Posted by earthworm Actually, she's living in Savannah GA right now. Just moved down from Portland. (she's one of my ex-girlfriend's close friends).

Savannah,GA is a really awesome city. but yeah, i still wanna go back out west.

The only thing that OkCupid has taught me is that there is not a single guy within a 25 mile radius of my house that I could ever pursue a relationship with. Damn you, Connecticut.

Posted by abandonedNH The only thing that OkCupid has taught me is that there is not a single guy within a 25 mile radius of my house that I could ever pursue a relationship with. Damn you, Connecticut.

I have to say, this is not an issue of the state you live in. It is a problem everywhere. To find a decent man is rare. To find one above decent. . . You might as well find a unicorn.

Posted by dirt I have to say, this is not an issue of the state you live in. It is a problem everywhere. To find a decent man or woman is rare. To find one above decent. . . You might as well find a unicorn.

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Au contraire, A decent woman is easier to find. And an exceptional one only a little harder. The problem is that when a woman is terrible, she is "torch the village" terrible, and they disguise themselves quite well. They are like landmines. But I am grateful to have met or talked to quite a few exceptional women here on uer. The issue with men is they exist in extremes. You have on one side the overbearing jackasses and douchebags. They need to be mothered, otherwise their lives fall apart. On the other hand are the emasculated. Sure most have learned to take care of themselves as far as daily life goes. But they are too afraid to take a stand or assert their sexuality. To have a direction. Instead they float. The "sure, what ever you want dear" type. The Douchebag on the other hand tries to dominate everything. So it seems that the choice is: Overbearing dickwad or painfully dull doormat.

Posted by dirt Au contraire, A decent woman is easier to find. And an exceptional one only a little harder. The problem is that when a woman is terrible, she is "torch the village" terrible, and they disguise themselves quite well. They are like landmines. But I am grateful to have met or talked to quite a few exceptional women here on uer. The issue with men is they exist in extremes. You have on one side the overbearing jackasses and douchebags. They need to be mothered, otherwise their lives fall apart. On the other hand are the emasculated. Sure most have learned to take care of themselves as far as daily life goes. But they are too afraid to take a stand or assert their sexuality. To have a direction. Instead they float. The "sure, what ever you want dear" type. The Douchebag on the other hand tries to dominate everything. So it seems that the choice is: Overbearing dickwad or painfully dull doormat.

I disagree, but just to play along, which are you?

Posted by Shawn W. I disagree, but just to play along, which are you?

I made generalizations. I didn't say that everyone falls into these categories. But a very high majority. The ones who are not in these categories are spoken for.

My definition of decent: To be self actualized and have a direction a focus, a good listener, kind, intellectual but not a know it all, attractive, firm but flexible in thought, and be able to take care of himself and his home. On top of all this, must be present mentally and emotionally.

This is just decent. This is the foundation at which to build from.

But of the two I would say doormat. But I say that in that I am not self actualized, and I can be a bit of a know it all. Also, I have that very male habit of trying to fix things instead of listening fully. I say doormat because I have this need to be of service. To my detriment at times.

Hey AbandonedNH, have you tried Plenty of Fish? I switched from OKC to that and have had extremely good luck. Haven't found a relationship yet, but I go on dates now like it's my job. All the guys have been nice so far, just not for me.

Posted by Neptune Hey AbandonedNH, have you tried Plenty of Fish? I switched from OKC to that and have had extremely good luck. Haven't found a relationship yet, but I go on dates now like it's my job. All the guys have been nice so far, just not for me.

I made an account there, and maybe it's just the area I live in or I'm extremely hard to please, but the intelligence quotient of the average POF-er in southeastern CT is pretty much zero.

Online dating lingo

WHAT WOMEN REALLY MEAN

ADORABLE Wetter than Pamela Anderson's swimming costume. She'll be forever showing you pictures of fluffy kittens on her mobile phone and, on your first date, will have given pet names to all your fingers before the main course arrives.

CURVY Fat. Forget any silly notions of Marilyn Monroe's softly sensuous body. This girl is more pint glass than hourglass.

VOLUPTUOUS Fat and shows too much flesh in clothes two sizes too small for her.
BUBBLY Fat AND annoying. Tries to make up for her ample size by being the life and soul of the party and fails in all respects.

CUDDLY Morbidly obese. A date would necessitate the removal of the roof and a whale sling. Cuddling is very unlikely, although squashing is a distinct possibility.

BBW Stands for 'big, beautiful woman'. Well, two out of three's not bad. She's certainly big and female. But it's doubtful many beholders will consider her beautiful.

SIZE 10 In Uzbekistan. On the UK High Street it's a completely different story.

FIERY Psychotic. Cancel a date with this girl and you'll come home to find your car has been keyed and all the sleeves have been cut off your shirts.

VIVACIOUS Aggressive. An opinionated finger-jabber. She's got views on everything and she's not afraid to ram them forcefully down your throat.

GREAT PERSONALITY Ugly as sin. If a woman is selling her personality, then her face looks good in a paper bag.

ARTISTIC Drama Queen. Welcome to a world of slamming doors, smashed crockery and huffy silences.

ATHLETIC AND TONED Flat chested and shapeless. A sexless, lumpless and bumpless Tomboy.

AGE 34 Age 43. There's more chance of winning the Lottery on a double rollover week than there is of being a woman over 35 and getting a date on the internet. It doesn't matter if the guy is 60, he'll still confine his searches to '35 and under', so any woman's age should be taken as a ball park figure.

PLAYFUL Hussy. Working her way through the internet site and it's your turn.

GIRLY Thick. Shallower than a mouse's foot bath. High School Musical is her idea of high brow. She can tell you the name of every character in TV teen drama Gossip Girl, but has no idea who the Prime Minister is.

LIVES LIFE TO THE FULL Alcoholic. Likes to start the day with a couple of Bacardi Breezers. Happy Hour is her favourite time of day.

I'M INTO WHIRLWIND ROMANCES My visa runs out in 10 days and if I don't get married I'll be deported.

CHALLENGING High-maintenance pain in the neck.

HOMELY Frump. You want to paint the town red and she'll want you to paint her living room beige. Brace yourself for a world of cup-a-soups and novelty toilet roll holders.

LOYAL Stalker. She'll have Googled you and looked you up on Friends Reunited before you even meet. Her brain cannot process the words: 'I don't think you're quite right for me.'

LIKES THE FINER THINGS IN LIFE Gold digger. Looking for a new wardrobe, jewellery and a few weekends away before she dumps you for a 25-year-old Adonis.

HONEST No social skills. The censorship button in her brain doesn't work. Says whatever comes into her head.

SENSITIVE Cry baby. Woe betide you if you don't notice she's had her hair cut or that she's wearing new shoelaces.

WHAT MEN REALLY MEAN

ATTRACTIVE Plain. Everyone in online dating is 'attractive.' In the real world it means 'pleasant to look at' - in the internet-speak it means: two eyes, two ears and a mouth.

FAIRLY ATTRACTIVE Gutchurningly hideous. When he's not even claiming to be attractive, it's time to worry. Andrew Lloyd Webber will look like a Calvin Klein model next to this guy. Meeting under the cover of darkness is advised.

TOLD ATTRACTIVE By my mother, the only woman I've every loved or am ever likely to.

RUGBY PLAYER'S BUILD One who retired 10 years ago. Stop thinking: Jonny Wilkinson. Start thinking: Johnny Vegas.

DISCRETION EXPECTED I'm married and don't want my wife to know.

DISCRETION OFFERED I don't care if you're married too.
HOPE YOU LIKE MY PICTURE Taken 10 years ago and bears no resemblance on now.

MODERN MAN We'll be splitting the bill 50/50. I go on three of these internet dates a week. So unless you're a sure thing you pay for your own dinner.

NOT JUST LOOKING FOR SEX I am just looking for sex but hope you won't see through my cunning reverse psychology.

WILLING TO TRAVEL Lives in a filthy flea-ridden hovel that he can't possibly let you see.

ADVENTUROUS Pervert. He can turn anything into a double entendre. On a date he'll order graphically named cocktails and talk dirty with you over the garlic bread.

NORMAL KIND OF GUY Normal in a Norman Bates kind of way. Normality should be a given, so run a mile from anyone selling it as a good point.

GSOH (GOOD SENSE OF HUMOUR) No sense of humour. The golden rule of internet dating is that anyone who feels obliged to mention they have a sense of humour is usually devoid of one.

EARNS A SIX-FIGURE SALARY Yes, he does. But he includes pence in that figure.

NEVER DONE THIS Have done this a thousand times before, but I'm too embarrassed to admit it, so will pretend that you're my first.

FUN AND ZANY Mental age of a 12-year-old. Your date will be a riot of whoopee cushions, itching powder and fake-dogpoo-filled fun.

LOOKS NOT IMPORTANT Barrel-scraping beggar who can't afford to be a chooser.
5ft 10 5ft 7. It's safe to deduct three inches from any man claiming to be between 5ft 7 and 5ft 10.

SPORTY I watched the Olympics and play snooker for the local pub team.

UNIQUE Sex change. Best not to hang around long enough to find out whether it's pre op or post op.

NOT INTO EMAIL TENNIS I need to secure a date as soon as possible, before you suss out what a tedious dullard I am.

OLD FASHIONED Male chauvinist pig. A woman's place is in the home and, more precisely, the kitchen - preferably cooking his meals and elbow deep in his dirty shirts.

TRADITIONAL Patronising. He'll order for you in a restaurant and pat you on the bottom and say 'don't you worry your pretty head about it' when you ask him about his day.

MANLY Hairy. Only to be pursued if you like men who moult all over your furniture.

DISTINGUISHED Old. Speak slowly and clearly and always be within five minutes of a toilet. The good news is he travels for free and gets in half-price at the cinema.

INDEPENDENT Lying, cheating commitment-phobic scum.

UNCONVENTIONAL Insane. The sort of person you cross the road to avoid, even if the road is the M1 in the rushhour.

ASPIRATIONAL Broke. He has lofty ideas, but not a penny to his name. Expect early-bird specials on your date.

ROMANTIC Oily creep. The flowers come from the garage forecourt and he calls you 'babe' or 'sweetheart' because he can't remember your name.



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Posted by Esoterik There's more chance of winning the Lottery on a double rollover week than there is of being a woman over 35 and getting a date on the internet.

I should buy lottery tickets.

I met my wife on PoF. She was 40 when we met.