so today after "our sunday coffee at biff's" thing we have done since our first date, i asked her if she would mine if we stopped at a pawn shop few abit. she said "only if let me come in with you?"
ok so "we" go inside, i look at some really nice rifles, a few handguns and said "ok, i am done" and she said"ok than lets leave" ok...
so im driving down the hiway headed home... and i start to think "why would she ask if she can come in with me" so i ask her.




"my ex husband would NEVER let me go in with him- made me stay in the car, he would stay in there for over an HOUR!"

who would do this? to his wife no less?

i am so glad she dumped him, and even more happy that she is with me now...
i told her that i really hope i get to meet this jerk sometime so i can punch him right in the face, and call him a dumbass!

what a jackass!

why wouldnt she just walk in there after awhile?
It a free country, she can do what she wants...

What do you think he was doing in there that he didn't want her to see?


what a weird guy, how long did she put up with his crap?

Posted by LauraBeth why wouldnt she just walk in there after awhile? It a free country, she can do what she wants... What do you think he was doing in there that he didn't want her to see? what a weird guy, how long did she put up with his crap?

Well put. Smart lady to dump the jerk!

Sounds like something you'd hear about in a 3rd world nation where women are considered male possessions.

Posted by Mr. Fuzzy Sounds like something you'd hear about in a 3rd world nation where women are considered male possessions.

You mean just like in the dirty southern part of the USA.

I live in Mississippi and I see this kind of bullshit behavior all the time from the people who grew up here and do not know better. She behaves because she doesn't want to get beaten when they get home.

There are dogs that get better treatment than some women around here.

It is not a free country if you do not allow yourself to be free.

i asked her that after we got home... she said she wanted to make her marrage work no matter what. my exwife found out that i found out she was cheating when she got home and all my shit was gone. point made "if you are not happy, move on" if its not working,and you are being treated like a dog, and still trying to make it work(me in mine and her in hers) the other person is not... leave. cherrybomb knows that now. and was also very happy that she was allowd to come in with me, she stood by me for a bit as i looked at the guns, also asked me about why/what i was looking at.(she really dosnt like guns btw) then on the way out she looked at some fishing rods- i know nothing about fishing, so i was no help... i think i am the first "real" relationship after her "big-d" i have alot to live up to, i know that she has a strong distrust of men. we talk, thats a new thing for her. i am very sorry that some of us can ruin it for the rest of us. (that goes for both men and woman btw.) my point is i guess. if you can love someone but they do not or can not love you, move along. there are better choices out there. i know.

edit. let me find out that my girlfriend/mother/sister EVER got beat, its not going to be a good thing. I DO NOT PUT UP WITH THAT SHIT.

Amazing how much better a relationship can be when you spend time together just doing the little things.

I think that is where my marriage went into the crapper. I work 12 hr nights and weekends and he works 8 hr days M-F. We never shopped together or even did simple things like folding the laundry. We never realized that we could communicate and enjoy time together doing the things we disliked not to mention sharing a car ride to do things that one or the other likes. I do not care to go hunting through a junkyard for car parts but the ride there would have been nice and I could have brought my camera and looked for something to shoot while he looked for parts.

Posted by shellyl Amazing how much better a relationship can be when you spend time together just doing the little things. I think that is where my marriage went into the crapper. I work 12 hr nights and weekends and he works 8 hr days M-F. We never shopped together or even did simple things like folding the laundry. We never realized that we could communicate and enjoy time together doing the things we disliked not to mention sharing a car ride to do things that one or the other likes. I do not care to go hunting through a junkyard for car parts but the ride there would have been nice and I could have brought my camera and looked for something to shoot while he looked for parts.

i dont do juck yards... her ex did- yes she hates it also, i told her that my shit is an 08' nothing in the bone yard for me... dont worry.

btw, they are called starter husband/wife for a reason, very typical for this day and age.

maybe that pawn shop was like the pawn shop from "Pulp Fiction"...?!
zed lives...

but really:
chances are he was doing something he shouldn't have been doing or something he didn't want her to find out about.
-either way don't let it bother you and don't do anything about it, because it has nothing to do with you and its in the past!
as long as you are treating her right then you two should be happy together.

Posted by logtec maybe that pawn shop was like the pawn shop from "Pulp Fiction"...?! zed lives... but really: chances are he was doing something he shouldn't have been doing or something he didn't want her to find out about. -either way don't let it bother you and don't do anything about it, because it has nothing to do with you and its in the past! as long as you are treating her right then you two should be happy together.

thanks. i treat my women very well. since my big d i have found that this is the way to go. if you love them than show it.

I agree with Logtec - her past with him doesn't concern you or your relationship with her now. Don't let it bother you.

And Shellyl is right - the little things like you mentioned can keep a relationship alive. Just interacting as "friends" doing those stupid little things are important.

Well... Her past DOES affect him. As his does her.

There are times when the person I'm with and I have to look back at our pasts to figure out why we have a certain response or behavior. Only if you understand a behavior can you truly feel good about changing it.

It was definitely right for him to ask "why" she had that behavior. And honestly, she will probably end up doing/saying many things that don't make sense to him, and "why" is always a good way to ask. Some people don't REALIZE that they're doing something abnormal, or why they're doing it, until they're asked.

Just saying. Stuff like this WILL come up again, and it is good to ask "why" instead of just resorting to "wow bitch is CRAZY", like many ignorant people do.

Posted by Emma Peel Well... Her past DOES affect him. As his does her. There are times when the person I'm with and I have to look back at our pasts to figure out why we have a certain response or behavior. Only if you understand a behavior can you truly feel good about changing it. It was definitely right for him to ask "why" she had that behavior. And honestly, she will probably end up doing/saying many things that don't make sense to him, and "why" is always a good way to ask. Some people don't REALIZE that they're doing something abnormal, or why they're doing it, until they're asked. Just saying. Stuff like this WILL come up again, and it is good to ask "why" instead of just resorting to "wow bitch is CRAZY", like many ignorant people do.

^ Agreed 100%

Yes, I agree that it does AFFECT them. But it shouldn't be his concern and he shouldn't let it rattle his cage so much.

What matters is that the past is the past and he has her now. Of course there is always some residue we bring with us from past relationships; but we shouldn't make it too much of an important part of our current relationship. Just makes it too hard to move forward.

I agree that he had every right to ask her "why". But getting so pissed about the way she was treated is just taking up too much space in his head.