...I try not to talk about my personal life on line but I’m really not doing well, so I’m sharing

NOTE: THIS IS HOW I SEE IT, IT MAY NOT BE ALL RIGHT

I've been dating the same girl for well over two years, last week she broke up with me

Now I AM in love with this girl, she’s perfect, but she wanted out because of a lot of reasons (most true) but I was tiring to fix things, I just couldn't do it fast enough. things have not been going well since she turned 21 (last month) and I still have months to go before I turn, I was feeling left out and a little depressed about it, so instead of telling her about this I just get moody, bad move

recently another guy (her moms boyfriends son, who she has known her whole life) who she has had a crush on for while came into her life, they started going to movies with each other that I wanted to see with her, I wanted to spend time with her but she didn't always want to spend time with me, OR when she did I had homework and we couldn't, we were going out to dinner at places where I could do it, also bad move, she started going out more and leaving me at home at this point I knew felt AN end (not THE end) was near and I tried to fix it

so about 3 weeks ago we had an issue, this guy kissed her, and she liked it, she came over and woke me up while she was crying about it, we talked I told her she needed to make a choose and I THOUGHT she choose me, we did start to spend more time together but she started to get depressed, didn’t want to do things, mad at life, and I got more quite because I wasn’t happy about this other guy, I was afraid that she would leave me for him (ha surprise to be fair their was a 3 day difference) they kept hanging out more and I would ask her to go things but she would be with him

then she broke up with me, and I am still fucked up about it, she left me because she wasn’t happy with us and she started dating him 3 days later and I am still heart broken over it, she didn’t know that I was weeks away from ordering an engagement ring, she still wants to be friends and she is willing to give us another try if hers right now doesn’t work out

But it’s troubling me, today we talked about things and its better then it was and I understand more, next week we will be returning each others stuff then after that we will be fixing our shared cell phone plan

I did and do want us to be together, but I don’t think it will happen, she seems happy with this guy (as much as that hurts me) and that is good, I am glad that she is happy but I am willing to give it another shot if it doesn’t work out with them, AFTER I think about it, we will see what time has in store

i am still friends with her and we are still spending time together

How am I doing? Nice that your should ask, I didn’t eat for 5 days, I have started eating again but I'm still not all good, I’m eating very little, drinking why too much coffee, AND my old demons are tiring to come back

BUT! On the plus side, my friends have been there for me, I love my friends, and I hope they keep helping me out, because I am going to need it

Thank you all (and thanks to those that read all of this)

-noh

Ugh. Well, this is gonna be harsh.

What the fuck is wrong with you? She kissed another dude, and you were going to ask her to marry just a short time later? Are you OUT of your fucking skull?

Why don't you just cut your balls off, fry them up, and serve them to her with a nice white wine since you're so busy emasculating yourself?

I mean, good God, man. Seriously.

There's billions of women in the world. And you're gonna pine over and feel like crap over a woman who treated you like that? Don't you have any fucking self-respect? Are you a man or a fucking doormat?

Now GODDAMMIT, get off your fucking ass, knock off your hunger strike, pull your balls down from wherever they've crawled up inside you, and go fuck someone who actually wants you.

white rabbit, i love you

it sucks, i was going to ask her to marry me for a while before all this shit, i just didn't have stuff planed out, and its because that i had been together with her for so long that it is fucking with me so much

i forgive her for the kiss (im like jesus like that)

i know how her and mine friendship is going to go, we are going to try and hurt each other but i dont want that, because shes awesome, and i know i need to get over her, but it going to take a lot longer then i want

I stopped reading after the second paragraph, not because I don't empathize with you, but because I'm about 30 seconds away from Divorce Central. Thus, I don't give a shit about A} HER, or B} your HER.

Drop it. Move on. You're young and still fairly stupid (and I mean that as a compliment). Find someone who ain't gonna fuck you over.

Do it. Do it now.

thats what im working on, i think i have a date tonight

Ugh I had a similar problem recently, it sucks having to go through each others stuff and switch bills I hate it.

Yeah I would save all the drama, if she's moved on and is seeing this other guy. I think she's only talking to you cause she feels guilty. I would leave it simple, and say: "Hey, as long as you're happy that's what matters". "if he makes you happy, great, take care of yourself". I wouldn't be her friend either, it's all or nothing, and she chose.

Move on, there are better one's out there. Women worthy of your ring, etc.

know anyone in this area?

What is your hurry? Slow down and date. Make a list of what made you think that miss eX was so awesome and then give girls a try that don't quite fit the mold of her. I mean don't go for the complete opposite but just a little different. What I found most attractive about my husband years ago I now realize was pretty much just that, "attractive" and not a quality that makes for a good relationship. Hold out for what makes you happy and don't just jump into it so you are not alone. You said your friends are there for you. Hang with them more and see what comes along.

im not really in a hurry, i want to start dating again and build something better with someone better, but its just killing me, i am feeling better as the days are going by, since we were together for 2 and a half years its going to take me a while to get over it

Posted by White Rabbit Ugh. Well, this is gonna be harsh. What the fuck is wrong with you? She kissed another dude, and you were going to ask her to marry just a short time later? Are you OUT of your fucking skull? Why don't you just cut your balls off, fry them up, and serve them to her with a nice white wine since you're so busy emasculating yourself? I mean, good God, man. Seriously. There's billions of women in the world. And you're gonna pine over and feel like crap over a woman who treated you like that? Don't you have any fucking self-respect? Are you a man or a fucking doormat? Now GODDAMMIT, get off your fucking ass, knock off your hunger strike, pull your balls down from wherever they've crawled up inside you, and go fuck someone who actually wants you.

Even the most helpful medication has been known to be harsh but White Rabbit is right on this one.

nobodyshome, the only person who is getting hurt here is you and now, you're the one who is doing the hurting. While this does hurt, it's not the end of the world. Like a lot of people, I've been through a variation of this shit pie too and learned that there's no sense in wasting time pining over someone who bailed on you. Take some time to get your head together (not too much though) and get on with your life. With good luck, you may just meet someone who will go nuts over you while you're going nuts over her and end up with a lifetime relationship. That happened to me.

Good luck and get on with your life.

UPDATE: so i told her off today, i called her to let her know that we had to get the phone taken care of and she said that she was going to get a plan with this new guy

wait let me go back 16 hours, last night she said she might be moving in with him and i heard a 'pop' in the back of my head and they might be getting their own place

and today when she said that she was going to get a plan with him i heard a lot louder pop and i said "isnt that a little fast?"

she told me then that he doesnt have his own phone (or car, or place to live, but that didnt come up in this talk) because his other one was stolen and he owes the phone co $1200 and he has a credit score of 420

i snapped and started yelling and ranting about how stupid she is for all of this, how it looks like he is using her and so on, i think she started crying, but i hung up first, because i was so pissed

its the first time i have ever raised my voice to her, and it felt awesome

i think maybe i was channeling white rabbit for a little bit ^_^

i feel tons better, i think part of me feeling so bad was me holding all of this (rage, anger) in

EXCELLENT.

Now here's what you do.

Stop talking to her. Not for some bullshit headgame, but forever. Like that was your last conversation with her--ever. She's dead to you now. You're not gonna want to accept it. You're gonna want to talk to her again, talk about your feelings, but DO NOT DO IT. Be a man. You said your piece. There's nothing left for you to accomplish. Nothing good will come of it.

If she contacts you, tell her to fuck off and hang up. Better yet, just laugh and hang up, then don't answer when she calls back. She must become less than nothing to you.

You did the manly thing, now DON'T FUCK IT UP by giving her the opportunity to get her claws back in you. You don't need to talk to her. You don't need to see her. You don't need her to handle that phone shit. Cut all ties with her swiftly and decisively.

Do it. Do it now.

after this friday i will, the fucking cell phone thing, i would do it sooner then that but i told her friday i want all my stuff back and i have all her stuff ready,

we will meet at the phone place get her phone signed off then go to my house and do the trade off, then we will have no reason to talk to each other, i already took her name off of my emergency contacts and payments in case i die, now it all goes to my cat

what? i think its fucking funny

Been there. Done that. And, unfortunately, I remember.

Relationships can suck, man. Stay single for a while. I agree, being single sucks too, but if you start shopping around so soon, you're going to get stuck with someone who you don't end up wanting to be with. TRUST ME.


I was with someone for 2 and a half years, and within 3 days of us breaking up, she had a new boyfriend, already living in the apartment. It hurt like hell, and sparked a pretty big drinking problem for a while. But, he lied about his age, and now my ex has a baby with a 17 year old, and lives in his parents' basement (She's 24.)

Posted by White Rabbit EXCELLENT. Now here's what you do. Stop talking to her. Not for some bullshit headgame, but forever. Like that was your last conversation with her--ever. She's dead to you now. You're not gonna want to accept it. You're gonna want to talk to her again, talk about your feelings, but DO NOT DO IT. Be a man. You said your piece. There's nothing left for you to accomplish. Nothing good will come of it. If she contacts you, tell her to fuck off and hang up. Better yet, just laugh and hang up, then don't answer when she calls back. She must become less than nothing to you. You did the manly thing, now DON'T FUCK IT UP by giving her the opportunity to get her claws back in you. You don't need to talk to her. You don't need to see her. You don't need her to handle that phone shit. Cut all ties with her swiftly and decisively. Do it. Do it now.

QFT.

yeah, this guy is really going to fuck her over (hahahahahah....ha)

he doesnt have a car he doesnt have a drivers license, he lies a lot, he has a battery charge against him (she doesnt know this.... yet) he owes lots of people money, he has stalkers... that want to hurt him (maybe something to do with the battery). he pretty much her step-brother, her mom and his dad had drug problems and drinking problems, his sister far worse then all the others put together

it just getz better

real winner there, her issues now, not mine, i just didnt think she was that stupid

Made me think of you.

It’s too late to be trippin on the phone here
Get off the wire
You know everything is good here
Stop what you’re doin'
You don’t wanna ruin
The chance that you got to
find a new one

http://www.youtube...atch?v=r_mhpRz0liA

Well done nohbyshome!

You got your freedom. Hang on to it and above all, don't go back with her. Get the phone dealt with, get the trade over with, wash your hands of her and walk away. You'll thank yourself for it.

What White Rabbit said, bang on. Harsh medicine but very effective.

done and done, but she refused to take some of her stuff back (her fucking guitar) i moved it to the garage and i told her to pick it up soon, she said she didnt have room in the car, she did

OH also she brought her boyfriend with her
to my house

i could have shot him for trespassing


also i think the song Promises by Adema fits a little better

http://www.youtube...atch?v=lNtNvYZlieI

(edit: link that works)