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metawaffle King of Puns
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| | | | Re: Violation of trust...? < Reply # 2 on 1/25/2011 1:18 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Reading someone's email is a recipe for disaster, really. Indulging one's insecurity is never going to be good, regardless of whether anything untoward happens to show up. All it'll do is build guilt and suspicion. And, is it really surprising if one's partner's email has things that one doesn't want to see? We all have relationships with people other than our partner, as we should, and like you said, the conversations we have with those people may well not be fit for general perusal. So, like you said, curiosity and the cat, and so on? Whether any of this is grounds to end a relationship, though, is a tricky question. Nobody really needs a reason to do such a thing, ultimately, and it's difficult to distinguish a reason from an excuse.
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| hydrotherapy Clever Girl
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| | | | Re: Violation of trust...? < Reply # 6 on 1/25/2011 8:00 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by Senseriffic Lets say you had your significant other's password or phone or something that would give you the ability to find out about what the talk about with their best friend. | Chances are good they've known this best friend longer than they've known you, and quite possibly have been through much more with them. Relationships with other people are healthy. You won't, or at least shouldn't, be the end all of your significant other's social life. Lets say you act on that urge to snoop around a bit | That's your own problem. You know what you're getting into, and you knew from the beginning it wasn't right. and find something that is THE PAST | Then drop it. Easy enough, right? Oh wait, you decided to start prying for no good reason other than you had 'an urge' to. and was a personal conversation between your significant other and their best friend and you do not like this conversation at all because it was never really meant for YOU to read. | No shit it wasn't meant for you to read, nothing in someone's phone or email unless forwarded or pasted is for you to read, subject aside. I wouldn't have an ounce of respect for you, as your significant other, if you didn't show me the same respect. And lets say you are UNDERSTANDABLY upset over this and decide to tell your SO you read this. And of course then drama ensues. | You got what you deserved. Would something like this really be considered a violation of trust and grounds to end a relationship? Or is it just bad judgement and a case of curiosity killed the cat?
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| cdevon
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| | | | Re: Violation of trust...? < Reply # 7 on 1/25/2011 8:18 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by hydrotherapy
Chances are good they've known this best friend longer than they've known you, and quite possibly have been through much more with them. Relationships with other people are healthy. You won't, or at least shouldn't, be the end all of your significant other's social life.
That's your own problem. You know what you're getting into, and you knew from the beginning it wasn't right.
Then drop it. Easy enough, right? Oh wait, you decided to start prying for no good reason other than you had 'an urge' to.
No shit it wasn't meant for you to read, nothing in someone's phone or email unless forwarded or pasted is for you to read, subject aside. I wouldn't have an ounce of respect for you, as your significant other, if you didn't show me the same respect.
You got what you deserved.
It should be over.
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| thatwhichisi
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| | | | Re: Violation of trust...? < Reply # 19 on 1/27/2011 8:04 AM > | Reply with Quote
| | | one reason relationships dont work that many people overlook: though you should keep your well being in mind, people care more about themselves than others. you apparently gave them the passwords and what not for email information.. just be straight up and say no, let the drama revolve around that.. because what was the point in giving it to them? thats a sign that it may get USED AT SOME POINT. everyone has problems. so, this persons problem may be insecurity. some others, perhaps they lie well, drink too much, etc.. but, knowing that all human beings are flawed, committing to a relationship does in fact mean dealing with someone elses downfalls. of course, what it is does make a difference. (like, addiction or stalking, may be a bit much..) in a healthy relationship, i would assume, the people involved would be working toward self improvement and communication of the process when needed. we are all still learning how to deal with life. in my opinion, i dont think that this somewhat vague (the first sentence as well) description is grounds for an end.. because nothing is ever black and white, and exceptions for rules are constant.. though as mentioned, watch for the recurrence, and other shit.
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