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Lord Awesome 


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Just for second opinions
< on 10/10/2011 4:29 PM >
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So, date a girl for 3 years. Get talked into getting a promise ring. She leaves you after you get her the ring. She tells you she has no feelings for you and likes someone else. that person denies it. they tell you to your face they are not interested in her and then she tells you they are really into each other so you ask them again, they finally own up. then she texts you saying she still has feelings for you. We hang out and sleep in the same bed. She then asks if we were still together could I have a kid with her. While still saying she just wants to be friends. I tell some friends about her saying we're just friends and the things she has said/asked me and sleeping in the same bed etc. Someone tells the guy. She acuses me of lying and trying to ruin her life.....


Would anyone have believed she just wanted to be friends after all the contradictions?

I don't know if I am just retarded or what, but I was confused. After the voicemail accusing me of trying to ruin her life etc. I am done with her shit now and not speaking to her anymore. Just wanted to see what people thought.




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Re: Just for second opinions
< Reply # 1 on 10/10/2011 4:52 PM >
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Sounds like she needs to figure her own shit out. She is putting more drama than necessary into your life. Stop dealing with her. End of. It'll hurt, sure, but it will make healing quicker and easier.




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< Reply # 2 on 10/10/2011 5:35 PM >
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Psycho bitch alert. Break it off and move on. Don't respond to her text/calls.

Best of luck.




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< Reply # 3 on 10/10/2011 6:02 PM >
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Both of the above posts are 100% spot on.

I can guarantee you if you approach her, tell her she is being a childish immature bitch and you want nothing to do with her, she'll attempt to come CRAWLING back. But, the catch is you can't take her back. Under any circumstances. Her behavior is sending off all sorts of red flags. Sure, she may be cool for a while, but the next thing you know the neighbor is balls deep in her.

Do yourself a favor. Tell her to fuck off and get on with your life.




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< Reply # 4 on 10/10/2011 6:32 PM >
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Do yourself a favor. Tell her to fuck off and get on with your life.


Agreed. She seems to have a little mental unstability as well.




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Re: Just for second opinions
< Reply # 5 on 10/11/2011 1:48 AM >
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Both of the above posts are 100% spot on.

I can guarantee you if you approach her, tell her she is being a childish immature bitch and you want nothing to do with her, she'll attempt to come CRAWLING back. But, the catch is you can't take her back. Under any circumstances. Her behavior is sending off all sorts of red flags. Sure, she may be cool for a while, but the next thing you know the neighbor is balls deep in her.

Do yourself a favor. Tell her to fuck off and get on with your life.


Quoted in full because it is the damn truth.

You don't need that kind of bull shit drama in your life.

Kick that fucking bitch to the curb, tell her to grow the fuck up and figure out what she really wants to do with her life, then she can do it with someone else.

No matter how much she grovels DO NOT EVER take her back. She will only cause you problems and drama that you can live without.

There are other cool chicks out there, you need to go out and find them.

Cut out the infection so you can heal. It may be painful, but it is necessary.




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< Reply # 6 on 10/11/2011 2:19 AM >
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You've heard all this before, hun. I hope this will be enough to push you toward making a decision. I know breaking up with someone after that long (no matter how peaceful or stressful the relationship has been) is like losing a limb, but your sanity and well being are what is most important. I hope you will find the strength to recognize your own self worth and do what you feel is right for YOU. You're a faithful, loyal, and respectful guy and you deserve no less from someone who gets the privilege of being in a relationship with you.




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< Reply # 7 on 10/11/2011 4:29 AM >
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im with warbird on this.

i will add my own 2 cents worth "the bitch is bat-shit crazy" and is prolly facebook stalking you right now if not ALSO here... and any other forum she knows you are a member on... but "hit it" a few more times before you cut her out of your life and move on for good.



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< Reply # 8 on 10/11/2011 1:56 PM >
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Psycho bitch alert. Break it off and move on. Don't respond to her text/calls.

Best of luck.


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< Reply # 9 on 10/11/2011 3:02 PM >
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You've heard all this before, hun. I hope this will be enough to push you toward making a decision. I know breaking up with someone after that long (no matter how peaceful or stressful the relationship has been) is like losing a limb, but your sanity and well being are what is most important. I hope you will find the strength to recognize your own self worth and do what you feel is right for YOU. You're a faithful, loyal, and respectful guy and you deserve no less from someone who gets the privilege of being in a relationship with you.


This.

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Re: Just for second opinions
< Reply # 10 on 10/11/2011 3:32 PM >
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Well it's been 5 days since I have talked to/seen her. I think I am going through withdrawals. Alternating between being angry, upset, and confused I think.




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< Reply # 11 on 10/11/2011 3:55 PM >
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Well it's been 5 days since I have talked to/seen her. I think I am going through withdrawals. Alternating between being angry, upset, and confused I think.


Yea I know what that's like, try to keep yourself busy - throw some music on the earbuds and go on a cleaning binge, work on the cars anything to keep your mind on some other task. And when you cant help but think about it remind yourself "thank god I got out now and wont have to deal with this for years." I know you feel like shit right now just stick through it - it does get easier. You only have one life, don't waste it being tortured.

SOOOO glad I got away from my emotionally manipulative bitch, but yea there was a lot of self doubt, uncertainty and anger involved.

Any of these behaviors sound familiar?
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Not really. She's a good person she's had a hard life she just needs to figure some things out. She said I was all she wanted for 3 years so It's hard to get over it when all I wanted was to make things work. I figured out how but never got the chance.




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< Reply # 13 on 10/11/2011 5:41 PM >
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Not really. She's a good person she's had a hard life she just needs to figure some things out. She said I was all she wanted for 3 years so It's hard to get over it when all I wanted was to make things work. I figured out how but never got the chance.


And this is how you are going to try and justify getting back with her, or at least trying?

You are better off without the pain and complication.




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< Reply # 14 on 10/11/2011 7:29 PM >
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but "hit it" a few more times before you cut her out of your life and move on for good.

That's terrible advice. The best thing that he can do right now is leave it be.




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Not really. She's a good person she's had a hard life she just needs to figure some things out. She said I was all she wanted for 3 years so It's hard to get over it when all I wanted was to make things work. I figured out how but never got the chance.


She may be a good person. Now the question is Is she the good person for you? I know many people that I think a wonderful but not the one I can spend my life with.




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And this is how you are going to try and justify getting back with her, or at least trying?

You are better off without the pain and complication.



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< Reply # 17 on 10/11/2011 10:34 PM >
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That's terrible advice. The best thing that he can do right now is leave it be.


I just ignored that. I never wanted sex in the first place. I really don't care if I never sleep with anyone again.




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< Reply # 18 on 10/12/2011 2:46 AM >
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I just ignored that. I never wanted sex in the first place. I really don't care if I never sleep with anyone again.


I'm sorry, but I gotta do this:



I've got lots more I want to say, but in the interest of not getting myself banned and/or removed from this forum, I'll just bite my tongue. I'm not so sure my being blunt with no sugar coating is what you want to hear. But perhaps it is what you need to hear...

Either way, my advice remains unchanged. You would be wise to heed the warnings you've received concerning this lady.




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I just ignored that. I never wanted sex in the first place. I really don't care if I never sleep with anyone again.


It just feels like that now. It'll change once you get over her and the relationship. Which will happen!




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