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Samurai Vehicular Lord Rick
Location: northeastern New York Total Likes: 1900 likes
No matter where you go, there you are...
| | | Re: Pretend to be normal < Reply # 6 on 10/10/2010 9:38 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | to be honest, i have been avoiding commenting on this because i really don't know what to say. What could I say? I just wanted to pass this along. On October 7, 2003, my mother lost her husband to a massive heart attack. On that morning, he had asked my mother to marry him and make it official (they had been together for over 10 years) and she had said yes. Less than 4 hours later, he was dead. To say that my mother took this hard is an understatement. She was devastated. Utterly. Even after 7 years, she still has not 'gotten over it' and to be honest i don't think she ever will. I don't think you ever get over losing someone so close to you be it a child, a husband, a wife, a brother or sister. I know people that have said that they are over something, but it's just a facade as they overdrive themselves through their lives. My friend Josh is like that... He lost his younger sister to a drug overdose back in December and even though he says he's ok, i know better. But you don't want to say anything for fear of maybe re-opening a wound that is healing. i don't think as people we're made to get over things. i think we're supposed to remember. it's why we bury our dead and put stone markers where we laid for the rest of eternity. i'm not saying that grief should rule your life, but you should never be happy over a loss. meh. i'm talking in circles again. i hope you know what i mean and i didn't make an ass out of myself again.
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| DiVaMoNKeY
Location: Grundy County, IL Gender: Female Total Likes: 7 likes
I pushed with all my might; I pushed with all my love.
| | | | | | Re: Pretend to be normal < Reply # 7 on 10/11/2010 1:47 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Sam - that is so true. We have instinct built into us, and remembering is too strong of one to ignore. For whatever reason, we've lost sight of that as a society along the way. People who grieve deeply, remember often - are looked upon as people who "need help" or "should talk to someone." We've really gone backwards on the way grief is tolerated and that is sad. My mom lost her second child too, a son who was stillborn in the mid 60s. She never saw him, never held him. They had her baby buried before she was even home from the hospital. When Sawyer died, she held him. She touched him. She saw who he was. It was closure for her, because of the fucked up way they handled things years ago. But, even she thinks I should put on an act, be happy when I'm really not because that's what she had to do. It's been difficult to explain to her that I will do and not do what I want. And that's okay.
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