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@ Sm0kescreen I know this original post was published four years ago in 2016, and I looked at your profile and it said that that you were last active in September 2020. However, if your still interested in urban exploration, I would love to chat with you. Even if your no longer interested, I would still like to talk. I relate a lot to your post. I also don't have a lot of friends out in the real world. Most of the people I talk to are online or in forums (like this one). Most of them are located around the world, thus making it very hard to meet in person. I'm also new to urban exploring and don't have someone to explore with.
I don't know what your life is like now, your probably a senior in college or have already graduated. Also, you probably have gained some experience in urban exploration. I'm located in west Texas, but if you ever want to explore with someone, message me. Would love to get to know fellow explorers and maybe even explore with a group of people at some of these popular places.
Anyways, hope your having a good day, and again feel free to message me. 
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I know how you feel about going exploring alone and having a hard time finding people who love exploring as much as you do. As I mentioned before about me being an urban explorer for 10+ years. Since storm drains are my favorite thing to explore, it seems like it's very hard for me to find and keep friends who love to explore storm drains as much as I love to do. The people I used to hang out with don't seem to want to tell me that they don't like storm drains as much as other stuff. It's very sad because I try to be more open to explore other stuff with building being my least favorite. overall I don't mind exploring storm drains alone but there are dangers, especially now that I just recently started going into manhole covers and climbing ladders alone and so far I've haven't had any issues and being in a drain when it rains but I will say that going alone can be fun but at the same time I would really love to find more friends who really love to explore storm drains like I do. I'm autistic as well, so I do understand how that feels not to have a lot of friends to go exploring with. Sadly I live in Minneapolis MN, so I live very far. I explore a lot of storm drains in ST.Paul and Minneapolis MN. Just keep trying to find new friends to go exploring with you. That's what I plan on doing too.
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This thread is old, but I want to say that exploring solo with anxiety can be daunting, but it doesn't mean you have to resign yourself to staying put. It's important to challenge those negative thoughts about yourself and others. Therapy or counseling could help guide these feelings and develop coping strategies. You deserve to live a fulfilling life despite your challenges.
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Engaging in a hobby that may often find you in secluded places, away from sight and sound of others, can be nerve wracking. The concern of being attacked is legitimate and for that reason the concerns of going alone are valid. I think the gap of comfortability and safety when solo can be closed with the right mindset and gear. I recommend bringing Pepper Gel and keeping a hand on it while entering a new area. I personally like to wear hoodies with the pocket in the front and put it there, since nobody really asks why a guy has his hand in his hoodie pockets.
Remember that you absolutely have the ability to demand respect for your personal boundaries. For example, if you're in a Tunnel with no easy way to pass another person, you have the ability to communicate something along the lines of "I don't feel comfortable with either of us passing each other yet, let me backtrack to somewhere else where you can pass me without getting too close."
Most people will recognize when someone is being honest and react in kind. As in, people have an easier time giving someone respectful accommodations if you can communicate them effectively and efficiently. Short and sweet.
I think it's important to remember that birds of a feather flock together. What I mean is, the original post is essentially "I have conditions that I don't think others will be accepting of, or treat me fairly for, and I feel disadvantaged."
There are other explorers who feel the same way, with the same perceived disadvantages, with the same perceived fears. Find them and try to create your circle of people that understand.
Some people might try to take advantage of you if you wear your heart on your sleeve, so just be vigilant about that. I find that these people don't like to open up about themselves in any connectable way, making them easier to spot.
Oh, and always trust your gut.
GLHF
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It's totally valid to feel anxious, especially when stepping into something new, like exploring alone. I can relate. Anxiety is like a constant companion for me, too.
Before I go out exploring, I usually spend some time with a breathing exercise app. It helps to ground me and calm my nerves a bit. Just taking a few minutes to focus on my breath can make a big difference in how I approach the situation. The app I use is Calmer.
Also, it might help to start small. Maybe try exploring during daylight hours in more populated areas to ease into it. And when it comes to meeting new people, online communities or groups focused on exploring could be a good place to connect with like-minded individuals who understand your interests and challenges.
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