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So my biggest problem is that my mother so badly wants to be grandma that probably every day she cries a little b/c she's not. Been married five years and still no kids, and there won't be. How do you tell infant-craving family members that it's just not gonna happen? Plus, I'm the only male in my family, so more pressure, someone's gotta let the (insert surname here) name live on, right? Wrong, as far as I'm concerned. Anyway, just curious as to how other folks handle family.

Personally, I'm thinking about having a vasectomy and not telling anyone until like a month later. I might really have some upset people to deal with though.

Pretend the doctor said you're sterile?

People wanting other people to have kids so they can enjoy them vicariously is ass hell damn selfish.

I have the same problem. My wife and I are constantly bombarded with family members pestering us about children. We continue to use the "maybe in a few years" excuse. I find it incredibly annoying that they can't wrap their heads around the fact that we don't want kids. I have a feeling it's based solely on the fact that instead of enjoying their 20's and 30's doing what ever the hell they felt like doing they were raising children instead. The probably get sick of us telling them about our sweet vacations.

My mom would like me to have children, but she's not a dick about it. You may have to create a momentarily awkward situation by saying, firmly, that you're never having children.

Or, get a vasectomy and have a party after!

Make the appointment, get snipped and then tell them about it. Simple as that.

I wouldn't worry about it, they can piss up a rope if they don't like it. That's the way I feel about it.

I too feel like it's none of their business. I also want to keep a good relationship with my parents, and that would strain the relationship. It was bad enough when we moved away for jobs, went from living a mile away to living six hours away. I am holding out for my sister though. She got a job close to my parents, so her husband will be moving back there too. Once they "settle" they plan on having kids, I am hoping by my sister having them, that satisfies whatever urge my folks have to be grandparents. I'm off the hook and people stop giving me shit about it.

My boyfriend and I are closing in on three years. I'm sure the "when are you getting married and spawning???" questions will begin soon. I'm not looking forward to it.

Posted by Oryx My boyfriend and I are closing in on three years. I'm sure the "when are you getting married and spawning???" questions will begin soon. I'm not looking forward to it.

That's when you either dump the bf or get him neutered. End of discussion.

Sad, I couldn't get Sam fixed. I wish I could have. Maybe we'd have stayed together or something.

Posted by Oryx My boyfriend and I are closing in on three years. I'm sure the "when are you getting married and spawning???" questions will begin soon. I'm not looking forward to it.

My mom is campaigning for us (after 3.5 years) to get married. I'm OK with that. His mom is campaigning HARD for grandkids. Despite saying quite firmly that, no, we DON'T have any interest in kids, there is the insistence that we will "change our minds". Highly doubtful.

It turned a rather enjoyable day into an awkward, guilt-laden trip in a hurry.

We get that from time to time. I decided I'm not going to lie about being sterile or make up some reason for not having kids. I'll just tell the enquiring (aka nosy) ones to mind their own business.