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zipper
Location: Tampa, FL Gender: Female Total Likes: 2 likes
| | | am i overthinking this? < on 5/3/2010 11:39 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | So... ok I need to know if I am just being a chick and overthinking this or being on target, here is the deal: I am an emotional person being female and all, but I am really good about seeing the other persons side of things and I always tend to feel bad afterwards like I did something wrong. Today, was a rough day for both me and my boyfriend. He of course has a lot on his mind with matters that are out of both of our hands now and today when he picked me up from work we went to our favorite bar to have a drink. During this we decided to get food (buffet). Now when I was young I was taught to always get my moneys worth. So I fully intended to, I know he doesn't eat alot so I figured I'd make it quick for him seeing we both had a long day. Not 2 plates in he gets up and says, "I'm going to go sit in the car" Awesome, my boyfriend just left me at the restaurant to eat alone. My selfish side says to be really pissed because the one who won't let me open my own door ever just left me here alone cuz he was ready to pass out. I just want to scream out, IT'S NOT ALWAYS ABOUT YOU! On the other hand my history tells me that I need to understand that he had a hard day, to stop thinking about myself & forgive him because men think in the 'now' and doesn't know better. What would you do?
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| Shael
Location: Witherbee, NY. Gender: Female Total Likes: 7 likes
Baaaaah.
| | | Re: am i overthinking this? < Reply # 6 on 5/4/2010 11:51 AM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Honey, I just got out of something that sounds similar to what you're involved in. One of those "Me me me" things. I'd say something, he'd get pissed off and think that I chose the wrong thing to be annoyed about. When you're in a relationship, males especially, and this is from my own experience, need to think everything they say and do through at least twice, once from their perspective and once from the perspective of the other person, because your actions don't only affect you anymore. Basically, it's what Shellyl said, it's not all about you. If you just try being as inconsiderate of him as he was of you just once, maybe he'll get the hint. Some people though, it takes more than once. In my case, I got sick and tired of putting up with it and blew up over something that I probably shouldn't have, but what it came down to was he would rather spend time with cars and ATV's than with me. All I said was thanks, you managed to buy something else (an ATV) that'll just take more of the very little precious time I have with you so I'll never see you. Needless to say, he ended it there. But what it comes down to is, maybe you need to reevaluate the situation and figure out if this is an isolated incident, then what you want to do about fixing it, or not fixing it. Shael
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| zipper
Location: Tampa, FL Gender: Female Total Likes: 2 likes
| | | Re: am i overthinking this? < Reply # 10 on 5/4/2010 4:54 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by hydrotherapy
This, but don't wait too long to do it or you come off as a nutter that's been clutching onto a pretty unimportant incident for DAYS and only springing it on him now, once you've had time to form some crazy theories and plow through a thousand "what if" scenarios. Now that will make you look crazy, clingy, and slightly neurotic. Either address something right away, or be cool with just letting it go. And actually letting it go, not just pretending.
| Of course I am going to talk to him about it, the incident ocurred with him under the influence of alcohol. 99% of the time he is intoxicated he does not remember the incidences that occur. Now with that said, we got home, he passed out in bed and I had to leave for work this morning and have yet to have a chance to see him. Therein lies the question: Do you confront him at the time of said influences or do you wait until you can sit face to face sober?
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