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MindHacker
Location: Suburbs of DC Gender: Male Total Likes: 1 like
If you spot a terrorist arrow, pin it to the wall with your shoulder.
| | | Re: I give up on girls < Reply # 3 on 9/16/2008 1:37 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Start dating those friends that you are too close to date. Really, that's just bs they say so they can get close to you without worrying about being "more than friends"... yeah, girls are kinna screwed up. Speaking of which, example time! First two gf's were just outrageously immature. I mean, the one of them didn't drink water because she didn't like the taste - and this was in freaking africa. She almost had to be flown out of the country due to dehydration. 'Cause she didn't want to drink water. Next three flings were psychotic - they went from "I love you" to "let me never talk to you, cross the street if we're walking towards each other on the sidewalk, and block you everywhere online" - and this was without me doing anything stalkerish, apart from saying I wasn't ready for a committed relationship. Next long-term relationship was mostly-open. I had one rule though - don't screw my roommate. So one night she me/her/him were watching a movie in the living room, and I left early to go to bed. Trusting you say, right? Right. And well.... you see where this is going. In the bunk under me while I slept. She apologizes, I accept her (but don't let her do anything with roommate) and it lasts for a few months until she says "I think we should change our facebook status" - we were "complicated" with a plan to revise to "dating" in a few weeks. So I'm like ok. And she's like oh good, cause I don't want to date you anymore. So I'm dumped, whatever, she drives a few hours to snog me once or twice, and then in the patter of normal emails responds with "I can't talk to you and I'm not telling you why" and the by-now common round of blocking. I think your options are porn or men or hookers. So, um, if you really give up on women, I'm single...
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| Debi
Location: Worcester County, MA Gender: Female Total Likes: 23 likes
| | | Re: I give up on girls < Reply # 7 on 9/16/2008 5:07 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | I think I just figured out most of your problem from your last post. You said you "go out of the way to please them and work hard to maintain them". As much as that sounds like the right thing to do; it will usually work to your disadvantage. Plus you said other people are also telling you thats your problem. People like a bit of a challange, in every situation. If you are pouring it on and working much harder than the other person is, they tend to lose interest. You become boring and unchallanging. Too nice, too accommodating, and too giving will leave you lonely and taken advantage of. Also, to answer your question as to whether or not your controlling or jealous because you don't believe the "just friends" scenario, NO. Your not jealous or controlling. What happened is that you figured out their little secret and their defense to that is usually that your just being jealous, controlling, or blowing things out of proportion. Don't worry; women do like guys like you. But not till their about 40 years old. Start being a half-caring jerk, blow them off a few times, use the "just friends" story when talking about other girls and you should be just fine.
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| dirt
Location: Oakland, CA Gender: Male Total Likes: 0 likes
Je suis très aimable et très caustique.
| | | | | Re: I give up on girls < Reply # 10 on 9/16/2008 6:31 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by Debi I think I just figured out most of your problem from your last post. You said you "go out of the way to please them and work hard to maintain them". As much as that sounds like the right thing to do; it will usually work to your disadvantage. Plus you said other people are also telling you thats your problem. People like a bit of a challange, in every situation. If you are pouring it on and working much harder than the other person is, they tend to lose interest. You become boring and unchallanging. Too nice, too accommodating, and too giving will leave you lonely and taken advantage of. Also, to answer your question as to whether or not your controlling or jealous because you don't believe the "just friends" scenario, NO. Your not jealous or controlling. What happened is that you figured out their little secret and their defense to that is usually that your just being jealous, controlling, or blowing things out of proportion. Don't worry; women do like guys like you. But not till their about 40 years old. Start being a half-caring jerk, blow them off a few times, use the "just friends" story when talking about other girls and you should be just fine.
| Ain't that the truth. Hence my advice on dating an older girl.
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| dirt
Location: Oakland, CA Gender: Male Total Likes: 0 likes
Je suis très aimable et très caustique.
| | | | | Re: I give up on girls < Reply # 12 on 9/16/2008 9:20 PM > | Reply with Quote
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| He seemed to move among very delicate objects, on ground mined with goodness knows what precious explosives. ~ Jean Cocteau |
| Shael
Location: Witherbee, NY. Gender: Female Total Likes: 7 likes
Baaaaah.
| | | Re: I give up on girls < Reply # 18 on 9/18/2008 12:04 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by Lexi For the record, we're not all batshit insane.
| Amen Lexi, you are preaching to the choir on that one. I usually am not crazy unless it's PMS or during said monthly event, so Sam cautiously avoids me for a few days during that. I think once women hit either the late 20's or early 30's, the insanity usually begins to go out of their systems. It can happen earlier, but usually by this time, the idea of being an "old maid" sets in. Studies showed at one time that if a woman wasn't married by 30, it's was something like half as likely she'll get married at all as a woman who's 20 to 25. What you need is someone jaded and pissed off at the world, so pissed off that they are sick and tired of playing the games, of the bullshit that both sides in a relationship tend to throw at it. It takes something just short of an epiphany to get to that point. I'm dead serious about this. It does happen, once she realizes that there's nothing she can do, that she's basically painted herself into a corner emotionally, physically, with her job, with her life in general, then women get to the point where the bullshit disappears. Eventually we give up on Prince Charming and take the first frog that comes along that makes us feel better about ourselves and makes it possible for us to make it through the day without murdering someone. It's not settling, believe me, it's just realizing our original standards are set entirely too high and that we realize that there's no perfect out there, only what's comfortable and what works. But it takes this on the part of both people in the relationship. I can say one thing. Most women want a man to be a man, not a puppy dog. Sure, the snuggling is fun, but sometimes, you have to stand up to her, tell her what's wrong and what it takes to make it right for you. Hopefully this makes some sense. I know people will likely disagree with me, but this is from my own personal experience. Shael
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