maybe everything didnt work out as well as I thought.
He's totally confused about the relationship and doesn't know what to do.
He's lost.
He's never been in a relationship like this and he's having doubts about why we're still together.
I don't know what this could be.

Have any of you ever experienced anything like this? If so, what happened?

How do you feel - do you still want to be in the relationship?

yes, very much so.

Talk to him - give him space if he needs it - and if he goes, he's gone. Good luck, and we hope for the best for you two.

You know, as long as he's not wallowing in self-pity or something, it's good that he's sharing his feelings with you. Maybe you're worrying more than you really need to, and he just needs to talk, and process this stuff over time?

Something like this happened to me once.

In the end, it turned out I was worried too much over nothing and he just needed space. However I crowded him pretty bad when he was suppose to be taking some space, ya know? So I think I pretty much scared him away by being too... insecure and worrying too much.

I look back and see that now, so I know not to make the same mistake again.

You know what's bad, I make this mistake all the time.

I think he's got something else other than me going on, when it's just that he wants me to just leave him the fuck alone for a while.

I'm weird anyway and most of my life is like Groundhog Day, I just keep making the same mistake over and over again.

Shael

Having never been in a serious relationship can be a little overwhelming for a first timer. I would make sure he understands how you feel and at the same time give him some space to sort out his feelings. Why he is sorting his feelings out make sure to take an emotion inventory and make sure you are in the relationship for the right reasons.

you two need to sit down somewhere quite, out of the way with no distractions and have a really serious talk. figure out what both of you want and need, then figure out if and how you both can work with each other.

Posted by Shael You know what's bad, I make this mistake all the time. I think he's got something else other than me going on, when it's just that he wants me to just leave him the fuck alone for a while. I'm weird anyway and most of my life is like Groundhog Day, I just keep making the same mistake over and over again. Shael

wow ...i couldnt agree more

definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result!


ugh
as of a 4 months ago i decide to break that habit.....which was easier then i thought, however
how far that will take me...who knows and honestly....ive prioritized and put me back as number one in my life, which is the best you can do!
i wish us all luck

I'm going through the whole thing right now.

Things changed in a way I didn't expect, I don't know who's fault it is, I just feel like it's mine.

I haven't spoken about it around here, since the walls have ears, but let's just say I'm hurting, more than I ever thought I would, and it's like fucking Groundhog Day all over again, I feel like it's my fault, I feel like I did something wrong and I feel shitty over it. Even though he said otherwise, I still feel like I ruined it, like I caused the problems.

So, here I sit, miserable, again. I can't seem to break the pattern. Instead, I end up hurt and alone. I can't seem to fix what's wrong.

Shael

Posted by Shael I'm going through the whole thing right now. Things changed in a way I didn't expect, I don't know who's fault it is, I just feel like it's mine. I haven't spoken about it around here, since the walls have ears, but let's just say I'm hurting, more than I ever thought I would, and it's like fucking Groundhog Day all over again, I feel like it's my fault, I feel like I did something wrong and I feel shitty over it. Even though he said otherwise, I still feel like I ruined it, like I caused the problems. So, here I sit, miserable, again. I can't seem to break the pattern. Instead, I end up hurt and alone. I can't seem to fix what's wrong. Shael

Well you know you're doing something wrong. If you can identify what exactly that is, you're a lot closer to being able to fix it. When you can identify it when (or better yet, the impulse that drives you to do it), then you're golden. Takes an extraordinary amount of will and determination, but if you really want to change it, you can.