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| | | | hooking up and maybe committing to your ex's friend?? < on 9/16/2013 4:11 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | anyone have any strong thoughts on hooking up with the friend of your ex? to keep a long story short, I recently moved to Maine after breaking up with my college girlfriend of three years, I moved to Colorado a little over a year ago so we could be together (though our initial intention was not to stay together after school). She's been coping with inner demons (namely depression) her entire life, and although I was an outlet for her she made it very clear this was something she needed to address by herself, and being in Colorado (she grew up there) wasn't working for her. I left Colorado cause I couldn't really handle being there without her, and here I am in Maine. I want to make it clear however that we parted knowing this was about us as individuals, not because we were in a shitty relationship that was never going to work. I'm at peace because ultimately I want her to pursue whatever makes her happy. So now I'm in Portland Maine, and the trouble has begun. A lot of my college friends live here or are trying to move here, including a lot of my ex's friends. There's this one girl, who is my best bud's girlfriend's bestie, who came to visit just this last weekend because she's looking for a new job. I'll be honest and say I really dug this girl for a while back in college, but forgot about her after she moved to Nepal (just got back) and I started dating her friend (who is my ex). We really hit it off the first night, and I was getting all the signs but really tried to fight it ---- was still feeling very vulnerable regarding the breakup, and honestly was afraid of how all my ex's friends who were there would react. We went out again the next night, and I could really feel her energy and was really digging her physical presence, she came back to my place and we hooked up. She left the following morning to meet up with her friends for breakfast before she went back to DC, and I shot her a little text sayin' something along the lines of "safe travels, hope to see you soon", and I do mean it. I'm starting to wonder... what happens if she winds up moving to Portland (over the course of the weekend she was saying she definitely wants to move here)? I know that I definitely would want to see her, the attraction is definitely there, but mentally, I am still very lost. I'm still very emotionally attached to my ex, (constant thoughts of her, figure that's natural) but also know we have no future together and I don't want that BS nostalgia to keep me from someone I'm into... but at the same time don't want this new girl to be simply a "confidence booster", which is what I'm afraid it might be. So that's my rant. Just gonna go with the flow for now (there will likely be little if any contact between me and my ex OR this new girl for the next month), anyone been in this situation and found they made a horrible mistake or possibly did exactly the right thing? your friend, paul
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