So yeah, 3 weeks into the single life and I'm lonely as hell...
Where do socially awkward people meet girls? I promised myself I'd never try plentyofbaggage again. Umm... I mean plenty of fish.

http://www.uer.ca/love/


_Sorry.

i really don't think youre going to have a whole lot of luck in the dating scene while you're battling loneliness. everyone is different, but i always give myself at least three months after a relationship ends before i start dating again.
spend the time you would have spent chillin with the gf tucking into your projects like mad. do whatever you can to distract yourself and get smashed on the weekends until you don't have to work so hard at keeping it off your mind.
once you get used to flying solo again and relax, there will be a lot less tension around you. girls can smell it. if youre keyed-up or anxious about anything youll be dead in the water soon as you hit the doorbell.
i remember these days very clearly and im telling you, theres no easy answer you just have to ride it out. you only get one shot at each girl, you wanna take that shot when youre at your best because they won't give you a second chance. you screw up once youre done. so get those projects done, line up new ones, call up old friends and fill your calendar with rallies tailgate parties wing night get your bug running Tight and when the girls start coming to you, thats when you know that youre ready because theyre smelling it on you. good luck

and Stay the Hell Away From POF that place is a giant online looney-bin. the only worthwhile people I ever met who were on that thing I met some other way and ran screaming from it after 3 weeks

Bandi, now you know how I feel.

I've been floating around since January like this.

Sam just wants to be close friends, I promised him I wouldn't say much on here, but I've been floating around aimlessly, lost since after the first of the year.

I'm sure anybody that's talked to me probably knows this by now. I'm still pretty broken hearted and I can't move forward, at least not now. I mean, we still go out to dinner and other stuff, but it's not the same. He just doesn't understand how much I've been hurt and why I get upset after seeing him sometimes.

I know, most people will say just break it off and cut it off for good, but I'm not that kind of person.

All I really can say is he's a selfish son of a bitch that didn't and doesn't really care about my feelings in all of this and I hate him for it, but he's such a big part of me that I can't seem to let go of and I can't stay mad at him for more than ten minutes. I never could.

But yeah, I understand how you feel. I'm lonely myself and I miss him. I'm sure you wonder how and why I do, but when someone is such a big part of you for 3 years and one day that just disappears, you're not the same.

Shael

That's a tough situation to be in, when the person you love just decides one day they don't want or need you anymore.

Posted by metawaffle That's a tough situation to be in, when the person you love just decides one day they don't want or need you anymore.

You can say that again.

He still "needs" me, but to do his fucking income taxes and balance his checkbook.

Shael

Don't go looking for someone until you grow comfortable with yourself and your situation. If you're just looking to fill an empty void, that's all you'll get.

I've noticed that the less people worry about finding someone to be with, the more likely they are to find who they're looking for.

Still, sending happy thoughts

and okcupid. There are tons of needy awkward people on there.

But I'd say get a project. Or a dog! Get a dog.

Posted by olive http://2.bp.blogsp...ellfordOntario.jpg

HAHAHAHAHA perfect

Except for the certain patron there who wants me in a bad way, and she scares the shit out of me.

I just don't dig the cougar love.

Posted by steponmebbbboom and Stay the Hell Away From POF that place is a giant online looney-bin. the only worthwhile people I ever met who were on that thing I met some other way and ran screaming from it after 3 weeks

It's impressively bad, eh? I've dated a few off of there over the years who should have been in an institution, and learned one actually was for 6 months after we split.

edit: I should clarify - I learned that after we split, she had been in an institution for 6 months, but before we met.

oh dude you spend any serious time on there youre going to think all girls are like that and there's no hope left. POF is a clearinghouse for mentally ill and BDSM types who can't have normal relationships. No one with a clear and healthy perspective lasts for more than a few weeks on that site. I didn't, friends of mine didn't, but there's a whole ream of gorgeous girls who have been on that site for YEARS and are still making men miserable. If you go on the forums you can find their join dates, it's a real eye opener.
I sympathise with the mentally ill, but not when im on a date. There is an alarming number of borderlines (BPD) on that site and ive met a few, google that one if youre not familiar. You simply cannot get close to a borderline without getting hurt.
Dont do it, make real friends and go to real social gatherings you have a much higher chance of finding someone who knows how to cultivate a long-lasting relationship with you. If you can get rid of someone with no more than a mouseclick youre not going to worry about nonexistent social consequences for your actions, thats why so many unhealthy people use POF for dating. They already scared all their neighbours and friends away! Youre not going to crap all over someone if he/she shares like 90% of your friends because now, consequences matter. So wait til youre ready, make friends, date friends of friends and treat them right.

Posted by steponmebbbboom ... for mentally ill and BDSM types who can't have normal relationships...

I take so much offense it's unreal, sir! (There's nothing wrong with us BDSM types and we do have normal and healthy relationships, so there!)

To bandi I prescribe lots of alcohol and easy women. And cars. But you have no issue getting your hands on the cars.

Lex, I was not implying that all people into BDSM were mentally ill. only that many of those that are, can be found on that site.

there's mentally ill people who have normal relationships, too---with some incredibly strong partners. Even some married couples who met on that site. but for the rest of us, that site will eat you for LUNCH.

Posted by steponmebbbboom oh dude you spend any serious time on there youre going to think all girls are like that and there's no hope left. POF is a clearinghouse for mentally ill and BDSM types who can't have normal relationships. No one with a clear and healthy perspective lasts for more than a few weeks on that site. I didn't, friends of mine didn't, but there's a whole ream of gorgeous girls who have been on that site for YEARS and are still making men miserable. If you go on the forums you can find their join dates, it's a real eye opener. I sympathise with the mentally ill, but not when im on a date. There is an alarming number of borderlines (BPD) on that site and ive met a few, google that one if youre not familiar. You simply cannot get close to a borderline without getting hurt. Dont do it, make real friends and go to real social gatherings you have a much higher chance of finding someone who knows how to cultivate a long-lasting relationship with you. If you can get rid of someone with no more than a mouseclick youre not going to worry about nonexistent social consequences for your actions, thats why so many unhealthy people use POF for dating. They already scared all their neighbours and friends away! Youre not going to crap all over someone if he/she shares like 90% of your friends because now, consequences matter. So wait til youre ready, make friends, date friends of friends and treat them right.

:'(

Josh and I met on there and we're getting married....

Posted by steponmebbbboom Lex, I was not implying that all people into BDSM were mentally ill. only that many of those that are, can be found on that site. there's mentally ill people who have normal relationships, too---with some incredibly strong partners. Even some married couples who met on that site. but for the rest of us, that site will eat you for LUNCH.

I was just kidding around. ;D

I also know a certain mutual friend who hunts big game on that site... the only positive use for POF that I can think of... but don't blow her cover, lexi.

I got a dog.

Posted by Lexi I take so much offense it's unreal, sir! (There's nothing wrong with us BDSM types and we do have normal and healthy relationships, so there!) To bandi I prescribe lots of alcohol and easy women. And cars. But you have no issue getting your hands on the cars.

HAHAHAHA...

so done with the easy ones. I want a damn wife.