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dirt
Location: Oakland, CA Gender: Male Total Likes: 0 likes
Je suis très aimable et très caustique.
| | | | | Re: the friend zone < Reply # 5 on 3/24/2008 7:34 AM > | Reply with Quote
| | | I have been in the friend zone more times than I can count. I ended a long term friendship because of it(although not as simple as my wanting to get in her pants). I'm one of those nice guys to a fault, always vigilant about not hurting feelings, listening, being accepting, and all that other crap. Skold is right, one need to be able to communicate clearly how one feels and what your basic intentions are(and when they don't bother to even try to communicate, like in my case, you have to let them go, like I did). I wouldn't go as far as being a dick, though.
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| KublaKhan
Location: Edinburgh, Scotland Total Likes: 207 likes
With Satan, it's always gimmie, gimmie.
| | | Re: the friend zone < Reply # 9 on 3/26/2008 7:35 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Next time you're alone with her, watching the news and trading informed comments on the world's suffering, or maybe out for a walk on the beach while she's telling your about her asshole whatever-his-name-is, or maybe when you're visiting her apartment after agreeing to take care of her cat while she's away on vacation with whatever and she's giving you instructions on how to change the kitty litter, or maybe you're at a co-ed yoga class and/or an organic cooking class, something like that...the next time you see an opportunity, pinch her teats and tell her she makes you horny. Let me know how it works out.
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| KublaKhan
Location: Edinburgh, Scotland Total Likes: 207 likes
With Satan, it's always gimmie, gimmie.
| | | Re: the friend zone < Reply # 12 on 3/26/2008 11:46 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by White Rabbit
Maybe, maybe not. Women's sexual attraction is most definitely NOT based on looks alone. With women, it's as much about power and status as it is looks, probably moreso. See: All the rich and/or powerful ugly guys who bag hot chicks left and right. Hell, just having an arrogant aura about yourself can improve your sexual attraction with women by orders of magnitude. And conversely, you can be an attractive guy who's a limp-wristed pansy and have problems that way. There's all kinds of reasons besides his looks that could be making him sexually unattractive to her. Hard to diagnose specifically without knowing him.
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| dirt
Location: Oakland, CA Gender: Male Total Likes: 0 likes
Je suis très aimable et très caustique.
| | | | | Re: the friend zone < Reply # 13 on 3/27/2008 2:01 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by White Rabbit
Maybe, maybe not. Women's sexual attraction is most definitely NOT based on looks alone. With women, it's as much about power and status as it is looks, probably moreso. See: All the rich and/or powerful ugly guys who bag hot chicks left and right. Hell, just having an arrogant aura about yourself can improve your sexual attraction with women by orders of magnitude. And conversely, you can be an attractive guy who's a limp-wristed pansy and have problems that way. There's all kinds of reasons besides his looks that could be making him sexually unattractive to her. Hard to diagnose specifically without knowing him.
| I don't disagree, but I don't agree either. You are right if you want to land yourself someone hot and with as much personality as a brick. And as we all know, bricks are only good for two things: Stacking large numbers on top of each other, and throwing through a window. It has been my experience that self confidence goes a very long way. And if I was to be a arrogant asshole, I would be stuck in a hell of dumb tarts, amateur night(read:Friday & Saturday nights) at bars, shopping malls(because I'd need to keep up my douchebag appearance). No thanks, not the game I want to play. I think it boils down to this, no matter what, one can always find a mate. Hell, even my brother could do it, and he is the most socially awkward person I have ever met(albeit she was a Scientologist, a really hot one at that, but still she was a Scientologist). I think that how one comes off is a major deciding factor on what kind of person one attracts. If you are the shy, awkward type, you will attract someone who is a bit nuts. If you are an ego maniac, you will attract bricks. If you are modest and self confident, you will attract a smarter, balanced(and sometimes older)lover.
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| maypost
Location: North, South, East, West, all around... then down to the underground Gender: Male Total Likes: 56 likes
Exploring if for n00bz0rz
| | | Re: the friend zone < Reply # 14 on 3/27/2008 4:22 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by dirt
I don't disagree, but I don't agree either. You are right if you want to land yourself someone hot and with as much personality as a brick. And as we all know, bricks are only good for two things: Stacking large numbers on top of each other, and throwing through a window. It has been my experience that self confidence goes a very long way. And if I was to be a arrogant asshole, I would be stuck in a hell of dumb tarts, amateur night(read:Friday & Saturday nights) at bars, shopping malls(because I'd need to keep up my douchebag appearance). No thanks, not the game I want to play. I think it boils down to this, no matter what, one can always find a mate. Hell, even my brother could do it, and he is the most socially awkward person I have ever met(albeit she was a Scientologist, a really hot one at that, but still she was a Scientologist). I think that how one comes off is a major deciding factor on what kind of person one attracts. If you are the shy, awkward type, you will attract someone who is a bit nuts. If you are an ego maniac, you will attract bricks. If you are modest and self confident, you will attract a smarter, balanced(and sometimes older)lover.
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| Wiccan
Location: Hamilton Ontario Gender: Female Total Likes: 16 likes
| | | Re: the friend zone < Reply # 15 on 3/27/2008 6:09 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by Lexi You're ugly. Move on to someone with lower standards.
| Interesting,coming from someone who has discussed her own personal sensitivities here. Just sayin'. Anyway,like Debi,I've also become attracted to male friends over time,in the past. My current and my last relationship have been with people I knew many years before,though I imagine that trust,familiarity and not wanting to get stuck with a psycho (again) have alot to do with that. I'd say that the only thing that put me off of these guys at the time was thier neediness and constant availability,if you will. Sad to say,there was no challenge there,which of course is unfair to say. As much as I hate to agree,being aloof with a touch of 'I don't care if you're around or not' can help. "Friend zone" guys are safe and comfortable and if permitted,you'll be destined to be the guy that a girl will call time and time again to bitch about other guys,or even to flirt with you if they know you;re into them. Up the aggression ante,as in let them know that you're into them at the get-go, and you could get better results.
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