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Esoterik
Location: Kansas City Gender: Male Total Likes: 122 likes
| | | Re: Gf's internet bullshit < Reply # 5 on 1/20/2009 5:06 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by G to the Race Well, if she loves you and you know she's just having fun, why let it bother you? You should share in her fun, get an account, start messing w/her online.
| Nah, in my frame of reference, I would only use social networking sites if I was single and wanting to find someone to meet. Chatting and flirting with someone I had no intention of meeting is to me a waste of time. Now her profiles all say she is in a relationship but hey, it's the internet, almost all messages she gets from guys probably go something like "Ay wat's gud ma, you lookin reel gud all up on dem internetz, send me yo pictures, u got IM?" or some such bullshit.
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| Debi
Location: Worcester County, MA Gender: Female Total Likes: 23 likes
| | | Re: Gf's internet bullshit < Reply # 7 on 1/20/2009 5:51 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Does she know its bugging you? Maybe if she does, she'll tone it down a bit, or even stop it entirely; you know, out of respect for your relationship and all . . . . I have guy friends that I keep in touch with over the internet and they are absolutely just my friends. There was only one that I would talk to on the phone, and when my bf said he was uncomfortable with that, I stopped. With that being said, there was also a guy that just started out as my friend, and when all was said and done I ended up crazy about the guy. Technology can definately be a vehicle for a relationships demise. Don't be too laid back about the internet chatting. You know the old excuse of "We were just friends, I didn't mean for it to happen, it just did." Which at that point I'd be thinking about Option C.
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| KublaKhan
Location: Edinburgh, Scotland Total Likes: 207 likes
With Satan, it's always gimmie, gimmie.
| | | Re: Gf's internet bullshit < Reply # 10 on 1/22/2009 12:39 AM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by Esoterik This talking stuff works........
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| Emma Peel
Location: Ahowah Gender: Female Total Likes: 4 likes
Ghosting you like you've never been ghosted before.
| | | Re: Gf's internet bullshit < Reply # 14 on 3/17/2009 3:52 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by Esoterik Ignore is the reasonable, rational response. Isn't it a matter of respect? And speaking of respect, no I didn't go digging thru her cell phone. It was left out in plain sight w/ her "top 5" contacts on the screen. It's just.....irritating.
| I know EXACTLY how you feel. Sorry for responding to this thread so late, but nobody so far seems to understand WHY you feel this way. There are two things a person needs to know about me before we begin dating: 1) I don't like surprises. AT ALL. 2) I LOVE boundaries, I like them to have big, red, flashy signs. Boundaries everywhere. They both have to do with safety and predictability of a relationship and persons' behavior. You at least seem similar to me on the boundaries and predictability stuff. Your problem here is NOT that you think she'd cheat on you, but rather that she is not clearly defining a boundary to someone else. It opens up a world of unpredictability with both her behavior and that guy's. Plus, I hear you feeling a lack of respect for the relationship. A boyfriend said to me, once, "But I don't want to hurt her feelings," and my response to that is, "So are her feelings more important than mine?" Because that is ultimately what it comes down to. Because otherwise, AT WHAT POINT IS HE GOING TO LAY DOWN THE BOUNDARY TO HER?? YOU need to talk to her and tell her this. YOU need to tell her that you feel unimportant. You need to tell her that one of your needs is to have boundaries clearly defined. It is COMPLETELY FINE TO SAY, "One of my needs is for you to clearly define boundaries to other people. If you choose not to, know that I am going to have feelings about that." ...Unfortunately, you can't change a person. Very unfortunately. But you CAN tell them what YOUR NEEDS are, and hope that they are able to compensate for them: Just as you should be able to do, for her. And also... I don't think she's necessarily an attention whore. Maybe she's a people-pleaser: They frequently have a hard time saying "no" and laying down boundaries for people (say, on the internet), while they are able to justify saying "no" to you... The only problem is that they're doing it COMPLETELY BACKWARDS.
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