I did some investigative work tonight. You are a bad person. Tsk.

what the hell are you talking about?

Posted by tullo what the hell are you talking about?

Seeing as it's argonian, probably absolutely nothing.

Yeoch! Whoops! My mistake, that actually didn't hurt.

Posted by argonian Yeoch! Whoops! My mistake, that actually didn't hurt.

<3

LOL!!! no we cleared it up. i had absolutely no idea what she was talking about. but she actually managed to take the time to go on my myspace and figure out which friend i was talking about, LOL.

I like to be vague or speak in riddles on the boards to keep things interesting for those who should know what I am talking about.

On another note, Tullo, we totally have to hang out again now that I have a new camera. Also, I have some room in my bag for negatives if we end up near a jail... Please let me join in on one of your romantic weekends.

Posted by argonian Tullo, we totally have to hang out again now that I have a new camera.

You never want to hang out with me. I'm so lonely here. I have a new kitten and everything.

In the winter I will. I don't think I could handle the heat down there right now.

Haha... people don't respond to hearing anything behind the cliche "I'm fine, thanks!" that we are all taught to do, not unlike trained monkeys.

Life examples?

1. I was seeing this guy... we acted like a couple that was dating, really. Few months in, I saw some photo of him kissing a chick and asked him about it... he made up some lame excuse. We resumed (stupid on my part)... then a few weeks later he was dating that chick. I called him up and asked what was up, why did he do that, did he take me as an idiot, ect... his only concern? "Do you hate me?" No. I was extremely civil about the whole situation and stressed "think before you act" and "consider the feelings of others."

The same dude stood me up a few months ago and ignored my call/text asking about it. I got a text from him a few days ago saying "I'm sorry we don't talk anymore, you are so much fun to hang out with, I miss you and hope we can talk again" blah blah blah.

Lets consider the logic... the only reason why we don't talk is b/c he blew me off and never made any efforts until a few months later to contact me. He does not contribute anything decent to my life whatsoever, so what good would it be if I spent any more time being his pal?

Sorry dude, I have more self-respect to waste my time on somebody that is going to do exactly that... waste it.

2. Whenever things get questionable with friends/exs, I always tell them that I cannot talk to them until the dust settles. This always gets taken as "you hate me, so I am going to hate you back." No, I do not hate you. Logically speaking, if we cannot have civil and comfortable conversations b/c of residual emotions left over from wrong-doings, what would it be worth? Let the dust settle, chill the fuck out, then we'll talk and (possibly) become buddies again.

3. I almost never say things about people unless if I already said it to them. If somebody mildly annoys me, I let them know in a civil manner. Whenever I do this, whoever I do it to gets their panties in a bunch... "hey... do you hate me?" A. I do not hate you and B. "hating" is irrelevant of my point.. you fucked up, learn from it.

Best part? When people screw me over, apologize, screw me over again, and apologize. What is the point of apologizing if clearly you do not learn your lesson, jackass? Save your breath. Grow up, learn, then apologize. Til then, fuck off.


:end rant:

I'm really not a bitch, I promise. I just cannot be bothered to deal with incompetent people.

Posted by tullo this is a non exploring friend, so dont pick your brain wondering if this is you, but seriously. take a hint. im not returning your phone calls, im making excuses when it comes to hanging out or coming to visit you bc you live far away, take a hint. i have moved on with my life and dont want to pursue this friendship anymore. and yet you WONT GO AWAY. why do people do that.

I have the same problem...now he is stalking my friends.

Posted by PaExplorations I have the same problem...now he is stalking my friends.

thats quite a rant poly. jesus! lol.

i havent heard from this guy in um....i dunno a week and a half, 2 weeks, something. last i talked to him he left me a myspace message saying he wants to come down and visit. aka can i clear my schedule for a weekend and cater to him and let him stay here. im praying he just like, never contacts me about it. again. ever. lol.

Posted by PaExplorations I have the same problem...now he is stalking my friends.

I know who you are referring to. hahaha




Tullo,


The date that your friend is coming down tell him you will out of state or something. Go to Wenn's & do her abandoned house bar crawl!!!! Say plans can't be changed... blah blah blah!!! You paid in advance!

I do it when Billy has family stuff that I don't want to attend!

...i believe i have entered day one of "realizing tullo is not longer talking to me." today i have received 3 ims to my cell phone, then i put this person on block, then a phone call, then a text message. i dont know how to explain to someone ive been friends with for like 7 years that i have been fed up with him for the last year. lol. and he refuses to let things just fade into the distance. i feel like im involved in some kind of bad breakup. god.

Posted by tullo ...i believe i have entered day one of "realizing tullo is not longer talking to me." today i have received 3 ims to my cell phone, then i put this person on block, then a phone call, then a text message. i dont know how to explain to someone ive been friends with for like 7 years that i have been fed up with him for the last year. lol. and he refuses to let things just fade into the distance. i feel like im involved in some kind of bad breakup. god.

You are

Just start sending crazy messages and then he won't want anything to do with you. It works.

im sure it would help if i wasnt a fucking tool and i wasnt just ducking to avoid him. but literally, i have been answering the phone less and less, available to hang out less and less, always have excuses for why i cant truck myself all the way up to boston and visit, etc etc etc. andf ive been doing this for a year now, at least. youd think he would take a hint. but even if i said something to him, it would make him more desperate and more stalkerish. im sorry you dont have friends in boston. its not my fault. i dunno.

Man up, tell him you don't have the time or money to bother with him right now, and you don't want to be a bitch about it, but to let you contact him if you ever wanna hang out again. If he gets pissy and never wants to be your friend again, problem solved. If he is ok with it and understands, problem solved. If he pretends he's ok with it, but then continues to do it, tell him you're going to just ignore him so stop bothering. Problem should eventually be solved.

I hate when people dance around shit like that. If you don't want to hang out with me, tell me, I have better things to do with my time then try to make better with somebody who doesn't want to be my friend anymore. No offense to you of course. I've had people who've thought I was ducking or avoiding them myself, and I tell them it's just not so. Circumstances are what they are.

Just tell him you are up to your eyeballs in muff right now.

Posted by argonian Just tell him you are up to your eyeballs in muff right now.

LOL!!!! if only that were true.