Posted by theRequ13m He hates the idea of marriage. He's against the religious, legal, and political aspect of it all. He thinks its a gross waste of money for a day's celebration when you should love and cherish your mate the same way every day regardless of whether they are a "wife", "husband", or whatever. He thinks it's great for couples who follow the conventional method of things and even does wonders for some, but he's not one of those people.
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YES I have to agree with him. Strongly. But marriage upsets me not because of what it inherently is, but what most people make it...so I would not necessarily be opposed to getting married eventually myself. It should
never be thought of as "taking your relationship to a new level" or used as a way to make yourself feel more secure in a relationship. It accomplishes neither. IMO, A marriage should be viewed as two things:
1. A utilitarian legal contract
2. An excuse for a really big party with lots of alcohol and a DJ (that's me)
I work in the wedding industry (I DJ tons of wedding receptions and I also occasionally do wedding photography; and in the process of doing either of these I often become very involved in the wedding planning process) and it's so sickening to me to see the way that a lot of people think of marriage. Some people seem to think of it as a way to "solidify" a relationship. If your relationship hasn't already been solidified then you should NOT be getting married. Some people even think of it as a way to prevent their partner from cheating or leaving them. Again, they shouldn't be getting married. Some people seem to think of it as a rite of passage into adulthood; like you can't be a real person until you find your "other half"; if you are not a mature adult with your own identity and life independent of your partner, and capable of going on without your partner, then you shouldn't be getting married.