I can understand her thinking on this... making a life altering decision such as changing jobs for a relationship IS a big step. She could be scared you'll spend TOO much time together as well. Its a transition, some peopel dont like change. Hard to say without knowing the situation better but that is what comes to mind

A job is a job is a job. If you want to spend more time with her and can find another job making the same money with better hours that doesn't make you bring work home with you, exhausted and whiny, then go for it.
Relationships need change or they get stale anyways. There's your silver lining.
Just make sure you're doing it for you and the both of you, know what I mean?

i may be way off base here. but, having worked in the same industry for 15 years, an industry full of sex and lust and beer and girls and glitz and strippers and partys and and and..., i can say that i have had a few good g/fs that put up with it, one even became a bartender at my shop. choosing a job for a girl is not the way to go. more over it should be the other way around. if she wants to be with you, she will accept you for who you are and what you do.

Posted by cdevon i may be way off base here. but, having worked in the same industry for 15 years, an industry full of sex and lust and beer and girls and glitz and strippers and partys and and and..., i can say that i have had a few good g/fs that put up with it, one even became a bartender at my shop. choosing a job for a girl is not the way to go. more over it should be the other way around. if she wants to be with you, she will accept you for who you are and what you do.

I don't think it's the job so much as the timing here. whichever one can adapt the most easily while retaining the best wage should theoretically switch jobs while the other, let's say 'less stable' person deals with significantly less change in their life and then everybody gets what they want?
I mean, isn't a relationship about compromise?

Wow - I've been gone WAAAYYYYY too long. Didn't know about Sam and Shael sorry about all that.

But I had kinda the same thing happen to me. My bf of 3 years at the time was thinking of joining the military. He said he wouldn't if I didn't want him to. Well, of course I didn't want him too - but I didn't feel like I should have that much say over his life. If we were engaged and had marriage plans, or even lived together, maybe I would have said more. But I told him to do what he thought was good for HIM.

He took it as me not caring as much as he did, when really it meant that I cared enough to let him do what he wanted to do without interfering.

With that being said, guess I should have looked back to see how long ago this post originated . . . . . duh.

Posted by Yield I mean, isn't a relationship about compromise?

yes it is.

Posted by cdevon yes it is.

i see what you're saying here, she should be willing to deal with the job situation, but I think it's a slightly unrealistic expectation for a couple to just adapt to that much time apart. Not all couples, just some.

years ago, i had a job that took me all over the midwest for weeks at a time, home for a day or two. my gf came out to see me on my jobsites sometimes. many good memories of being woken up at 3 am by her as she came into my hotel room after driving all night after work, just to spend a night or two with me.