Posted by maypost You can lay a brick too

And how else are you going to stack said bricks? The more bricks you lay, the higher the stack gets, right?

Can you lay more bricks with a big stack??

Posted by Debi Can you lay more bricks with a big stack??

http://www.youtube...atch?v=8Q7FFjUpVLg

Posted by dirt http://www.youtube...atch?v=8Q7FFjUpVLg

OH NO!

I end up on the opposite end of the spectrum some of the time where as I end up having inevitably destructive sexual relationships with girls that should have just been friends. I'm not complaining really, but it is self destructive.

BTW, in regards to an earlier tread I made in this subforum; I made it out to Germany after dropping the L bomb. Yikes... I out scum my self sometimes.

http://www.intelle.../masterladder.html

Read that and thats about all there is on the "friend zone"
I am a large believer of the ladder theory...

Posted by Pravus http://www.intelle.../masterladder.html Read that and thats about all there is on the "friend zone" I am a large believer of the ladder theory...

I think the ladder theory is retarded. More on that later, I'm late for work.

Posted by Pravus http://www.intelle.../masterladder.html Read that and thats about all there is on the "friend zone" I am a large believer of the ladder theory...

So, since the majority of my friends are female this site claims I want to bang them all?? That would be so sad. And those pie charts don't seem to be very plausible. That site is a fail.

Posted by Uncle Goose So, since the majority of my friends are female this site claims I want to bang them all?? That would be so sad. And those pie charts don't seem to be very plausible. That site is a fail.

Statistics and hooking up never seemed more lame.

Posted by vic_vr6 women, what make you put a guy into the "friend zone"? This has been a recuring theme with me and im starting to think its somehow related to the way I interact with girls.

Wow. Well, most chicks know whether they will do someone the first time they meet you. So - for me, the reason is that I just can't ever see myself being with you. That makes it being "in the friend zone".

For me it's never "I don't want to lose this relationship" or "it just didn't work out"....well, I guess that's not true - it didn't work out because there is no sexual attraction.

That being said, it works the other way sometimes - when you are friends with someone and then you notice they're kind of cute when you actually look at them LOL. So if you're having this problem with dating someone first, and then they want to be friends....perhaps playing it the other way would work.

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Posted by Pravus http://www.intelle.../masterladder.html Read that and thats about all there is on the "friend zone" I am a large believer of the ladder theory...

The ladder theory is nuts. As are most theories.

People like to believe in crap and make stuff up that tries to explain people. Here's the truth. People like to have sex. They look for someone to have sex with (men AND women). Unfortunately, sometimes one of them wants something else other than just sex. Those kinds of people shouldn't hook up. But they do, and that's why people come up with stupid theories.

Everyone is different. Believe what you want to believe...but here's another issue. That's not a THEORY, it's a hypothesis. I hate people who consider themselves smart and come up with "THEORY" when it's not one. SIGH....not you, the researcher.

Unless of course the Ladder Theory is really a joke, which I believe it is. In which case, good link ;)

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Posted by Skold Maybe you are being too nice? Girls always go for the jerks and then talk to guys like you about it haha. You should also try being more aggressive in your wooing, like letting them know early on you like them. This means being very clear cut, not something that when devoured by 10 of her friends could go either way.

Nice works....and I think if girls don't like nice and are looking for "not nice" you don't want them. Seriously, they will never be happy. They may be looking to fill certain needs caused by "baggage" or mental problems. Seriously.

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Posted by dirt I have been in the friend zone more times than I can count. I ended a long term friendship because of it(although not as simple as my wanting to get in her pants). I'm one of those nice guys to a fault, always vigilant about not hurting feelings, listening, being accepting, and all that other crap. Skold is right, one need to be able to communicate clearly how one feels and what your basic intentions are(and when they don't bother to even try to communicate, like in my case, you have to let them go, like I did). I wouldn't go as far as being a dick, though.

What!!! I saw you at the meet and greet....so the not sexually attracted theory just went out the window LOL ;)

But seriously, to the OP... what one person finds attractive, another person may think "no way"....and you never know until you date for a little bit.

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Posted by shellyl Don't act like a guy friend at the start. If you are interested in more don't hide it. I have had, well still have a few guy friends that I would have liked to have had more with. When I realized that there was an interest on their end it was too late. I was not willing to mess up the friendship for the "benefits".

I must be one of the few who actually like to be friends first and then become something? I like the fact that I can count on someone as a friend. After all, is not your best friend supposed to be your mate???

What is a guy supposed to act like if not your friend, while dating you? A jerk? This is what's confusing to me. "Don't act like a friend" just sounds very odd and confusing. I am glad I'm not a guy....

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Holy Quintuple post batman!

Post by sandaili
Wow. Well, most chicks know whether they will do someone the first time they meet you. So - for me, the reason is that I just can't ever see myself being with you. That makes it being "in the friend zone".

Post by sandaili
I must be one of the few who actually like to be friends first and then become something? I like the fact that I can count on someone as a friend. After all, is not your best friend supposed to be your mate???


Okay, so are you the type that knows the first time you meet someone if your interested in sleeping with them? Or are you indeed one of the few who likes to be friends first then watch it turn into something.

Im confused . . . .

Posted by sandaili Nice works....and I think if girls don't like nice and are looking for "not nice" you don't want them. Seriously, they will never be happy. They may be looking to fill certain needs caused by "baggage" or mental problems. Seriously. L

Yes, Yes I do.I am not nice. I do lots of bad things, and I am no neck bearded, in touch with my emotions hippy failure.

I am not a goodie goodie christian boy either.

I like drinking, driving fast, bar fights, going off with the army for months at a time and generally being a bad ass.

I dont want a girl who wants a good nice guy. I want the bad girl...hopefully she out drinks me and hits on more people then I do.

thus, since I just proved the exception to your statement (herein theory) your theory is thusly proved invalid.

Scientific method 1
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Posted by rz350 Yes, Yes I do.I am not nice. I do lots of bad things, and I am no neck bearded, in touch with my emotions hippy failure. I am not a goodie goodie christian boy either. I like drinking, driving fast, bar fights, going off with the army for months at a time and generally being a bad ass. I dont want a girl who wants a good nice guy. I want the bad girl...hopefully she out drinks me and hits on more people then I do. thus, since I just proved the exception to your statement (herein theory) your theory is thusly proved invalid. Scientific method 1 sadaili 0

LOL good luck then I've had girlfriends who go for the "bad guys" and once they settle in, they look for a new "Bad guy".

I assumed, though, that you're looking for a long term relationship. I take it you're just looking for dating/short term?

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Posted by Debi Post by sandaili Wow. Well, most chicks know whether they will do someone the first time they meet you. So - for me, the reason is that I just can't ever see myself being with you. That makes it being "in the friend zone". Post by sandaili I must be one of the few who actually like to be friends first and then become something? I like the fact that I can count on someone as a friend. After all, is not your best friend supposed to be your mate??? Okay, so are you the type that knows the first time you meet someone if your interested in sleeping with them? Or are you indeed one of the few who likes to be friends first then watch it turn into something. Im confused . . . .

They ("scientists") have "studies" that say women know the first time they meet someone, that they will sleep with them or not. Whether it's true, or whether it's even conscious, that's what they came up with.

That's why "first impressions count"....on job interviews, dates, and stuff.

I am one of those that falls in love with personality. I am one of those that does like a friend first, and then go on to a relationship.

Which probably means I am very cautious. Seems a really good way to "pre-date" someone.

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Posted by sandaili LOL good luck then I've had girlfriends who go for the "bad guys" and once they settle in, they look for a new "Bad guy". I assumed, though, that you're looking for a long term relationship. I take it you're just looking for dating/short term? L

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