of the ethics threads on the rest of UER where everything crumbles apart really quickly and "UER- Serious Bizness" macros get posted within a few minutes.

And again with my issues with terminology but 'primary' and hierarchies make it sound like you're hoarding concubines.

Not cool.

Posted by Lexi Hi, my name is Lexi, and I have a vagina. This means I'm female. I've also done the exact same thing your little fantasy fuck toy has. As soon as girls are called out on things like this, they're too afraid to just admit to it. She's ignoring you because she really doesn't want anything to do with you. She regrets even putting her lips to yours. Odds are she finds the fact that you're poly really weird. I've made out/fucked really ugly guys/guys that I wasn't attracted to and looked back at it going "What the hell was I thinking?" She was probably feeling guilty about just casting you aside and her talking to you was a way of calming her conscience. Has she called you once since? Bear in mind I'm not calling you physically ugly (I can't judge yet,) but for whatever reason she's probably just not all that into you. So you've been discarded and she's moving on. Give up.

We're moving towards a fuller explanation (you added in a guilty conscience aspect to your explanation)... keep going.

Physically, at least, I know she finds me attractive. The one night we hooked up she told me that anything I do seduces her, and then she murmured "you're so hot" as if it were a mantra whenever I didn't have her lips otherwise occupied. There's obviously more to it than just physical appearance, but she wouldn't have called me hot if she didn't think so, she woulda gone for "I want you so much" or something.

And of course she hasn't called me since. Didn't call me before either.

Also, in my first post, I stated that I had given up. I was just curious.

Posted by hydrotherapy This reminds me of the ethics threads on the rest of UER where everything crumbles apart really quickly and "UER- Serious Bizness" macros get posted within a few minutes. And again with my issues with terminology but 'primary' and hierarchies make it sound like you're hoarding concubines. Not cool.

By not f*cking them I'm making them concubines? Or is it because I'm honest with them and tell them that my feelings for them aren't all exactly the same.

Mostly, the hierarchy thing is just a way to keep a bit of stability / assure a girl that you won't drop them for the next thing to come along. The change in my physicality within that framework is just to keep something "special" in the primary relationship - if I have one at the time.

And yeah. I figure we have about 2 hours till we get macro-bombed. But I'm here (relationships) because I like drama, so its all good.

Posted by David Dong I may be making a broad generalisation,or my local culture may be different than the norm, I don't know. BUT where I am from we call girls that are open to the idea of their man having more than one sexual mate 3 things... 1. Doormat 2. Psycho 3. Slut

Don't forget good old #4. Mormon

Posted by MindHacker By not f*cking them I'm making them concubines?

Umm, normally you have sexual relations with a concubine.

Posted by piplnr65656 1. Doormat 2. Psycho 3. Slut Don't forget good old #4. Mormon

1+2=4?

protip: you can say "fucking" on here.

FUCKING CUNT TWAT DIRTY SHIT COVERED ASSHOLE

see? that was fun.

Posted by Lexi Hi, my name is Lexi, and I have a vagina. This means I'm female. I've also done the exact same thing your little fantasy fuck toy has. As soon as girls are called out on things like this, they're too afraid to just admit to it. She's ignoring you because she really doesn't want anything to do with you. She regrets even putting her lips to yours. Odds are she finds the fact that you're poly really weird. I've made out/fucked really ugly guys/guys that I wasn't attracted to and looked back at it going "What the hell was I thinking?" She was probably feeling guilty about just casting you aside and her talking to you was a way of calming her conscience. Has she called you once since? Bear in mind I'm not calling you physically ugly (I can't judge yet,) but for whatever reason she's probably just not all that into you. So you've been discarded and she's moving on. Give up.

Pics or it's all rumour.

its right beside her giant black cock, don't worry.

Posted by Stewie its right beside her giant black cock, don't worry.

Pics or GTFO.

(and besides...that's MY giant black cock)

Posted by KublaKhan Pics or GTFO. (and besides...that's MY giant black cock)

So thats where it went. I mean, I knew you lost it, I just didn't figure... huh. Well ok.

Also, if lexi starts posting pics I'm sure someone's getting B&+V&. That said, Go for it.

Posted by MindHacker So thats where it went. I mean, I knew you lost it, I just didn't figure... huh. Well ok. Also, if lexi starts posting pics I'm sure someone's getting B&+V&. That said, Go for it.

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Posted by MindHacker So thats where it went. I mean, I knew you lost it, I just didn't figure... huh. Well ok. Also, if lexi starts posting pics I'm sure someone's getting B&+V&. That said, Go for it.

Haha. Trust me when I say you don't want to see me naked.

Posted by dirt ???

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Posted by Stewie murk loar

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