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hydrotherapy Clever Girl
Location: Circle of Least Confusion Total Likes: 9 likes
RPS is inside all of us
| | | | Re: Need help with a break up < Reply # 2 on 7/25/2010 12:58 AM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Contact her friends, but leave her alone. Any words from you right now will be glimmers of hope, prolonging what is already INSANELY painful for her. That old adage that it takes time? Yeah. Getting your heart broken, or breaking someone's, never gets better, or easier. And not to say 'you did this to her' but you sort of did. You can't push her away with one hand while trying to stroke her hair and tell her it'll be ok with the other, it just doesn't work like that. Let her figure it out. Does she have family, friends? They'll be there for her, when she's ready for them to be. Even if things were stale and even if she wanted out, there's something about human emotion that, when power shifts and you aren't the one to make the call, you struggle against it all the harder. Some people have to hit rock bottom before they really get perspective and pull themselves up, and it's one of the most devastating things to watch, especially if you knew you had a hand in it. Also remember you can't just erase 3 years in a week, or possibly even in months. You left her, she is not your concern anymore, and she can't expect or SHOULD expect you to tell her it will be ok, when you just left. TL;DR: Give her time, space, and leave her alone. She has to suss this out without you.
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| MindHacker
Location: Suburbs of DC Gender: Male Total Likes: 1 like
If you spot a terrorist arrow, pin it to the wall with your shoulder.
| | | Re: Need help with a break up < Reply # 3 on 7/25/2010 3:37 AM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by Shael Talk to her. Help her find something else to throw her energy into.
| Nooooo. Clean break. Clean break. Clean break. Help other people help her find projects, but don't do it yourself. In her effed up state (no offense, anyone could be by a a first dumping) she'll misinterpret it. And it'll be hard, 'cause you'll want to help, but don't do it. I actually had an ex email me years later and say "Thanks for ending it so unequivocally with me." - One of her friends had a drawn out on again off again thing going on, and it just extended and magnified the fallout/consequences. I agree though, it does look like you both knew it was coming. She just has to go through this phase.
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| victoria-
Location: The Great North, Ontario Gender: Female Total Likes: 20 likes
| | | Re: Need help with a break up < Reply # 6 on 7/28/2010 2:50 PM > | Reply with Quote
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