Ugh, my parents are very, very against UE. That's not the thing that makes me angry though. Those of you who know me know that I am very open minded and tolerant of other people's beliefs and ethics. However, I can't stand the fact that my mom is constantly talking me down about it. I've talked to her about it and she starts talking shit about UE. Here's a rough translation of what went down: "DRAINING? What's so fun about that? Why don't I give you a pile of shit to play with? Would that make you happy? Huh? What the hell is wrong with you?! Yaddayaddayadda!"
So now I'm waiting for Monday to roll around so I can "go to a friends house" (Draining). Hey, I would tell my parents everything I do if they weren't so intolerant. I tried talking to them about this too. Another rough translation "I'm your fucking mother! I don't need to fucking respect you or your privacy!"

Well that's how life is sometimes

Teen angst, sucks balls don't it? Your parents are just doing their jobs. Do what you'd like and just don't let them find out.

Just be glad your parents give a shit. Mine let me do whatever I wanted and it took me a while to learn they didn't do me any favors.

Get used to it brother. I'm 39 years old and I still catch shit from my parents. It only happens every once in a while, but it still happens.

Changes in your mentality will occur as you get older. This applies to your parents as well. Your relationship will improve greatly. You'll notice it once you have completed school and you are out on your own.

Bottom line - It's your parents job to behave that way, and they do it because they love you.

Hang tough. You'll get through it.

My parents don't give me a lot of hell over anything. I explore with my dad, and my mom thought buying weed for my ex-roommate for his birthday gift was a really good idea.

I think it's because they know I'm smart and capable and trust me to be safe, or they're okay with me making mistakes and learning from them.

Here's what you do: let Mom get you a pile of shit to play with then continue to go exploring but without telling them. You're just going over to a friend's house to watch Shark Week on Discovery Channel or some such non-dangerous shit like that.

I'm almost 35, I live with my parents, which is a sad situation.
I feel your pain.
I took a business trip to Memphis about a month and a half ago, I was gone for two weeks, you'd think I was going to be gone six months with the way my mom behaved about it. She insisted on calling me at least twice a day, at least once at work and the facility where I was working had two other people with the same name as me, so finding me was a challenge. The first time, I almost thought someone had died or something.
Anyway, going anywhere is impossible without leaving a phone number or something. One of the reasons I'm glad I no longer have a cellphone. So I have to sneak to do anything fun.
I go with Samurai late at night sometimes, after he gets off 3-11 because that's the only time we have together. I'm usually off on the weekend he works 3-11, so we spend three or four hours together on those nights. Well, usually that causes my parents to get upset, why, I have no idea.
And they wonder why I bought something I thought I would never break down and buy, an Mp3 player and use it constantly, so I don't have to listen to them.
Yes, I need to move, badly.

Shael

Posted by PorkChopExpress Get used to it brother. I'm 39 years old and I still catch shit from my parents. It only happens every once in a while, but it still happens. Changes in your mentality will occur as you get older. This applies to your parents as well. Your relationship will improve greatly. You'll notice it once you have completed school and you are out on your own. Bottom line - It's your parents job to behave that way, and they do it because they love you. Hang tough. You'll get through it.

Exactly. I'm 41, living on my own and still catch it from my Mom from time to time. My Mom and I don't agree on a few things and when we started discussing them, there was an all out war between her and I. We've agreed to disagree on them. That is, we just don't discuss them at all. We know each others opinions and we also realize we can't change each other's opinion. After that agreement, I find it so much easier to talk with Mom about other stuff and actually enjoy the time we speak together.

Just don't discuss it with her. You know her opinion and her attitude and there's no way you can change that. Agree to disagree and move on.
Makes for peace, lower blood pressure and fewer to no ulcers.

And be careful eh?

Hey kiddo...keep your chin up. One day, your parents will tremble with fear every time you mention the words 'Home,' and 'extended care facility.'

Trust me. Time is on your side.

Posted by KublaKhan Hey kiddo...keep your chin up. One day, your parents will tremble with fear every time you mention the words 'Home,' and 'extended care facility.' Trust me. Time is on your side.

ftw. Hilarious.

Hey Iqueld,

I totally agree with what Wilky said. Lying is the best thing you can do in this situation, and it works great. I was a good kid who always told the truth to her parents. This did not really work in my favour ever, because my being honest didn't correlate with more trust. Parents feel they need to object to certain things even if deep down they may not care. Here's an easy way to go around it.

LOL, I'm still not 100% sure what gender Skold is.

I am 42 and still get those lectures from my husband, once in awhile by my parents and now from my 16 year old daughter. Pisses me off every time but I know where it is coming from. I came home from 2 different places this summer with some nasty battle wounds and caught hell from my kid. At your age it is their job to tell you those things and your job to try and do the opposite.

I am much different from most parents. You learn much more from doing. Hearing, reading and watching is just a good start. I ask my kid if she wants to go with me. When you get told no and go anyway 'cause I know you will, be mindful of that, pay attention to what is around you and be smart about it. Always tell someone where you are going so if it does go bad you have got a chance.

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Hey kiddo...keep your chin up. One day, your parents will tremble with fear every time you mention the words 'Home,' and 'extended care facility.'

Trust me. Time is on your side.

KK I love the way you think and it scares me

Lie like your life depends on it. It'll get you places, like across borders and on week-long camping trips or hotel stays with your older boyfriend.

It works wonders, as long as they don't find out. Take it from me - I'm probably the best liar here.

I'm a parent of soon to be three teenagers. I don't always like what I'm hearing from them,but I do try to be as non judgemental as I can. I'm not naive enough to think that I know everything that goes on,but thanks for reminding me that good communication is vital,for everyone's sake. As far as exploring goes,I'm planning on taking them along soon, to something easy.
Maybe your parents will want to actually come along someday Iqueld and if not,I agree that you should just keep on keepin' on with it,albeit safely.


~And yeah,I'm 34 and my Mom isn't speaking to me these days because I'm moving out west for a year,and won't be around for our monthly or so coffee tawk sessions. So I'm guessing that she's going to spend the remainder of my time here being pissed off,instead of spending time together. Parents....

Posted by Wilky Just be glad your parents give a shit. Mine let me do whatever I wanted and it took me a while to learn they didn't do me any favors.

God, that really explains a lot of things.

Posted by MutantMandias God, that really explains a lot of things.

Would it be my 3.8 high school GPA or graduating from Michigan State with a 3.5? Oh, or were you talking about why we don't agree on a lot of subjects here?


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I'm just saying that the fact that you had shitty hippy parents and feel spiteful about it is reflected in your reactionary conservatism.

Posted by Wilky Would it be my 3.8 high school GPA or graduating from Michigan State with a 3.5? Oh, or were you talking about why we don't agree on a lot of subjects here?

that's a lot of dickwaving considering I work with guys who have more education and make less than I do... with no college degree.

When it comes to parenting, well, what can you say? Either you got a good set or you got a shitty set, kind of like steak knives; Some are sharper than others. I was lucky and had a good set. My mom was good enough to let me live my own life and learn from my mistakes than to apron-string me to death.

I remember telling my mother about exploring the convent in my neighborhood when I was a teen. She just rolled her eyes in the beginning, but after a while I would recognize the sound of her car as it pulled up to the building. Shortly after, you would hear my mom yelling "Debi, get out of that damn convent!" Of course, she was a parent and was worried that I'd get hurt, fall through a floor, or that I would "meet" someone inside the building who might hurt me. Valid concerns for a parent.

I never stopped exploring, and now my daughter is my favorite exploring partner.

Is there anyway your mother would be interested in exploring? Because thinking back, I think if I could have talked my mother into it, she would have enjoyed it.

Haha, come on guys. I'm just saying. Your parents don't necessarily influence how you turn out. I'm not trying to wave any dick here. Just saying that once your older than the age of 13 you pretty much have control over your future. And Samurai, the majority of the people I work with don't have a college degree and I still respect them the same as other people who do. It really has no bearing if your willing to put in the hard work to achieve a goal your striving for. I know plenty of people who have their master's and lack the common sense of people who didn't even graduate high school. There are two different kind of smarts, book smarts and street smarts. Unfortunately the latter of those two doesn't get the credit it deserves in our society.

P.S. - yes, my parents were dirty hippies and I will probably end up taking care of them when they are old and decrepit. But damn do they have good taste in music.