My roommate has three girls fighting over his cock, they are all doing him, and he talks about it like its a problem... yet I struggle to keep the attention of women even in a simple conversation.

FML, its one of those days.

Keep a chin up. Congratulate Sirfucksalot but wait around for the right girl. I know that is little consolation but really he's probably no happier than you.

He's probably miserable hun.

Just because he gets ass doesn't mean it's good or worth it. You have the rest of your life. This dude will probably get some nasty disease or parasite and you'll be happy you aren't him when he has to go see the doc for shots or antibiotics or shave his crotch and take a bath in Rid shampoo.

I know it sounds awful, but believe me, it'll come to you sooner than you think. Not VD or the crabs either...I mean a good girl that's worth it.

maybe this is because you are stressed out or ... something.
but... this is the relationships thread. not the sex thread.
what are you looking for? sex or companionship with sex? your answer is a factor in your resolution.
"he talks about it like its a problem"
how is 3 human beings, who obviously DONT want to have a polygamous thing with him if they are fighting over him (yet he doesnt seem to give too strenuous a shit if he is continuing this, other than its tedious work to keep them non-nagging.. or whatever selfish reason.) NOT a problem, dude?

like i said, maybe you were stressed.. im not insulting you. i understand that watching this situation while you are lonely and perhaps horny amplifies things... but..

keep this focus on yourself.

if he was jumping off a bridge.. you know the rest.
stop thinking of women as women - pretty and smooth, with mammaries and warm holes, and start thinking of them as just regular people. im sure i know they will be easier to talk to.
something i have observed over the course of my teen into adult years, is how alot of ''nice guys'' say that women walk all over them, or arent interested in them. then i see the girls they are after. girls who are so damn pretty, so '''popular''', that society has taken note of this, and they are educated at a young age, having had some people try to take advantage in situations, then others who give them anything they want in situations. alot of these girls are bitches as a result. fending for themselves, over learned life situaions.
and the nice guys that arent doing this with the 'hottest ladies', seem to be the sort of person who wants to give the girl they do decide to like everything, put aside their own personalities to melt all over them and give them things. putting aside your personality is not going to attract a woman.
who are you? what sort of woman friend are you most likely to get along with?
if you indulge yourself into your own aspirations and regard the right sort of women as individuals who um.. DO have things to talk about with you, im sure of this... shit will just fall into place. you wont be looking for it and a friend of the vagina-wielding (but dont think of it like that or your brain will intimidate itself, AGAIN) kind will come into your life.

through my sarcasm i am actually trying to help you. i have a loaded shit cart of problems myself, and i dont always stay on track while trying to stay above and in control of my situations. the past - and emotions such as lonliness, jealousy, and self hatred twist perspectives, and get in the way. but i am still learning and thinking about how to overcome these problems. and i will keep learning.
think more my friend.
maybe you will find this stupid, perhaps even a little psycho. and you know what? i dont give a fuck. but i write this on my wrist, and sometimes put a somewhat deeper scratch into my arm.. to feel the pinch of fabric pulling on a scab conditions me to remember what i wrote. lately, its been dyrtt. delay your reactions to think. it doesnt work every time, but the times it does will increase if im trying.

Having sex with a bunch of people who you don't have any sort of meaningful relationship with will just make you feel empty and used in the end. Take it from someone who knows a thing or two.

Posted by Neptune Having sex with a bunch of people who you don't have any sort of meaningful relationship with will just make you feel empty and used in the end. Take it from someone who knows a thing or two.

No, not necessarily. If you're completely comfortable with yourself and know that's what you want and enjoy, it's not a problem. But of course, that's not everyone.

And Louie, cheer up. Gotta have more confidence Women are attracted to that.

Posted by Oryx No, not necessarily. If you're completely comfortable with yourself and know that's what you want and enjoy, it's not a problem. But of course, that's not everyone. And Louie, cheer up. Gotta have more confidence Women are attracted to that.

see, its true.
both lines. the problem your roommate is encountering is because the ladies he chose arent into that.
and all human beings are (weeeelll... not all i guess..) attracted to confidence.

Fighting was too strong a word, as they know whats going on and dont seem to mind, but he does talk about it like a problem. Thanks for calling me out on my own bullshit, your post was not psycho thatwhichisi, more like psychic. I don't go after the bitches as you say, but I agree that jealousy is a problem of mine and I do fall in to the nice guy spectrum.

I have been lonely lately and its starting to rub me the wrong way, and outlets like internet dating only remind me of my own insecurities. Guess I just need to keep my head up. I really did feel like crap when I posted that

Posted by Louie Fighting was too strong a word, as they know whats going on and dont seem to mind, but he does talk about it like a problem. Thanks for calling me out on my own bullshit, your post was not psycho thatwhichisi, more like psychic. I don't go after the bitches as you say, but I agree that jealousy is a problem of mine and I do fall in to the nice guy spectrum. I have been lonely lately and its starting to rub me the wrong way, and outlets like internet dating only remind me of my own insecurities. Guess I just need to keep my head up. I really did feel like crap when I posted that

This sounds bad...but join the club.

I usually get past being lonely by throwing myself into my job or into my hobbies.

Love will find you, don't worry about it. It will find you whether you want it or not.

I just keep telling myself as long as I'm not with stupid anymore, I'm doing great and it gives me more time to do what I'm good at and do the things I love and be with people who actually do appreciate what I do and what I can do for them and they actually care about me more than he ever did or will.

love will find you? why don't you go find it. fairytale perceptions of relationships and love make me lawl bc in the end you'll just take what you're given.

Posted by shockface love will find you? why don't you go find it. fairytale perceptions of relationships and love make me lawl bc in the end you'll just take what you're given.

balance is a tricky mother.
i agree that you do have to find it, or actually recognize it, and pursue it when it comes around.. but you have to know what you want and know who you want to be (ie, being yourself, following your life goals and doing your own shit) to find one that will work well for you. sometimes that means you gotta wait. if you go find it, youre also sometimes settling, and allowing yourself those idealizations in who you are currently perceiving to have qualities you can work with.

Posted by Louie Guess I just need to keep my head up. I really did feel like crap when I posted that

i hope you are feeling better today.

Posted by shockface love will find you? why don't you go find it. fairytale perceptions of relationships and love make me lawl bc in the end you'll just take what you're given.

What I'm saying is that someone will walk into your miserable little life at some point and time.

What you do with it from that point is your business, but eventually someone you want to be with will show up, it's just the law of averages.

Posted by thatwhichisi i hope you are feeling better today.

Im feeling better and even had a date last night.

Posted by shockface love will find you? why don't you go find it. fairytale perceptions of relationships and love make me lawl bc in the end you'll just take what you're given.

Yes! I think advice like "just wait around and see" is bad advice, and women are usually the ones to give it. I'm not advocating palm reading and cheesy pick up lines, but... its just bad advice. Being proactive is a good thing.

if he was jumping off a bridge.. you know the rest.

Rephrased "meaningless sex is like...suicide"

D: UHOH!

Seriously though, I gotta agree with most of what's been said bud. Although... I think in terms of not chasing after finding a relationship, it's more tenuous than that. I think of it like "don't force the issue on yourself, but when an opportunity (for a relationship) comes at you out of nowhere, don't be afraid to meet it head on".
I've rarely found relationships when I was looking for them too hard.

Being lonely is a natural feeling when you're alone (yeah, that's kinda obvious, I know). But, it's something you have to learn not to overtake you. I haven't had a relationship now in the longest amount of time since I was 14. Except, the longer it gets, the less it really bothers me. I'm looking at it more now in terms of not settling for just purely "being in a relationship", but more... waiting to find the right one to be in. And accepting that in the meantime yeah, I'm lonely, but it's not as bad as getting into a relationship that's not gonna last, and having to go through all the crap that that entails.

Cheer up bro!

stop thinking of women as women - pretty and smooth, with mammaries and warm holes, and start thinking of them as just regular people. im sure i know they will be easier to talk to. something i have observed over the course of my teen into adult years, is how alot of ''nice guys'' say that women walk all over them, or arent interested in them. then i see the girls they are after. girls who are so damn pretty, so '''popular''', that society has taken note of this, and they are educated at a young age, having had some people try to take advantage in situations, then others who give them anything they want in situations. alot of these girls are bitches as a result. fending for themselves, over learned life situaions.

I understand what she's saying here, but at the same time I'll always see women as women. The difference is seeing them as women, not as sextoys.
Also, not all pretty girls are popular slutbitches. There's nothing wrong with setting your sights on the prettiest girl you can find, as long as she's the type of girl you want to be with.
I can't even think of how many really attractive women I've seen marry guys who you look at and think "how the HELL did that happen???"
Don't lower your standards for what YOU want in someone just because you think that a girl is "too pretty" for you. Watch the movie "She's out of my league" for more on this. Oh, and watch "Hitch" too. =D

Posted by Therrin Rephrased "meaningless sex is like...suicide" D: UHOH!

isnt what was intended..
its a matter of thinking about something moreso because someone else is doing it. you want meaningless sex, go ahead, as long as its a mutual understanding between both involved persons. or however many are involved.

Posted by Therrin Also, not all pretty girls are popular slutbitches.

of course not.
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glad you went out!!!!