having been married, now not, and a few outgoing g/fs in the past 9 years, im happy to say that yes i have had a few 3ways, but the current g/f wants to do a 3way with another guy... i understand her point of view, and warned her of the hazards... she insists that she wants this to happen. im cool with my place in life. i am not gay. but... sharing cherrybomb with another guy seems odd to me. i would like to watch rather than be a part of it. "i" am a freak but shit this is out there to me.
wtf?

Bad idea based on your other posts. Leave her. Now.

She's bored.

This is totally a personal issue. Speaking for myself, there is no way in hell I'd be down for something like this, no matter what the circumstances. If my partner even suggested it, I'd be very offended and start to seriously reconsider our relationship.

this is the same girl you are in love with and who is in love with you, according to your recent post, and you now live together in her apartment?

i have the feeling that my advice won't mean much. here it is all the same: break up with her, move back to St Louis and live with your parents, start a new and stable life.

if she want's another guy it seem's like there's something wrong
reconsider your relationship
consider that she may be a "closet" whore
(what self respecting girl want's to be double teamed)
i would defiantly think about your relation ship with her it seem's almost like it's making you worse off.
and watch? pretty sure that would make you real jealous having some guy who doesn't care about her stick his dick in her.

Posted by cdevon1200 having been married, now not, and a few outgoing g/fs in the past 9 years, im happy to say that yes i have had a few 3ways, but the current g/f wants to do a 3way with another guy... i understand her point of view, and warned her of the hazards... she insists that she wants this to happen. im cool with my place in life. i am not gay. but... sharing cherrybomb with another guy seems odd to me. i would like to watch rather than be a part of it. "i" am a freak but shit this is out there to me. wtf?

From your other thread, given the suddenness of your new situation, I'd agree that you oughta look at this funny. You gotta ask, "Where is this going next?"

Yup, I take back everything I said about keeping my asshole opinion to myself.

I hate to risk the ire of the ladies by pointing this out, although it's entirely fucking true, but women don't typically have rabid desire for sexual variety that men do, so it's more than a little odd for her to be making this request. If she's wanting a threesome with another dude, something ain't right. I'm guessing boredom, like others have said, and probably chaos-seeking.

You need to get the fuck outta dodge.

P.S. - The appropriate male reaction to this particular request would've been to laugh derisively in her fucking face, not talk to her about it for fuck's sake.

I think the general rule with sex is: you should both (or in this case, all three) feel happy and good about it. In this case, YOU don't, so don't have the threesome. If that bothers her and she wants to proceed anyway, gtfo.

Hmm...
Some men here seem to think that " no self respecting girl would want to be double teamed" or "women dont want variety"

That's stupid.

Women, most often times, have the same desires as men, it's totally normal for a women to want to feel desired and I can't think of a more straight forward way of getting this than two dudes licking her all over...

That being said.....yea, she's nuts. Despite everything I just stated, you two have not been in this relationship for very long, is that right?

In order for you to even consider another partner with her and vice versa, you should be in a stable, loving relationship for longer than that before considering something as "risky" as a threesome.

Time. Trust. yada yada yada

Posted by earthworm Bad idea based on your other posts. Leave her. Now.

QFT! Pull the fuck out, NOW.
_lolpun

Posted by SourDiesel if she want's another guy it seem's like there's something wrong reconsider your relationship consider that she may be a "closet" whore (what self respecting girl want's to be double teamed) i would defiantly think about your relation ship with her it seem's almost like it's making you worse off. and watch? pretty sure that would make you real jealous having some guy who doesn't care about her stick his dick in her.

Not to start a flame war but you are an idiot.

Not because I disagree with there being something wrong in their relationship, there is. But because you have no grasp of anything besides a inflated sense of of "how things should be". Closet whore? What the fuck is wrong with you? Go stick your nose in a bible or something and keep your morals and judgments to yourself.

Posted by LauraBeth Women, most often times, have the same desires as men

No, they don't. They really, really don't. Women always say this and always think it's true, but it's not. Just because you like sex and you have some of your own kinks doesn't mean you have the same desires for sex that we do.

Examples, off the top of my head... There's no porn for women, because there simply isn't a large-scale desire to look at sexual stuff from women like men. Guys also cheat in higher numbers than women. And for some anecdotal evidence, I'm a filthy whore and I've been with a LOT of women, and I have met a lot that (honestly) either never masturbate at all or VERY rarely do it. I bet you'd have a hell of a time finding a guy who doesn't masturbate--I know I couldn't stop if my life depended on it. I start walking around with a fog of lust in my brain if I go more than 4 or 5 days without doing it (seriously). Plus, I just know from being with all those women that they weren't into experimenting sexually, because I usually ended up asking or trying to get them to do something fun. And I'm not talking anything super-kinky, because I'm not into that shit either. The kinkiest thing I probably ever asked for was a threesome, and despite trying like hell, I've only managed to get two women to do that once in my life.

Plus, it's just how we evolved. Guys are biologically programmed to want to fuck every attractive woman they see to spread our seed to as many potential mates as possible, and we would if we were able. I don't believe for one second most women would fuck every attractive man they see, because many attractive women already have that ability and don't exercise it.

Nah, I'm not buying it. I know women get all offended if you insinuate that they're slutty or there's something wrong with them if they like sex or are a little kinky, but that's horseshit and I'm not saying that. I know women are sexual creatures, too, and have some of their own desires.

But you're still not like men. We're in overdrive. We're genetically programmed, semen-spreading, fucking-machines.

And I'm not saying a woman wanting two dudes automatically means something is wrong with her. Yes, it is entirely possible she's just an exceptionally sexually liberated young woman, but I doubt it. It's so rare that women genuinely want something like that, that it's got to be viewed as a big red warning flag that something might be wrong with the relationship or her. And based on other things he has said, that's almost certainly the case here.

1. Sounds like you've been spending too much time in Salt Lake City, Utah.

2. For as much as you just generalized about women, from what I imagine are your personal experiences, I would guess it's safe to say that these women you have been with are lying to you, or don't feel comfortable telling you the truth because you are what you are to them: a whore, a one time thing, something to fuck, why should we get personal here?

3. And let me ask you what the hell you're talking about when you say there is no porn for women? I'm curious to hear your opinions about what that would be, what do women want to wank to? please tell me, you seem to be the expert here, I would love to know. And I bet there are women who don't masturbate...because they're cool and hot enough to get laid on a regular basis and don't need to hold up your pitiful habit, which to me kind of sounds like an addiction.

4. Just because we have the ability to fuck every attractive thing we see (which is bullshit, that's ridiculous) and dont "exercise" that power, doesn't mean we're not horny, it's called tact and self-respect.

Finally...just because you have had sex with a lot of women (congratulations by the way that's really impressive and I'm really happy for you) doesn't mean you know the first thing about them.

P.S. now I'm really sad because I bet you're an example of a typical hopped-up,macho male, and that's all there is to reproduce with. looks like no babies for me.

Posted by White Rabbit Examples, off the top of my head... There's no porn for women, because there simply isn't a large-scale desire to look at sexual stuff from women like men.

So...videos of heterosexual sex are only for men? There's a reason producers have started showing the man's face, and it's not just to make you cringe.

Guys also cheat in higher numbers than women.

Nah, we just caught more ^.^ Did you know that hospitals have, for years, been keeping it secret when a baby has a genetic defect that he or she couldn't possibly have if the husband were the father? It's patient rights or something.

I don't believe for one second most women would fuck every attractive man they see, because many attractive women already have that ability and don't exercise it.

With the ones I've talked to, there is a stronger emotional component. But yeah, a sexy man still makes 'em tingly inside.

It's so rare that women genuinely want something like that, that it's got to be viewed as a big red warning flag that something might be wrong with the relationship or her.

I feel that you must know different types of women than I do. I'm quite willing to admit that either or both of us could be quite wrong about most women, though. I think that you have too narrow a view on them, but then again I'm also the one pretending to be wise or some BS...so I'm gonna take the strength of my opinion with a grain of salt too.

The women who've talked to me about it are not as immediately eager as most men I know to jump into bed with a warm body, but they think about it more. And heck, with the way things are going, maybe it'll become socially acceptable to be in an open relationship. I know a few who go to great lengths to hide it now because of the trouble they'd encounter if people found out that they were "cheating."

I do agree that a newly-cohabitating couple who'd broken up before are in need of stability more than an interesting sex life. Heck, maybe this would get he and her more committed, I dunno. But it sounds like she's seeking Change, which is nothing to build on. She got a man, wants another, etc.

cDevon, good luck, I hope stuff works out.

Posted by LauraBeth P.S. now I'm really sad because I bet you're an example of a typical hopped-up,macho male, and that's all there is to reproduce with. looks like no babies for me.

Don't move to the Carolinas. Just don't...you'd hate it.

Posted by LauraBeth 2. For as much as you just generalized about women, from what I imagine are your personal experiences, I would guess it's safe to say that these women you have been with are lying to you, or don't feel comfortable telling you the truth because you are what you are to them: a whore, a one time thing, something to fuck, why should we get personal here?

Listen, you can get as butthurt as you want about it. I have women in my little harem that I've been fucking for years in addition to the countless one-timers. So, unless you're a raging lesbian an active sex life, the only woman you've probably had sex with is yourself. Which means--GASP, the horror--I might just know more about what women want in the bedroom than you do.

It's great that you think this large quantity of women have just lied to me for shits and giggles over the years, but it doesn't change the fact that you're as wrong as wrong can be.

3. And let me ask you what the hell you're talking about when you say there is no porn for women? I'm curious to hear your opinions about what that would be, what do women want to wank to? please tell me, you seem to be the expert here, I would love to know.

Are you fucking kidding me? Are you SERIOUSLY going to make the argument that women are as into porn as men? Seriously? Because you should really be laughed right off the internet if you are.

And I have no idea what women in want in porn, and neither do most people, or they'd be marketing it to them and making a fortune. But guess what? No one is.

Know why? Because women really aren't into porn.

Shocking, I know. The horror. You like porn, so how could most women not like porn.

Maybe you're just an individual, silly.

And I bet there are women who don't masturbate...because they're cool and hot enough to get laid on a regular basis and don't need to hold up your pitiful habit, which to me kind of sounds like an addiction.

No, sorry. There are lots of lots of women who simply have little or no interest in masturbation. I've met plenty of them. I've given several women LITERALLY the first orgasm of their lives. I know, I know. Those women were lying to me, too, to puff up my ego or whatever butthurt bullshit you feel like making up because I said something you didn't like about women. Boo hoo.

But women are individuals, too. I have met PLENTY of women who had sex drives light years beyond mine.

But I'm talking in generalities here. And, in general, women do not have the overactive sex drive of men. Sorry. Get pissy all you want. It's the crooked truth.

And yes, ejaculation (preferably in a female or our hands in a pinch) is almost an addiction for guys. See? Now you're understanding the difference. It's not like that for women. It is for men.

4. Just because we have the ability to fuck every attractive thing we see (which is bullshit, that's ridiculous) and dont "exercise" that power, doesn't mean we're not horny, it's called tact and self-respect.

No. I said attractive women had the ability to fuck any attractive thing they see. Fat women, obviously, do not.

And no, I hate to burst your little female misconception there, but the reason guys do fuck everything they can and women don't is not because of self-respect. That's just a little female fairytale you guys like to tell yourself to try and make yourselves feel better about the way guys use women so much, and to tear down other women who aren't as inhibited about sex (affectionately referred to as sluts).

I mean, do you realize what you're saying? That the only reason guys have more meaningless sex than women is because we don't have the self-respect of women? That your sex drive is exactly the same, but we just do it because we're crappier people than women for NO DISCERNIBLE REASON? Seriously? Do you know how silly that sounds?

Sorry, no. It's because, GENERALLY, guys have sex drives that are significantly stronger than women which convinces us to do things that, objectively, we know are really shitty. Like using lots and lots of women for sex.

Just like, as you pointed out, an addict with an addiction who will do bad things to get what they want. Women, generally, the "addiction" is weaker, so they have an easier time resisting.

And then women, very much like you, can't understand why men aren't as able to resist it and blame it on something as silly as self-respect.

Sorry, no. We're just programmed different than you. Men are not women with penises. Women are not men with tits.

Finally...just because you have had sex with a lot of women (congratulations by the way that's really impressive and I'm really happy for you) doesn't mean you know the first thing about them.

Actually, sorry, it does. It means I've got a really good representative sample of female sexuality to observe from. You haven't. You only have yourself, and obviously think that's how all women are. And from what I've observed, female sexuality and sex drive varies WAY more in women than it does in men. But in general, it's less active than men.

P.S. now I'm really sad because I bet you're an example of a typical hopped-up,macho male, and that's all there is to reproduce with. looks like no babies for me.

Nope. I'm pretty normal. Not at all macho. I just starting having a lot of sex in college and never stopped.

Posted by AnAppleSnail So...videos of heterosexual sex are only for men? There's a reason producers have started showing the man's face, and it's not just to make you cringe.

I'm not saying there's no women who like porn. I've met a few.

But generally? Nope. They're not into it.

So, yes, porn is mainly, overwhelmingly, almost totally for men.

Nah, we just caught more ^.^ Did you know that hospitals have, for years, been keeping it secret when a baby has a genetic defect that he or she couldn't possibly have if the husband were the father? It's patient rights or something.

Come on, brah. You know men cheat more. We're scumbags. I'm a guy, and even I'll admit that unflattering truth about men.

I think women lie more, though.

I feel that you must know different types of women than I do. I'm quite willing to admit that either or both of us could be quite wrong about most women, though. I think that you have too narrow a view on them, but then again I'm also the one pretending to be wise or some BS...so I'm gonna take the strength of my opinion with a grain of salt too.

Well, I've known women who would've been down with a two-guy threesome. I've even had that conversation with them (although I wouldn't have done it in a million fucking years). Maybe a few more than that have thought about it but would never actually consider doing it.

But most women I've known? That sort of thing would've been a major league turn-off. Maybe it has something to do with the way our society hammers women from the time they hit puberty about not doing anything "slutty." And since a threesome usually falls into that category, maybe that's why they're repulsed by the idea. I don't know.

But I do know most women aren't into that shit. Same goes for porn and sexual adventuring, although less on that, probably because there's less stigma on that sort of thing.

And I also know I'm gonna keep getting screeching disagreement from the women on here, but let's face it. The Girls of UER are not exactly the epitome of your average woman. Most women are the boring little secretaries you see at work, or cashiers at Wal-mart, or even middle-aged women and old ladies at church.

But BOY HOWDY did I call it about drawing female ire or what? How dare I say something negative about women.

*dons flame retardant suit*

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, people, but male and female sexuality are not societal constructs. At least not 100% (not even close). We're very different in that area. Everyone is different, of course. There are oversexual women and undersexual men. But generally? Men and women very different.

Like I said above. Women are not men with penises. Men are not women with tits. There's a hell of a lot more difference than that.

So, yes, Virginia, it really isn't "normal" or "average" for a chick to want a threesome. I'm sorry. It's just not. God help me I wish it was, but it's not.

Some of my difference in opinion could be partly due to the fact that I am sadly slightly older than the average UER member and tend to date a bit older than myself anyway. But I'm still right for the most part about women not being into that shit.

Who knows. Maybe threesomes and ass-fucking are all the rage with the kids these days and I'm just old and out of touch now.

Since we are objectifying mode, I might as well add this:

A woman's place may not be behind a stove, but good god can they work it when they do.

Posted by dirt A woman's place may not be behind a stove, but good god can they work it when they do.

That's totally not true in my mother's case or any of the other females I've been with (aside from the current one)