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Location: La Sud-Est du cité majeur du North-Holland (Bijlmer), .NL Gender: Male Total Likes: 4 likes
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| | | | | | Richer than my friends < on 11/8/2009 5:04 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Hi. I'm 26, I've finished a university bachelor, worked a full-time job for 3 years, bought myself an apartment. Recently I decided to quit my jobs for 3 days (keeping the job for 2 days), start a new study (Civil Engineering). My old friends of my age all have a similar course of life, except that they don't start a 2nd study. However, here in the university I'm sitting between 18, 19, 20-year olds, who just live on their own for 3 months now. Their monthly income is usually around EUR 750/month, from the government, their partners and sometimes a small student job. I earn 1200 from my job, 250 from the government (because I'm student) and 700 in rent from my apartment I rent out. Off course, I also have a little higher costs than most students, the apartment I rent out costs me 650, the one I live in 550 (most student rooms are about 200 euro) etc. But, compared to my fellow students, I'm quite wealthy. No problem - they'll have the same income I had when working full time 3 years after they finish their study. However, my problem is that I don't want to show around my wealth, but I notice that I do so anyway. For example, when someone said he bought a coat and 2 pairs of shoes, and had not so much money left for the month, I said that I had my paying account empty too, but then I got 250 euro out of my savings. He didn't have a strange reaction or so, but I later felt rather embarrassed I said that, because most students won't have a phat (or even any) savings account to get money out of. By the way, I don't show off my money with expensive gadgets or clothing - in fact I hardly buy stuff, so I can put a lot of money in my savings, usually somewhere around 400 euro a month. I don't want to lie about my wealth, but money is a big theme for students, so I happen to get into conversations about this occasionally, and I don't want to be known as "the rich guy". Anyone has any experience with somehow feeling embarrassed by being more privileged* (financially or otherwise) than others? Tijmen * privileged: I do have parents who supported me financially with my previous study, but the last 3 years I haven't had any financial support from them, and my savings account is all self-built, so I earned all the money I speak about myself.
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Location: La Sud-Est du cité majeur du North-Holland (Bijlmer), .NL Gender: Male Total Likes: 4 likes
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| | | | | | Re: Richer than my friends < Reply # 3 on 11/8/2009 8:35 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by MrMusik Just do not talk about money. It is one thing to cordially engage in an agreement that expenses are high. But it is probably undesirable to make comments about your own financial situation.
- It is none of their business that you even have a savings account.
- It is none of their business that you have 2 apartments.
- If your rental apartment costs you 650/month and you are making 700/month, you are not charging enough as 50/month will not cover you if something goes wrong. Unless you were trying to say that you are charging 1350/month for the apartment and thus have 700/month as income after you spend the 650 to pay for it.
- Do not mention anything to them about any of your holdings or income.
- You are at a different point in your life than they are.
| Maybe I shouldn't have asked for advice in an mostly north American forum, as ethics of discussing money and income vary widely, even per country in the case of Europe. As a student, I can hardly evade money talks - in fact I like to discuss it but don't usually start the discussions myself with these friends (for reasons stated in my original post). So while your last bullet point is very valid, points 1, and 4 are hard to pass on about, unless I'm totally mute about it. But it's not in the informed discussion where the problem is but usually in my casual speech - I just forget to think about some remarks I could just make with my friends who are in the same life period as I am. Tijmen P.S. I am in fact making 83 euro a month "profit" (minus repairs) on the apartment. However, not a lot of things that can majorly break down with a lot of costs as it doesn't have air conditioning and all the heating is still under warranty. Also, the apartment is newly renovated so it could easily do without major maintenance for 3 years. But the main reason for not making more profit is that if I go over the border of 645 euro (the other 65, I was rounding figures a bit, are for heating), I will fall into a different tax regime and have less protection AND less profit after taxes, until I'll rent it out for sums of over 1100 euro, which the apartment isn't worth.
| Posted by MapMan | 18/9/2005 19:25 | Hedy Lamarr made porn? Posted by turbozutek | 20/9/2005 2:29 | Dude, educate us! |
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| | | Re: Richer than my friends < Reply # 5 on 11/8/2009 9:58 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | I was in a similar situation - I went back to school to finish up my degree after working full-time. It does get awkward, to hear about people actually emptying their bank accounts... There's not much you can say besides general things like "ouch, that sucks." - and that's usually all they expect to hear.
Since most of my friends in school were still racking up loans, I just avoided talking about how much I had in any of my accounts. It's not that hard to stick to simple commiseration. Even though I had money, I still hated how much car insurance charged, how fast rent sucks away money, and how much gas costs.
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| | | Re: Richer than my friends < Reply # 13 on 11/14/2009 5:53 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | i've usually been richer than my friends, the only awkwardness comes from me when i (with the best intentions) try to buy dinner, or buy a round of beers, or extend some expression of generosity that is unnecessary. though i'm just trying to be a nice guy, buying everyones dinner or beer without a good cause is flaunting my wealth. then next time, everyone is subconsciously wondering if i'd do it again -- some awkwardness can arise. don't see that this particularly fits in "Relationships" except that in my experience women always want men with money, even if they lie and say they don't care sorry ladies, present company excepted im sure (if you lie i won't argue)
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