Posted by Lexi You lack boobs and a vagina. As well as any game whatsoever, and a significant other.

stop hatin yo

When I look back to when I was Lexi's age on the second go around for the day I was thinking about where and when we could do it again. Now I remember I forgot to leave lunch money out for the kid and put that load of laundry in dryer while trying not to forget that hubby is horny. If he would not just hang out and wait for me and follow me to the laundry room we could catch the spin cycle on the washer.

Oh no! I am thinking like White Rabbit.

Posted by bandi Once every 7 months seems to be the norm for me this year... which really sucks after dating a total nympho.

Define nympho.

I for one am sick and tired of hearing the words slut, nympho or whatever other derogatory term used on women who have more sex than "THEY" are comfortable with. They being the unenlightened shit wads that walk around telling others' what they should do and how often.


To re-word what I originally said(as I was not in a good mood that day) so that I don't sound like a total prick. Everyone is different, Just by reading what others have said, you can see that no experience is the same. I'll be honest, I was disturbed by the tone/wording that you (shellyl) used. ie:

trying not to forget that hubby is horny

or

I try to make sure he has sex at least once a week

I also understand how stressful it can be when your schedules don't coincide. So making time for sex seems impossible. But the whole keeping up with the Robinson's shtick is impossible and absurd. Who cares how much his friends get laid. They are probably lying anyway.

As far as your husband goes. If he wants to get laid, then he should stay awake until you get home. ie: take responsibility. And if you want to shag your husband in the laundry room, then do it. But don't get tripped up on the "shoulds".

Thats the end of my rant.

Wow Dirt and you are all of 20. Damn, too young for me. I could only hope that hubby could adopt your way of thinking just a few days a week. We might have a chance of hitting a happy balance more often. I was going to show him this thread but me thinks I better just keep it to myself.

Posted by shellyl Wow Dirt and you are all of 20. Damn, too young for me. I could only hope that hubby could adopt your way of thinking just a few days a week. We might have a chance of hitting a happy balance more often. I was going to show him this thread but me thinks I better just keep it to myself.

I'm delightfully surprised. I was worried I was gonna piss off a lot of people. I tend to do that. I guess I'm a bit frank. I may be 20, but I have learned a lot and still study constantly, and it also helps to be dating someone 18 years older than myself. It's weird, the more I learn the more I realize I don't know a damned thing.

My advice, I think you are right(whatever that means) in not showing him this thread. It is nice to have a correspondence that is separate from your relationship so you can hash things out a little better before coming to a conclusion. But you do need to talk to him. Any relationship that is without communication is doomed. If you try to tough it out without communication you will come to a time, many years down the road, where you wished you'd had. Then it would be all over and you realized you wasted so much time.

I've seen it happen. Hell, I've done it myself to a lesser degree.

Posted by shellyl Ok this seems to be a huge issue in my house. We have been together for over 20 years. Married but not the best relationship, we have had our share of issues. One of the big bitches of his is frequency. I work nights he works days. I try to make sure he has sex atleast once a week but more often than not he gets it more. I hear geez you didn't wake me up last night. He tries to tell me his buddies who have been married for 10+ years still get it 5 or 6 times a week. God is that the norm or is he just feeding me a line of shit?

He's feeding you a line of shit.

Opps...looke like the Rabbit beat me to it. He is, of course, totally correct. He always is.

I was going to say something like "Wow...20 years...what's your secret?"

But as I am in late stage terminal relationship melt-down, and given that I'm at a point very close to the Not Giving A Shit Anymore, I don't really want an answer to the whole big 'what's your secret,' but I'll hazard a guess and say that there was a bit of drinking involved.

Posted by bandi Once every 7 months seems to be the norm for me this year... which really sucks after dating a total nympho.

Werd, yo. Weird too, yo.

Posted by shellyl Wow Dirt and you are all of 20. Damn, too young for me. I could only hope that hubby could adopt your way of thinking just a few days a week. We might have a chance of hitting a happy balance more often. I was going to show him this thread but me thinks I better just keep it to myself.

Yeah...but NOT for me.

Triple Post...BOOYAH.

Posted by KublaKhan Yeah...but NOT for me. Triple Post...BOOYAH.

Sound like fun.

But I have a secret, I like to pretend that I'm Hunter S. Thompson in bed.

I'll bring the mace baby!

Posted by KublaKhan Opps...looke like the Rabbit beat me to it. He is, of course, totally correct. He always is.

QFT!

Posted by KublaKhan I was going to say something like "Wow...20 years...what's your secret?" but I'll hazard a guess and say that there was a bit of drinking involved.

WR is not alone in the rightness category.

Posted by dirt Sound like fun. But I have a secret, I like to pretend that I'm Hunter S. Thompson in bed. I'll bring the mace baby!

Strange...HST never slept.

Posted by KublaKhan Strange...HST never slept.

Who said anything about sleeping?

Posted by dirt Who said anything about sleeping?

True. Can I bring the adrenichrome? I've got a really good source (Horus...remember him?) and this shit is better than Viagra.

If I get married and im not having sex at least once a day then im getting divorced because it means something is definitely wrong.

Posted by ryan If I get married and im not having sex at least once a day then im getting divorced because it means something is definitely wrong.

Don't get married. Then when you don't get sex every day, you'll know what's wrong, and you will find happiness in that knowledge.

Trust me.

Though I must say, now that he's back in Iraq...

Not often enough at all.

Ugh.

I officially have a friend with benefits now. She's hot, she's a nympho, I don't have to buy her anything. Life is good.

Posted by dirt Define nympho. I for one am sick and tired of hearing the words slut, nympho or whatever other derogatory term used on women who have more sex than "THEY" are comfortable with. They being the unenlightened shit wads that walk around telling others' what they should do and how often.

Well, she was a self proclaimed nymphomaniac, so I wouldn't call it a derogatory term at all. She was, 99% of the time, the one who suggested having sex.

Ditto with my FWB now- she likes sex, and she's not afraid to admit it... I just wish I knew where she got her energy from.

Posted by bandi I officially have a friend with benefits now. She's hot, she's a nympho, I don't have to buy her anything. Life is good.

Can I watch?