My wife is divorcing me. This sucks, I feel like I failed at love. I feel tricked and used.

Posted by MonkeyPunchBaby My wife is divorcing me. This sucks, I feel like I failed at love. I feel tricked and used.

Wow, I'm sorry to hear this. How long have you two been married, and has she given you a reason for the divorce?

Posted by Shawn W. Wow, I'm sorry to hear this. How long have you two been married, and has she given you a reason for the divorce?

8 months. The reason was that i dont pay her enough attention. The real reason is that i don't wanna get high and drunk and let her flirt with other guys. I feel like when your a parent, as I am, that the partying days are fewer and more far between.

Posted by MonkeyPunchBaby 8 months. The reason was that i dont pay her enough attention. The real reason is that i don't wanna get high and drunk and let her flirt with other guys. I feel like when your a parent, as I am, that the partying days are fewer and more far between.

That sounds very much like an acquaintance of mine. He became involved with a woman, who he and she later found out had become pregnant by the guy that she'd been seeing before him, but he stayed with her. They ended up getting married. About a month into the marriage, he called her out on going out partying so often while they had a child at home. She ended up divorcing him, saying that he'd married her for her child. He's a nice guy, and didn't deserve that.

Geez, dude, sorry about your situation. Has she lawyered up yet? Maybe she can come around to her senses still?

she got the papers drawn up today. i am calling tomorrow to finalize them. she told me she wanted a divorce over text message.

Posted by MonkeyPunchBaby she got the papers drawn up today. i am calling tomorrow to finalize them. she told me she wanted a divorce over text message.

Geez o dang that is terrible. Well, if it's any consolation you won't have the stress anymore. I know it sucks, but change is for the better.

Sorry. Dealing with this myself. Wish I had an answer for you. Best of luck.

Posted by Jonsered Sorry. Dealing with this myself. Wish I had an answer for you. Best of luck.

Oh man, I'm sorry. Why you gotta bum me out like that? You are supposed to be the enemy and now I feel badly for you! Chin up, please, I need to do battle w/you more.

I'm so sorry to hear this.

Too late for couples counseling?

That has a better chance of success than separation. If she won't go with, go for yourself, it helps.

I've been there. No advice really except to say over time you will be better off.

We have 2 kids and worked out a mutual custody arrangement to split time and money 50/50. It helps that we've always lived close.

I am not surprised or sympathic based on other threads.



GOOD BYE 'TITS'!

Wondering a few things - you had the kid together? Or is it from another relationship?
Also, how long were you guys together before being married? 8 months isn't very long before it comes to quits :/

Definitely see if she'll go through with couples counseling. My parents after 20 years of marriage were thinking about divorce. They went to counseling, and their relationship is better than ever. I don't think I ever remember seeing either of them so happy and in love.

Best of luck to you in this next chapter of life.

Honestly if she asks for a divorce through a text I don't think she's the type to want to work things out. I think you're better off finding someone a bit more grounded (and less cowardly).

Honestly when I looked at your age my first thought was you're too young to be married (in my opinion, I'm sure some people on here have made a success of it and will scream bloody murder over this statement). If it was for sake of the child, that's commendable. If it was for sake of being in 'love', I would ask what was the rush.

However as Tamara pointed out, the "titties" thing was a red flag that maybe things were not all there. She seemed to be desiring attention to feed her esteem. She's your wife, she's a mother and if getting high and flirting are her priorities, I hope you end up with custody.

The whole text message thing is pathetic and pitiful. There needs to be some face to face discussion which the lawyers can facilitate. You need to be able to talk TO your ex, not send a message out into the void and hope for a reply concerning the child's grades, health, visitation schedule, birthday, holidays, etc. And whatever you do, don't make concessions in the seperation agreement that will haunt you later on.

It sounds like your wife was missing a few brain cells, but my condolences to you. It sucks for the child to become attached to someone and then this happens.

Gotta love today's technology.

Divorcing over a text.

Sigh.

Just clearing some misconceptions the kid is not hers. The kids from a previous gal.

Well fuck me...

Disregard that advice.

Just be the best father that you can be to your child and thank yourself that you found out she was a nutter now rather than later. Your son will naturally have become attached to her, will she want to remain in his life?

On the positive side, no child support payments.

Posted by Oryx Honestly if she asks for a divorce through a text I don't think she's the type to want to work things out. I think you're better off finding someone a bit more grounded (and less cowardly).

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