This is a completely hypothetical situation, really.


Let me give you some background information: girl meets boy, several years ago. girl has boyfriend. girl and boy like each other, but do not act on it. girl and boy remain friends. boy is in a position to where he travels a lot. boy comes back for a visit. the girl is now single. girl and boy hook up,several times. it's more than just sex. boy leaves again. boy calls girl everyday,and talks about how much he misses her and so forth. boy then comes back to stay with her for an undetermined amount of time. boy comes back, and is still into girl. boy and girl have a drunken conversation, the dreaded "What are your intentions" conversation. boy says he doesn't like labels, but tells the girl he would be upset if she got with anyone else. a couple days pass, boy now wants a label. boy asks her to be his girlfriend.

During all this time, the boy and girl are fucking, spending almost every minute of the effing day together, and etc. boy makes girl laugh and smile about 60% of the time, however there is about 40% of the time he's a total douche bag. should the girl suck it up and enjoy that 60% of good time? or should she kick him to the curb knowing he doesn't really have a set place to go? should she go for someone who she doesn't have to "take care of"? should she wait and see if he will change? (ha, change).

Examples of douchebaggry:

• girl invites boy to thanksgiving dinner, he has nowhere else to go. girls parents don't even know boy is semi dating girl, so there would be no awkwardness. boy chooses to sit at Mcdonalds while girl spends thanksgiving with her family.
  
• boy calls ex-girlfriend on GIRL'S cellphone. ex-girlfriend hangs up, girl starts using phone, and boy will not stop asking "Are you done yet?"
  
• girl basically has to pay for EVERYTHING.
  
• boy has an extensive history of drug use, and not much of a real solid plan to fix it, unlike what he said when he was away.
  
• boy has no car, no job, or etc.
  
• boy constantly tells girl things she is doing for him aren't good enough. ie: this food isn't organic enough, somewhere else was better.

good things:

• boy is usually generally very nice to girl
  
• boy makes girl laugh til lakes form under her eyes
  
• boy is very attractive/attracted to girl
  
• boy and girl have a good time when they are together minus all the stressors that real life brings.
  
• boy teaches girl about things she isn't familiar with.
  
• boy is exciting and semi unattainable.

So, i guess my question would be.. is it worth the pain she feels that 40% of the time for something that may not even work out anyway? When there are also several people she has turned down to wait for boy...

edited for maths.

Remember, boys are like buses. Don't run after one, 'cause another will come soon enough.

ditch him.
been there done that.

I believe the phrase is "Dump that zero, and get yourself a hero"

Seriously, though, it sounds like you're already decided that this is not going anywhere long-term. Oh well.

yeah, think about it like this: You stay with him. Where are you going to be in 5 years? 10?

Do you want to commit the rest of your life to this 'person' who's completely hypothetical?

I would hypothetically find a hypothetically better hypothetical person. Hypothetically that is.

I'd hate to tell you what will or won't work, but combining drug problems with dramatic changes in behavior and I think bad problems will come.

Posted by metawaffle Seriously, though, it sounds like you're already decided that this is not going anywhere long-term. Oh well.

my friend has seemingly decided you mean...

Posted by belleZ my friend has seemingly decided you mean...

My mistake! Best wishes for your friend

65% + 45% = 110%...just sayin'

But yeah, if "your friend" is just having fun that's one thing, but if "your friend" is looking for something more then I think it might be best to move on.

Posted by Brind 65% + 45% = 110%...just sayin' But yeah, if "your friend" is just having fun that's one thing, but if "your friend" is looking for something more then I think it might be best to move on.

I EDITED IT.

i miss you in chat.. i mean MY FRIEND MISSES YOU.

Posted by shotgun_mario http://media.ebaum...llxx/curbstomp.jpg

lol,agreed.

Posted by belleZ I EDITED IT. i miss you in chat.. i mean MY FRIEND MISSES YOU.

Yeah, too bad I got banned for something I DIDN'T DO.

Posted by belleZ lol,agreed.

Then why are you at UER asking this hypothetical question? Stomp his hypothetical ass back to the hypothetical curb!

Posted by shotgun_mario Then why are you at UER asking this hypothetical question? Stomp his hypothetical ass back to the hypothetical curb!

You mean, her friend should stomp his hypothetical ass...

Posted by PaExplorations ditch him. been there done that.

i second that.

i would say you're better than that. not that i know you. but you have to have something that makes you happy way more than 60% of the time, and all the reasons to stay with this guy are very superficial when compared to the other 40%. if you are hoping to change the bad things, it probably won't happen. people, generally, don't change very much. they are who they are.

Posted by belleZ boy is exciting and semi unattainable.

And I wouldn't say he is unattainable if he has issues such as these and has no car or job and makes you pay for everything...
you can find a loser like that anywhere. don't sell yourself short.

"not organic enough" ?? That alone is grounds to be dismissed.

Posted by Opheliaism "not organic enough" ?? That alone is grounds to be dismissed.

hahahahaha i second that as well.

Posted by metawaffle You mean, her friend should stomp his hypothetical ass...

I'm pretty sure there were no friends in this one, just a girl

Yeah. Get someone who's good to you at least 90% of the time.

If I had someone dicking me around like that he'd find himself sleeping alone.