How hard can it be?

Then, if it's not, why am I so worked up on it and don't say anything to her for 10 minutes while cycling next to her?

Tijmen

Been through the same thing when I asked Shutterbug out the first time.

Just ask her out. Start with something simple (ie coffee) and work from there. She could be interested in you as well.

Thx. I know this. However, It's still hard.

You need to make up a rule for yourself, like the 5 second rule. It's a lot like dropped food. You need to go talk to her within five seconds after your first chance. This way, your body doesn't have a chance to get nervous on you.

No idea, I've honestly never "asked out" anyone before. Just usually goes like we hang out a lot and then end up lip locking or something upon which time it's mutually agreed that we are a "couple".

Posted by MindHacker You need to make up a rule for yourself, like the 5 second rule. It's a lot like dropped food. You need to go talk to her within five seconds after your first chance. This way, your body doesn't have a chance to get nervous on you.

What's the 5sec rule?

That would be a good idea, but the first contact usually is in class. I do need a little privacy

Posted by IIVQ What's the 5sec rule? That would be a good idea, but the first contact usually is in class. I do need a little privacy

No you dont! That's what will make her feel comfortable. Don't "corner" her or make sure you two are alone, to me, personally, that would feel even weirder. Befriend her first and foremost, even if you just want to go on a date with her, which might have the possibility to be something more in the future.

And I would say play the friend thing for a few meetings, and then like after you two share a good laugh at something, just look at her and casually ask her if she would like to get some coffee or something after class, or tomorrow, whenever. This will make it seem like it's something you've thoughtfully considered for a reasonable amount of time, which will translate to her as you being level headed. She'll feel flattered and a bit surprised, and even if you get turned down (knock on wood) of course still be friendly with her.

Good luck!

Posted by LauraBeth No you dont! That's what will make her feel comfortable. Don't "corner" her or make sure you two are alone, to me, personally, that would feel even weirder. Befriend her first and foremost, even if you just want to go on a date with her, which might have the possibility to be something more in the future. And I would say play the friend thing for a few meetings, and then like after you two share a good laugh at something, just look at her and casually ask her if she would like to get some coffee or something after class, or tomorrow, whenever. This will make it seem like it's something you've thoughtfully considered for a reasonable amount of time, which will translate to her as you being level headed. She'll feel flattered and a bit surprised, and even if you get turned down (knock on wood) of course still be friendly with her. Good luck!

Seconded. The girl knows her shit.

There's no point in getting nervous or trying to ask her "just right" or dragging this out for a long time to get to know her better. If you've spent more than 5 minutes around this chick, she's already decided whether you're in the potential friend or date category. They all do that.

Just text her if you're that nervous about it. She's already made her decision. You're just finding out the answer.

Posted by IIVQ What's the 5sec rule?

If you drop food on the floor, you have 5 seconds to pick it up before the germs/dirt can get to it. It doesn't really make sense, but people do it all the time.

Posted by MindHacker If you drop food on the floor, you have 5 seconds to pick it up before the germs/dirt can get to it. It doesn't really make sense, but people do it all the time.

It's an America thing. Do what Dirt and LauraBeth said.

Make it casual and in a public setting. If you corner her it'll be uncomfortable for her and make her feel pressured.

Something like "Hey, I was going to grab a cup of coffee after class. Care to join me?" instead of "Can I buy you a cup of coffee later?"

Posted by MindHacker If you drop food on the floor, you have 5 seconds to pick it up before the germs/dirt can get to it. It doesn't really make sense, but people do it all the time.

Ah that. Mythbusters have debunked that long ago.

Others... Thanks for the tips. I'll let you know the results. If any

Posted by IIVQ What's the 5sec rule?

http://www.pickupg...GUIDE/3seconds.htm

Posted by DJ Craig http://www.pickupg...GUIDE/3seconds.htm

What a joke.... waaaay too much thought has gone into that stupid rule. Please note that at the bottom the author is offering up a tip while slipping in "I used Mystery's 3 second rule approach (which I rely on heavily)"

He relies on it HEAVILY? like....you do this really often and you're still contributing to a website called "pickupguide.com" inferring that this tactic doesn't work at all?

it's kind of creepy and the only thing that article is right about is that her stalker alarm will go off.

Posted by LauraBeth it's kind of creepy and the only thing that article is right about is that her stalker alarm will go off.

Word to this. The NY subway is an EXCELLENT place for young bucks to both practice the 3 second rule AND pop out of nowhere! Win for all! Except the poor woman now pinned at the end of a car with nowhere to go while intrepid young manbeast used the 3 second rule and blurts out something along the lines of "Man, your hair sure is shiny."

Posted by LauraBeth What a joke.... waaaay too much thought has gone into that stupid rule. Please note that at the bottom the author is offering up a tip while slipping in "I used Mystery's 3 second rule approach (which I rely on heavily)" He relies on it HEAVILY? like....you do this really often and you're still contributing to a website called "pickupguide.com" inferring that this tactic doesn't work at all? it's kind of creepy and the only thing that article is right about is that her stalker alarm will go off.

Haha you gotta remember, people will use different pick up lines for different types of girls. If you're going for the dumb bimbo, all you need to do is gell up your hair, get a fake tan, and talk about how you have a huge monster cock that the bitchez love. If you're going for the cute, intelligent, nerdy type go to a book store and spark up a conversation based on a book she's looking at.





Soooo... wanna go for coffee sometime?

Posted by Oryx If you're going for the dumb bimbo, all you need to do is gell up your hair, get a fake tan, and talk about how you have a huge monster cock that the bitchez love.

http://www.youtube...atch?v=4JMOh-cul6M

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Posted by LauraBeth a website called "pickupguide.com"

That web site is mos def full of all kinds of bullshit. ALL kinds! But there is lots of good information mixed in there if you don't take it too literally. I certainly wouldn't approach a random chick on the subway and say something like "man, your hair sure is shiny"! lol...

But it is very true that if you're approaching any person that you're interested in, in any context (NOT necessarily a stranger) the longer you spend thinking about it, the more nervous you will become and he or she will pick up on that.

But...yeah...I certainly didn't mean by posting that link to say "hey, do everything this web site says because it's all right!"...

Posted by White Rabbit There's no point in getting nervous or trying to ask her "just right" or dragging this out for a long time to get to know her better. If you've spent more than 5 minutes around this chick, she's already decided whether you're in the potential friend or date category. They all do that. Just text her if you're that nervous about it. She's already made her decision. You're just finding out the answer.

wr, that is epic. i like u. im stunnd that you are not banned.

btw back on topic
for what its worth, just be your self. if that is not going to get it done than she wasnt right and thats that.