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thatwhichisi
Location: connecticut Gender: Neither Total Likes: 0 likes
i am nemo... and so are you.
| | | | Re: What do women want? < Reply # 6 on 2/8/2011 9:11 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | ahhhhhh.... life... arent men the hunters, women the gatherers? people bitch at you when you try to avoid animalistic instincts, then bitch at you when thats what people do, follow their animalistic instincts... its the 3 mother fucking bitches out of the 10 girls, its the 3 piece of shit bastards out of the 10 guys that give the whole fucking lot a shit name. frankly, im fucking pissed at it right now. i am truly saddened by the generally percieved rift between male and female.. once again, its the few that leave a bad taste in our mouth.. (maybe a pun intended..) mr.fuzzy, i like what you have here... Posted by Mr. Fuzzy From a little bit of reading I've done on the subject recently, women pass up the nice guy because he's too giving/submitting, too eager to do whatever she says. He's too easy, too disinteresting. They go for the dominating macho jerk because they like his appeal, and the "challenge factor". They usually think they can change him (which ultimately is not the case, outside of extreme circumstances). The key is somewhere in the middle: be a challenge (i.e. don't give in all the time and be her bitch) unlike the submissive nice guy, but not be a total asshole to her like the jerk (never giving in).
| though, i feel that i would like to expand upon it, and so i have.. "From a little bit of reading I've done on the subject recently, women pass up the nice guy because he's too giving/submitting, too eager to do whatever she says. He's too easy, too disinteresting, because they are caught up in doing it by the book, the "right and courtly way" with flowers, and opening doors, over polite conversation, allowing her opinion to over-rule.. too quick to shower them with lovespeak, after only x dates or conversation.. not very believable. They go for the dominating macho jerk because they like his confident, almost selfish-nature appeal, perhaps terribly honest.. (thus making a good liar as he only lies TO HER when he needs to) taking care of his wants first, showing he has a personality that will last more than a month. They see parts of him as a "challenge factor". They sometimes think they can change certain aspects of him (which ultimately is not the case, outside of extreme circumstances). The key is somewhere in the middle: first, find a girl that is even worth your time.. then be a challenge (i.e. don't give in all the time and be her bitch) unlike the submissive nice guy, but not be a total asshole to her like the jerk (never giving in)." trying to be dual sided here.. i dont think that any sex is superior.. both are misunderstood by the other greatly, blaming each other it seems, constantly. something i hafta tell myself and others, BE CONFIDENT! i hate my own guts and thats not going to help me in any way whatsoever!! how the hell can anyone like me if i am unsure of myself? but i know i have that, so i can start from there.. trying to fix it. perhaps i am too straightforward with faceless strangers..
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| | | Re: What do women want? < Reply # 10 on 2/10/2011 12:51 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by thatwhichisi ahhhhhh.... life... arent men the hunters, women the gatherers? people bitch at you when you try to avoid animalistic instincts, then bitch at you when thats what people do, follow their animalistic instincts... its the 3 mother fucking bitches out of the 10 girls, its the 3 piece of shit bastards out of the 10 guys that give the whole fucking lot a shit name. frankly, im fucking pissed at it right now.
i am truly saddened by the generally percieved rift between male and female.. once again, its the few that leave a bad taste in our mouth.. (maybe a pun intended..) mr.fuzzy, i like what you have here...
though, i feel that i would like to expand upon it, and so i have.. "From a little bit of reading I've done on the subject recently, women pass up the nice guy because he's too giving/submitting, too eager to do whatever she says. He's too easy, too disinteresting, because they are caught up in doing it by the book, the "right and courtly way" with flowers, and opening doors, over polite conversation, allowing her opinion to over-rule.. too quick to shower them with lovespeak, after only x dates or conversation.. not very believable. They go for the dominating macho jerk because they like his confident, almost selfish-nature appeal, perhaps terribly honest.. (thus making a good liar as he only lies TO HER when he needs to) taking care of his wants first, showing he has a personality that will last more than a month. They see parts of him as a "challenge factor". They sometimes think they can change certain aspects of him (which ultimately is not the case, outside of extreme circumstances). The key is somewhere in the middle: first, find a girl that is even worth your time.. then be a challenge (i.e. don't give in all the time and be her bitch) unlike the submissive nice guy, but not be a total asshole to her like the jerk (never giving in)."
trying to be dual sided here.. i dont think that any sex is superior.. both are misunderstood by the other greatly, blaming each other it seems, constantly. something i hafta tell myself and others, BE CONFIDENT! i hate my own guts and thats not going to help me in any way whatsoever!! how the hell can anyone like me if i am unsure of myself? but i know i have that, so i can start from there.. trying to fix it. perhaps i am too straightforward with faceless strangers..
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Tl; dr women want me.
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| | | | Re: What do women want? < Reply # 11 on 2/10/2011 9:56 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by aurelie
Aw, don't ever use that phrase, and try to avoid that frame of mind. Same goes for women when referring to men. It's cynical, not logical. You may not meet your ideal, but you'll always meet people who defy your negative expectations.
| Orly-san, stereotypes are created by experience, based on analysis of groups of people. Someone earlier said the 3 out of 10 ruin it for everyone, but I think it's more like 8 or 9 out of 10. Only every once in a while someone comes along, and you're like "whooaaaaaa.... but she's so awesome and not like the others". I don't just want to meet people who defy my negative expectation, I want to meet people who surpass my positive expectations.
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| thatwhichisi
Location: connecticut Gender: Neither Total Likes: 0 likes
i am nemo... and so are you.
| | | | Re: What do women want? < Reply # 12 on 2/11/2011 5:19 AM > | Reply with Quote
| | | http://netforbegin...-abbreviations.htmhahah had to use this to figure what the fuck tl;dr meant.. and wow kid, you sure know how to pick some shitttty girls then. unless i am just that fucking special. ..... .... ......... nah, maybe its you.. or... maybe its true that no one gives a shit about anyone else but themselves. that is a stereotype that is mostly learned from experience.
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| thatwhichisi
Location: connecticut Gender: Neither Total Likes: 0 likes
i am nemo... and so are you.
| | | | Re: What do women want? < Reply # 15 on 2/11/2011 2:09 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | but thats what im saying!! and i hope you mean that.. are you 60? heh. way to keep up exploring! (i mean that) yeah, you may be older, and that may be part of the jaded problem. im not trying to be an asshole. i only say that because i consider 'adult' to be a four letter word. "STEREOtypically" speaking, havent you noticed that it seems the older alot of people get, the more entitled to things people think that they are? the more 'tantrums' they throw when things dont go their way? the more blame they insinuate toward the supposed offending party? the less open minded to differing opinion they are, content to continue their mental comfort routine, and the less likely they are to actually try new things.. not ALL, of course. but repeating learned patterns.. i never want to be that. but i think that it is quite IMPOSSIBLE for the largest majority on this planet of normal, non-power wielding humans to strictly be out to be terrible people.. (though some exist) i think that most people just want to be happy. and, selfishness being a human trait, people selfishly and unselfishly try to make others happy to get positive response back towards them, so they can be happy. im jaded as fuck too, to tell you the truth. (note extreme hate i revealed in previous reply) but thank goodness i have some intelligent recognition of myself being the one holding myself from evolving. (some dont, im friends with some.) in every single dating or interested in dating situation i have ever been in, i always ended up choosing the person that was not good for me. people who were not willing to give a fuck, to learn with, who didnt strive for life, etc. thinking that people are generally out to fuck someone over is very jaded, yeah. sometimes having such a thought pattern, you can miss a good opportunity and not even know it. im lucky as heck to have literally found, in an abandonment, the wonderful male i am with now. and i also recognize that if it doesnt work out in the end, it was not because hes terrible. people sadly change and grow in different directions sometimes. i hope that these peoples opinions on this board are altering your reality a little bit.. i know i learn from here. but from myself, trying to continue education in these and other matters, as well.
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