And yes, this is the same guy I was posting earlier about.

There is this guy that I have been in love with for almost a year. We are best friends and he loved me too, or so I thought. Turns out he was just leading me on because he was scared to tell me that he didn't love me because he didn't want to hurt me. We were still good friends after that and I accepted the fact. All along there is this girl that he has been in love with for 2 years. They were not going out for those 2 years because they went out before and it didn't work out.

He also sits at my lunch table. Fast forward a few weeks later, and I learned at the lunch table that he is going out with that girl. I would not have been that much upset, except for that fact that he had been leading me on and and told me that he didn't love me only a few weeks ago. The other problem is that girl is a bitch. I'm pretty sure she does drugs, and she has slept around. She is very volatile and it doesn't take much to make her blow. She is bi polar and refuses to take any pills. She hits him and slaps him, sometimes playfully, and sometimes enough to hurt him. She is also a liar. She has been described as the kind who will do anything to get a guy's attention. This girl also doesn't like me. The guy also seems to get annoyed with her from time to time.

I still have feelings for the guy and my friends think that their relationship will not work out. I think that they will fight a lot. The guy is really sweet and I don't know how someone as sweet as him can go out with a bitch such as herself. They are total opposites. Do you think that when the guy starts going out with her, he will tire of her bi polar crap and they will eventually break up? If it will happen, how long will it take? Will it happen at all?

Live your own life and find your own happiness. Don't rely on other people to fulfill you. They never will.

Also, no one likes an insecure, perpetually petulant, overly worried person. People like confidence, nothing is sexier than encountering someone who is sure of themselves and would accept someone else into their life as a nice companion, not an end-all of their existence. This is particularly true of many a guy; it scares them off.

Let the guy go. Don't fret about this 'bitch'. Worry about yourself. Find your happiness, and don't find it in other people. That happens naturally, it isn't to be sought.

You clearly have many issues of your own to sort out, and you won't make a fair partner to anyone until you do.

Posted by hydrotherapy Live your own life and find your own happiness. Don't rely on other people to fulfill you. They never will.

True words.

As to whether he'll break up with her, it entirely depends on the guy. For all you know he could go on helping her to work out her problems, and they could have a long and fulfilling relationship. There's not much point in hanging on, waiting for them to break up.

Posted by monster . . .

It's so cute, you have so much to learn. Ditto with what hydrotherapy said. Work on yourself as much as you can. You are not looking for someone to make you happy, instead you are enjoying the influx of people passing through your life. It's a game, its a path, except it has no end.

This is a great learning experience, there will be more as well. One thing I have point out is that you would do well not to judge others to harshly. There is no point to think about this girls negative characteristics. The only time you should judge others is when you are deciding to let a person into your own life. I think I called attention to the fact that love just simply exists between people. The rest is choice. The other side of this choice is that it shows the mindset of said individual. ie he chose a "crazy, druggie chick" over you. It's what he needed to learn at this point. Remember this, his choice of her over you says nothing of you, and everything of him.

On a more personal level, you should research co-dependence. You sound like you have a touch of it, which is not a dig in the least because, as they say "takes one to know one".

Best of luck wee one.

If he told you he didn't love you and regarded you as a friend, even if it was only a few weeks ago, I don't see what your deal is. It seems that though he was leading you on, it was fairly one sided.

Try, try, try again.

Of course they will break up (my guess is 5-7 months), but that doesn't mean he will go for you. He seems to be drama-seeking (I forget what its called, but people can get addicted to conflict in relationships) with a taste for trash, and you seem not to be trash. My advice is to forget about him and hook up after college.

Posted by monster Re: The guy I like might has well of as well have just dumped me.

Posted by monster There is this guy that I have been in love with for almost a year.

No.

Posted by monster he loved me too

No.

Posted by monster he was just leading me on

No.

Posted by monster We were still good friends after that and I accepted the fact.

No.

Posted by monster All along there is this girl that he has been in love with

No.

Posted by monster She has been described as the kind who will do anything to get a guy's attention.

So have you.

Posted by monster Do you think that when the guy starts going out with her, he will tire of her

Are you asking if he will beat her to death with a tire iron?
Perhaps.

I think you toss around the term "love" way too easily.

Posted by Brind I think you toss around the term "love" way too easily.

Au contraire, I think she is not using it enough. That's because she has yet to define it is a way that makes sense. True love, like what all the chick flicks go on about doesn't exist. There is never going to be just one person for you.

Posted by dirt Au contraire, I think she is not using it enough. That's because she has yet to define it is a way that makes sense. True love, like what all the chick flicks go on about doesn't exist. There is never going to be just one person for you.

True, you're not going to love just one person, and I wasn't trying to imply that. However, from all the posts I've seen from her in this forum, any time there's any romantic interest or crush, she immediately calls it "love".

It will all make sense as soon as you realize that "monster" is just one of blackhawk's accounts.

Posted by MutantMandias Are you asking if he will beat her to death with a tire iron?

Making such suggestions, you might has well of swung the iron yourself.

Posted by Brind True, you're not going to love just one person, and I wasn't trying to imply that. However, from all the posts I've seen from her in this forum, any time there's any romantic interest or crush, she immediately calls it "love".

And you are telling me it's not?

I see it all the time. People place so much attention on true love(an ideal), that they ignore love in-itself(the real thing).

True that a crush is not true love, because it doesn't exist. But to say that there was no love there is absurd. Without it, they would just be strangers, not knowing of each others existence.

Posted by dirt And you are telling me it's not? I see it all the time. People place so much attention on true love(an ideal), that they ignore love in-itself(the real thing). True that a crush is not true love, because it doesn't exist. But to say that there was no love there is absurd. Without it, they would just be strangers, not knowing of each others existence.

Are you implying that there's no middle ground between not knowing someone at all and being in love with them?

Posted by Brind Are you implying that there's no middle ground between not knowing someone at all and being in love with them?

I think he's saying that love is a gray area, rather than black & white, like a lot of people who talk down to lesser-experienced people about love, and they not knowing what it is, and that there is no 'perfect' single match love (which I agree)

Posted by Brind Are you implying that there's no middle ground between not knowing someone at all and being in love with them?

What I'm saying is that love is what draws people together, it is the that sense of affinity. It's the basis of all relationships, and from there, it's all just choice and preference.

Posted by shotgun_mario I think he's saying that love is a gray area, rather than black & white, like a lot of people who talk down to lesser-experienced people about love, and they not knowing what it is, and that there is no 'perfect' single match love (which I agree)

Are you implying that I'm being self-righteous?

Posted by dirt Are you implying that I'm being self-righteous?

not in the least

p.s. what's so wrong about sex and drugs?

Posted by MutantMandias It will all make sense as soon as you realize that "monster" is just one of blackhawk's accounts.

Oh snap.

Posted by MutantMandias It will all make sense as soon as you realize that "monster" is just one of blackhawk's accounts.

In hopes that he could collect nude photos of underage boys?