Don't think this topic has been covered, but I may be wrong.

For those of you actively in the dating scene, How do you/did you deal with the nervousness that comes before a first date?

I can do the whole pick them up and take them to dinner or a bar thing, but sometimes I build up so much anxiety and nervousness that all I want to do is go home. lol

Any advice from the married folk as well would be cool.

oooh good question. i do what i call "fake dates" i take a girl out who i have no intensions of dating (in the friendzone). kinda like a test drive... do that a few times and it seems to get easier to handle when the "real" date happens.

I always get nervous before a first date as I think everyone does. I only remain nervous during the date if we aren't connecting well. Digging for topics to talk about with someone you have nothing in common with is nerve wracking. If I hit it off with someone I get more comfortable and the jitters go away.

Try wearing something comfortable on your dates. It sounds silly but you'll have less to worry about if you're not uncomfortable in your clothes. Also try to pick a familiar place to go. I always feel more at ease when I know the layout of the building I'm in and how things are done there.

I don't know if you would call it a date but tomorrow night I'm going to a hockey game with a girl that I just met. definitely a little nervous.

good luck man!

Posted by rescueme1060 I don't know if you would call it a date but tomorrow night I'm going to a hockey game with a girl that I just met. definitely a little nervous.

its a hockey game. its socially acceptable to get drunk and try to get her drunker. bring cab money.

Posted by rescueme1060 Any advice from the married folk as well would be cool.

She either likes you or she doesn't. There's "chemistry" or there isn't. It's really just that simple. There's never anything to be nervous about.

Nervousness leads to erectile dysfunction. Definitely don't need that if the woman likes you. ;)

Klonopin.

Kidding, kidding (sort of). What's always worked best for me is trying to keep in mind that my date is probably just as nervous as I am; they're only human too. And if something awkward happens, it usually makes for a good ice breaker. Your date doesn't expect you to be perfect (or he/she at least shouldn't), so you shouldn't expect yourself to be either. Also, try not to overthink things -- that generally leads to trouble.

I'd say the date/hangout went well. We went to a bar after the game and played a round of darts, didn't get home until the morning time. I actually wasn't as nervous as I thought I would have been, so I'm happy with myself. Will probably see her again this weekend, and if its up to me I'd prefer to keep seeing her...but women are unpredictable so ya just never know if they're into you or not.

sorry to bump an old thread seeing as this is from last year but I wanted to update it:

apparently I took her on one date too many. she got fed up with me b/c I hadn't asked her to be my gf after the 5th date(I wasn't ready to have a relationship). She stopped talking to me and started seeing someone else....as of right now shes single again, and I'm not sure I'm interested anymore.

good call.

Posted by amy atomic Klonopin. Kidding, kidding (sort of). What's always worked best for me is trying to keep in mind that my date is probably just as nervous as I am; they're only human too. And if something awkward happens, it usually makes for a good ice breaker. Your date doesn't expect you to be perfect (or he/she at least shouldn't), so you shouldn't expect yourself to be either. Also, try not to overthink things -- that generally leads to trouble.

Outstanding.