Once upon a time I was friends with this girl.


She dated somebody I introduced her two. With 3 different people. Over the course of a year.

She has been "seeing" a guy since, but fucking some other guy on the side. She called me in a panic because some girl called "her guy" to hang out. I told her as it is (ie. that she doesn't have a leg to stand on because she has been sleeping around and gave this poor guy HPV), but I was *nice* and *politically correct* about it.

...before I knew it, she called me up with crazy accusations and got a ton of mutual friends involved.


Fuck my life.

I had it right the first time: do not make friends with girls.

Posted by jukebox fuckup Once upon a time I was friends with this girl. She dated somebody I introduced her two. With 3 different people. Over the course of a year. She has been "seeing" a guy since, but fucking some other guy on the side. She called me in a panic because some girl called "her guy" to hang out. I told her as it is (ie. that she doesn't have a leg to stand on because she has been sleeping around and gave this poor guy HPV), but I was *nice* and *politically correct* about it. ...before I knew it, she called me up with crazy accusations and got a ton of mutual friends involved. Fuck my life. I had it right the first time: do not make friends with girls.

all the shit she is causing, will come back to her and she'll get hers.

Posted by logtec all the shit she is causing, will come back to her and she'll get hers.

Well, I suppose it *sorta* came back.. she got HPV... and has a drug arrest on her record because she drove to some state college campus on 4/20 to smoke up at night. Who the fuck does that? Might as well of painted a bulls-eye on her car. Dipshit

Seriously though, I never tried to be anything but a balance of honest & nice.


What do I get?

Posted by jukebox fuckup I had it right the first time: do not make friends with girls.

Yeah that's why the vast majority of my friends are guys. My social life is drama free Girls also terrify me.

You can still be friends with girls; just not lying, cheating c#nts.

Posted by jukebox fuckup Seriously though, I never tried to be anything but a balance of honest & nice. What do I get?

Another day older and deeper in debt?

Posted by jukebox fuckup Seriously though, I never tried to be anything but a balance of honest & nice. What do I get?

i think in your specific case, the reason that honest and nice screwed you is because she wanted you to lie to her, to be on her side, and say "there, there" and how the other girl was a cunt and in the wrong...in short, she wanted a superficial friend, not a real one who is honest even when the truth is going to hurt. she probably knew that you were right, couldn't handle it, and tried to make you into the bitch to your friends to feel better about herself. if it doesn't work itself out and your friends don't believe you in the end, then they are shitty friends anyway (i'm not saying it doesn't hurt to have them treat you like this though), and you deserve better!

in my experience, honest and nice has gotten me screwed over a lot, but it has also brought many good things my way...the trick is too keep waiting and breathing. i don't believe in a lot, but i do believe in karma. and just as bad karma is coming back to her with the hpv and the drug charges (and probably more in the future, it just takes time), good karma will come back to you eventually as well...

Posted by hydrotherapy Another day older and deeper in debt?

Saint Peter don't you call me 'cause I can't go
I owe my soul to the company whore...

Yes, karma. I love karma.

Believe in it - its real.

Posted by Debi Yes, karma. I love karma. Believe in it - its real.

Yup...everything you do comes back and kicks you in the crotch 9 times.

Shael

Posted by Debi Yes, karma. I love karma. Believe in it - its real.

I want to believe... but Josef Mengele did die peacefully on a beautiful beach in Brazil as an old man.



At any rate, she has at least one STD and has slept with 3 guys that I know of in the past 6 months. I'm sure they gotta rack up sooner or later... right?

The guy that she's "with" now (when she is not fucking the other 2 guys) confided in me last month and told me that he panicked when he first fucked her because he was aware of how many guys she had sex with and was terrified that he got a disease from her. Technically he did (HPV).

My last words to her?

"Your friends may think I'm a bitch, but all of my friends think your a whore. And your friends think your a whore AND a druggie AND out of control. What does this say?"

(She has always had longstanding "problems" with her friends telling her to stop sleeping around and partying all the time)

My co worker was friends with a girl like this before, lets call the girl Angela. We all told her she needed to get rid of Angela, that she was no friend. And I told Angela that she needed to stop acting the way she did or she would get beaten, raped, and probably killed. She got beaten, didn't listen to me still. Got raped, still won't listen. I warned her, I tried to help, she does it to herself. I'm not going to stress over this girl. My coworker however, did stress over her. Lord knows why, because Angela was a terrible friend to my co worker.

In the end, the abusive guy who beat angela and who had in past threatened me and tried to attack me (didn't go far as I put a quick end to it and he ran off)...decided to attack my co worker.

My coworker called the cops and now refuses to even see to Angela.


In short, drop the bitch before she gets you hurt.




And as for hpv...I wouldn't act like she is dirt for it. About 80% of everyone posting here, and everyone you meet, has/will have/has had it (you could be one of them). Most of them will never know. Most strains do nothing. Few hurt men at all. It's women that have to worry the most. And don't think a condom will protect you from it. They wont. I encourage everyone to go get the vaccination. It's expensive, but it's a lot better than cervical cancer...most of which is caused by hpv.

And hpv doesn't show up on most normal std/sti tests.

Scary sneaky little cancer causing thing.

Posted by Dresden My co worker was friends with a girl like this before, lets call the girl Angela. We all told her she needed to get rid of Angela, that she was no friend. And I told Angela that she needed to stop acting the way she did or she would get beaten, raped, and probably killed. She got beaten, didn't listen to me still. Got raped, still won't listen. I warned her, I tried to help, she does it to herself. I'm not going to stress over this girl. My coworker however, did stress over her. Lord knows why, because Angela was a terrible friend to my co worker. In the end, the abusive guy who beat angela and who had in past threatened me and tried to attack me (didn't go far as I put a quick end to it and he ran off)...decided to attack my co worker. My coworker called the cops and now refuses to even see to Angela. In short, drop the bitch before she gets you hurt. And as for hpv...I wouldn't act like she is dirt for it. About 80% of everyone posting here, and everyone you meet, has/will have/has had it (you could be one of them). Most of them will never know. Most strains do nothing. Few hurt men at all. It's women that have to worry the most. And don't think a condom will protect you from it. They wont. I encourage everyone to go get the vaccination. It's expensive, but it's a lot better than cervical cancer...most of which is caused by hpv. And hpv doesn't show up on most normal std/sti tests. Scary sneaky little cancer causing thing.

God damn... that is nuts about Angela! Many girls seem to repeatedly walk back to somebody that is bad. Really really bad.

On HPV... ok.. maybe it is a bit of a cheap shot, but I'm sure most people would have an idea who she got HPV from. She does not. Maybe she would if she did not make a habit to fuck multiple guys a month, or if she wasn't cheating all the time, she would have a clue as to who she fucked.

The guy she has been cheating on as of recent actually confessed to me last week that when he first had sex with her, he immediately felt disgusted because he had an idea of how many guys she slept with. He was terrified he got an STD from her.. and well, if you count HPV, he kinda did.

There's always just holding hands and abstaining from sex.

Posted by jukebox fuckup I had it right the first time: do not make friends with girls.

amen. girls are lying, cheating, backstabbing bitches. all they wanna do is make drama, talk about you behind your back and steal your boyfriend. lesson learned, no?

I forgot to tell you guys the best part.

she accused me of looking down on her because she is in college, got arrested in the past, and smokes pot.

...what the fuck?

If I didn't know any better, I'd think she is jealous because I'm in grad school, and she is taking classes at the community college to maintain her insurance (she got suspended from her state university after trying to smoke on 4/20. Did I mention she never lived on campus and was born and raised 15 minutes away from the uni?) I NEVER rubbed it in her face. Ever.

Posted by jukebox fuckup I had it right the first time: do not make friends with girls.

QFT.

Seriously, though, I had a similar situation. A good friend of mine had been seeing a guy I'd told her multiple times to break it off with. The relationship turned abusive (according to her...long story), and he "pressured" her to sleep with him on several occasions. She would call me up in tears wanting to talk, and I'd give her the obvious advice...dump his ass and move on. Once she talked to me, she would go back to her routine as if nothing happened. Finally they broke up, and from then on she milked the experience for all it was worth, always playing the poor, innocent victim.

Finally I got sick of it and told her she could have broken up with him at any time and she was stronger than that, so therefore some of the fault was found in her. Heaven forbid I should even SUGGEST that she have ANYTHING to do with her own suffering. Next thing I knew I was a horrible person that was "worldly" and a "bad influence." (This was before I was into UE, mind you). She went around spreading rumors about me and a bunch of friends to her family and anyone who would listen. This was after we graduated high school. Seriously...who the fuck does that?

So yeah, I've adopted the practice of being very, very careful when making friends with other chicks.

Posted by jukebox fuckup I forgot to tell you guys the best part. she accused me of looking down on her because she is in college, got arrested in the past, and smokes pot. ...what the fuck?

"No I look down on you because it is hard to look up at someone when they are always laying on their back."

Posted by snap228 QFT. Seriously, though, I had a similar situation. A good friend of mine had been seeing a guy I'd told her multiple times to break it off with. The relationship turned abusive (according to her...long story), and he "pressured" her to sleep with him on several occasions. She would call me up in tears wanting to talk, and I'd give her the obvious advice...dump his ass and move on. Once she talked to me, she would go back to her routine as if nothing happened. Finally they broke up, and from then on she milked the experience for all it was worth, always playing the poor, innocent victim. Finally I got sick of it and told her she could have broken up with him at any time and she was stronger than that, so therefore some of the fault was found in her. Heaven forbid I should even SUGGEST that she have ANYTHING to do with her own suffering. Next thing I knew I was a horrible person that was "worldly" and a "bad influence." (This was before I was into UE, mind you). She went around spreading rumors about me and a bunch of friends to her family and anyone who would listen. This was after we graduated high school. Seriously...who the fuck does that? So yeah, I've adopted the practice of being very, very careful when making friends with other chicks.

Haaa.. years ago, I introduced the girl that inspired this thread to a friend of mine, and they started going out. They went out for two years, and she cheated on him for at least half of the relationship. I kept telling her to dump his ass for a year straight before she had the balls to do it...

People she cheated on this guy of 2 years with that I can think of off the top of my head:
- A co-worker at AT&T that was still in high school. She went down on him at work a few times.
- Another co-worker at AT&T that had a live-in fiancé. She routinely boinked him for months.
-Her drug dealer.

I don't get it. How does being worldly=bad?