Hey BelleZ:
Guess I was just wondering how things turned out for you.
I think healing is different for everyone. And I know you don't want to hear the "time" thing, but it really is a factor.
I had only one breakup that almost sent me off the planet (thank gawd). What used to kill me was thinking about my ex during all the new free time I had after we split up. Finding stuff to occupy that time helped; the problem is that I really didn't want to do anything. But after a while, I did notice that I got more and more interested in going out, and it did help.
I didn't try to replace him with somebody else; but I did indeed flirt for the hell of it and found that the attention did help my bruised ego some.
Next thing you know, I noticed that less and less of my day was spent thinking of him. As soon as I realize I was on my way to "recovery", it was easier.
What you shouldn't do is use your left over feelings to try to run into him in places, find reasons to call him, or try to check up on his life via friends. It just makes it worse! And don't punish yourself by letting him take up too much space in your head. I used to say "NOPE, not thinking about him now. I'll think about him later". And then tried not to let it happen.
Allow yourself a short pity-party, but then you'll need to try and create your own future happiness.
Unfortunetly there is no easy cure for this shit - we just need to get through it.