Lol just kidding did I scare you all?
(if anyone doesn't remember is was this train wreck of a thread
http://www.uer.ca/...d=1&threadid=76630 )

Anyways figured I'd tell you this, I feel awesome about it!
So I started dating this guy a month and some ago and things were really getting sour, He didn't trust me ever, ( even though I gave him zero reason to not trust me) and I told him what job I wanted and how I had to move away and he told me "I was to stupid and fat for that job" big red flags so I told him you know how dare he tell me what I can and can't do. Anyways long story short I actually got the guts and broke up with him. It feels great to finally stand up for myself. A lot of you who gave me advice in the old "What do I do" thread I really want to thank you because it seriously has helped me mature in my relationships. I feel very liberated.

Thankyou

I'm extremely proud of you <33333
Congrats and better luck with the next guy
( I hope I helped that one day )

Good for you girl! It takes a lot of guts to stand up for yourself, but you feel so much better when you do! Good luck, kiddo! (Maybe some day I'll grow a pair and actually get IN to a relationship )

Posted by victoria- Anyways figured I'd tell you this, I feel awesome about it! So I started dating this guy a month and some ago and things were really getting sour, He didn't trust me ever, ( even though I gave him zero reason to not trust me) and I told him what job I wanted and how I had to move away and he told me "I was to stupid and fat for that job" big red flags so I told him you know how dare he tell me what I can and can't do. Anyways long story short I actually got the guts and broke up with him. It feels great to finally stand up for myself. A lot of you who gave me advice in the old "What do I do" thread I really want to thank you because it seriously has helped me mature in my relationships. I feel very liberated. Thankyou

Remember our old talks-> Relationships are something that a person wants, not needs.

You blew off a good weekend of exploring over what you thought this guy would think. Quality time like that with me can never be regained, and Yield might hate you too.

His lack of trust may stem from being cheated on - or - an insecurity over losing you to someone else. Telling him you were moving away for work was in effect losing you as may have happened to him before... thus his expression of anger.

Of course I could be full of shit and not know what I speak of...

Posted by Intrinsic Remember our old talks-> Relationships are something that a person wants, not needs. You blew off a good weekend of exploring over what you thought this guy would think. Quality time like that with me can never be regained, and Yield might hate you too.

Ok so I did not blow off a good weekend, I told you its a big maybe and I'd try. As untrusting as he was I fully understand his discomfort with me driving in a car with and older man alone to Toronto. And I respected that because I don't think I'd like it if he asked "do you mind if I go on a trip with an older lady I met off the internet for a day or 2".

Posted by victoria- And I respected that because I don't think I'd like it if he asked "do you mind if I go on a trip with an older lady I met off the internet for a day or 2".

If I have known someone for only a month I don't feel I'd be in a position to allow them to have a say in whom I associate with. You could have explained that exploration is a hobby of yours, you enjoy the hobby and have met some great people, you've explored with me before, I've demonstrated trust and never done anything creepy.

That's only me though... I assert myself when necessary.

Edit:
When we're younger we tend to be willing to put up with more 'crap' to make the relationship work.

As we get older we develop intolerances for what we are NO LONGER willing to put up with. Example: "never again will I date a drunk", "never again will I allow him to control who I talk to", etc.

I know from our chats that this has been the case, and there may be a little truth in what I've said... Remember, "old" people are a wealth of experience.

Intrinsic is creepy, I'd be concerned, too.

Posted by hydrotherapy Intrinsic is creepy, I'd be concerned, too.

Only after the third beer.

laughing my ass off over here.

"Yield may hate you too"

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

<3 you both.

Also, future dungeon suit of armor party ftw!!!