Serious. There is only one way to do this properly. It involves a risk. All you do is say:

"I think I like you and would like to see more of you."

Straight and to the point. Real men don't want any of that back and forth shit. If they play games you don't want them in your life anyways. Because then you have indirect men who are full of weakness and dishonesty. This is not to say you want a jerk. Overly forward, cant take a hint types you should steer clear away from. They are plague. At least an indirect man can be trained. but do you really want a guy you have to train? But you want someone who will communicate directly, and are not afraid of a girl who knows what they want.

"go kart track"-BEST FIRST (second really) DATE IN THE HISTORY OF DATES EVAR!!!!!!1111!!!!!. (she brought her oldest son and the middle daughter), a very close second was taking a girl to the county dump on a saturday afternoon to plink and shoot rats, i was 19 i think. btw, it was an epic date, just didnt work out, i think her dad had issues with the taking his little girl to the dump thing.... he showed me one of his guns and told me never to come by or call there again. we still mtalk about that date on facebook!

"A)Next time you see him, walk up and put your hand down his pants"- how i can agree with this move (im a guy), i dont see this being a good move if you want anything longer than a 25 second relationship.

and i could pull from almost all the replies here, but im sticking with coffee.

keep us posted please.

"A)Next time you see him, walk up and put your hand down his pants"

Oh god! Don't do that!

That's kinda... forward. Who would do such a thing? Geez.

You could at least be classy and just grin at him and look all crazyfaced till he figures out you're twitterpaited.

Everything I needed to know about dating I learned from Bambi.

UPDATE

I'm probably more confused now that when I started. He called the other day to ask where I took my last set of exploring pictures because he thought he knew where the place was. (he was right) I took that opportunity to initiate small talk, ask how he was doing, etc. He asked how I was doing, so I told him I had been a little lonely this week because our mutual friend, who is the friend I used to spend most of my time with, just started a full time job and got a boyfriend. I kind of figured that this might lead him to ask me to hang out, but he just said, "ya, that happens" and went on to talk about other things.

The next day while I was out walking he happened to be in the neighborhood again, but this time he pulled over to talk. He said he had stopped by my house to say hi but I wasn't home. I invited him to come back to my house but he was busy and had to get going. So, I dunno.

Club him over the head, then keep him captive until he writes a novel for you. If he balks, threaten to chop off his feet. Dudes dig such dedication.

Posted by Shawn W. Club him over the head, then keep him captive until he writes a novel for you. If he balks, threaten to chop off his feet. Dudes dig such dedication.

and for the love of God make sure the penguin is facing due south...

Posted by Neptune UPDATE I'm probably more confused now that when I started. He called the other day to ask where I took my last set of exploring pictures because he thought he knew where the place was. (he was right) I took that opportunity to initiate small talk, ask how he was doing, etc. He asked how I was doing, so I told him I had been a little lonely this week because our mutual friend, who is the friend I used to spend most of my time with, just started a full time job and got a boyfriend. I kind of figured that this might lead him to ask me to hang out, but he just said, "ya, that happens" and went on to talk about other things. The next day while I was out walking he happened to be in the neighborhood again, but this time he pulled over to talk. He said he had stopped by my house to say hi but I wasn't home. I invited him to come back to my house but he was busy and had to get going. So, I dunno.

He likes you, I think it's pretty safe to sat as much. But it sounds like he is being cautious. Maybe he has been recently hurt and has adopted a slower pace because of it. I think if you give it care, tact and patience then you will be happy with how it all works out.

Just my 2 cents

Posted by Shawn W. Club him over the head, then keep him captive until he writes a novel for you. If he balks, threaten to chop off his feet. Dudes dig such dedication.

Did you just compare me to Cathy Bates? Yikes.

Posted by Neptune Did you just compare me to Cathy Bates? Yikes.

I'm glad that you got the reference. However, I think that you're just a bit more sane than her character.

Posted by Neptune UPDATE I'm probably more confused now that when I started. He called the other day to ask where I took my last set of exploring pictures because he thought he knew where the place was. (he was right) I took that opportunity to initiate small talk, ask how he was doing, etc. He asked how I was doing, so I told him I had been a little lonely this week because our mutual friend, who is the friend I used to spend most of my time with, just started a full time job and got a boyfriend. I kind of figured that this might lead him to ask me to hang out, but he just said, "ya, that happens" and went on to talk about other things. The next day while I was out walking he happened to be in the neighborhood again, but this time he pulled over to talk. He said he had stopped by my house to say hi but I wasn't home. I invited him to come back to my house but he was busy and had to get going. So, I dunno.

You are not being direct. Don't try to trick him into hanging out or dating. Just ask him out for fucks sakes.

Would grabbing his dick and shaking it hello be to direct?

Posted by Gringo Loco Would grabbing his dick and shaking it hello be to direct?

...Sounds like it might actually be needed on this one.


I also vote for "just ask him out". Put the ball firmly in his side of the court and see what he does with it.


At least then, you'll "know".

I like the direct approach myself... and I think its ok for you to initiate some kind of benign activity like getting lunch together. That is a very non threatening kind of invitation, and will give you a chance to spend some one on one time together and figure out if that special chemistry is there.

In order to get to the next step you've got to take that risk... The risk of being hurt, or turned down. But that's relationships. It's better to risk it and know for sure, than to wonder. When I'm interested in someone I'll always be direct, but casual. Sometimes I get shot down, and sometimes it leads to something really nice. Without taking the step to find out, though, I'd have missed the nice ones altogether.

I finally mustered up my courage and asked if he wanted to hang out some time. He said sure, so we decided on mini golf tomorrow. Wish me luck!

Posted by Neptune I finally mustered up my courage and asked if he wanted to hang out some time. He said sure, so we decided on mini golf tomorrow. Wish me luck!

Awesome! Have fun and good luck

Hah, it actually went really well despite it being somewhat of a "disaster." We hit 4 mini golf places, none of which were open for the season yet, so we ended up getting ice cream, driving around, and talking. There is a 2nd date next week so I'm glad I took everyone's advice and just asked him out! Thanks everyone!

WOOOO!!!!!!! Good for you
Let us know how date 2 goes !!

Posted by maypost He likes you, I think it's pretty safe to sat as much. But it sounds like he is being cautious.

Yep! People check out your exploring photos and try to stop by when they like you. Take a hint!

Posted by dirt Serious. There is only one way to do this properly. It involves a risk. All you do is say: "I think I like you and would like to see more of you."

This. We don't like mental games, and I'm sure you don't either. If you like him and he treats you right, just tell him you think he's cute and you want him, or something like that.

It took me a while to figure out, but simple honesty works.

Glad it looks like this are working out for you, keep us posted

I'm terrible when it comes to this stuff too, I basically need to be hit over the head. I've probably missed out because of it. With developing feelings for a friend, I usually keep quiet unless I pick up on something from them.

He has a girlfriend now who isn't me. I guess that answered that question.