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hydrotherapy Clever Girl
Location: Circle of Least Confusion Total Likes: 9 likes
RPS is inside all of us
| | | | Re: Online dating < Reply # 43 on 6/7/2011 4:50 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by Esoterik In any thread/discussion board about online dating you will get people bragging about how they have such insane game they can pull whoever they want anytime anyplace. Implying that people who use online dating are basement dwellers who have no other options.
| Stop being butthurt, no one implied that anyone who dates online are basement dwellers, and no one implied they can get infinite game. A few of us suggested it's sort of sad that even for basic MEETING PEOPLE that we're hearing a lot of excuses. I'm not saying I date everyone I run into on the street but I make a ton of new acquaintances just by getting out there and striking up conversations with people. I have no doubt online dating is easier for someone with limited time and shyness, but I'm also one of those people for whom the entire idea of 'dating' is a turn off. I never set out to be with someone, and I don't like meeting anyone under the pretense of "I'm lonely, I want to be in a relationship" or know they're meeting me under those same guidelines. Or being set up by friends, can't stand that either. I prefer friendships, and if something awesome happens, then great. So yes, take us naysayers with a grain of salt too ;) everyone has their own preferences and reasons. I just feel some of you should get out and meet people on the street more. It's not as scary as you think, and you don't have to want to date someone to strike up conversation.
| Get down, girl, go 'head, get down. |
| maypost
Location: North, South, East, West, all around... then down to the underground Gender: Male Total Likes: 56 likes
Exploring if for n00bz0rz
| | | Re: Online dating < Reply # 44 on 6/7/2011 5:04 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by hydrotherapy
Stop being butthurt, no one implied that anyone who dates online are basement dwellers, and no one implied they can get infinite game. A few of us suggested it's sort of sad that even for basic MEETING PEOPLE that we're hearing a lot of excuses. I'm not saying I date everyone I run into on the street but I make a ton of new acquaintances just by getting out there and striking up conversations with people. I have no doubt online dating is easier for someone with limited time and shyness, but I'm also one of those people for whom the entire idea of 'dating' is a turn off. I never set out to be with someone, and I don't like meeting anyone under the pretense of "I'm lonely, I want to be in a relationship" or know they're meeting me under those same guidelines. Or being set up by friends, can't stand that either. I prefer friendships, and if something awesome happens, then great. So yes, take us naysayers with a grain of salt too ;) everyone has their own preferences and reasons. I just feel some of you should get out and meet people on the street more. It's not as scary as you think, and you don't have to want to date someone to strike up conversation.
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| Esoterik
Location: Kansas City Gender: Male Total Likes: 122 likes
| | | Re: Online dating < Reply # 47 on 6/7/2011 7:27 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by hydrotherapy
Stop being butthurt, no one implied that anyone who dates online are basement dwellers, and no one implied they can get infinite game. A few of us suggested it's sort of sad that even for basic MEETING PEOPLE that we're hearing a lot of excuses. I'm not saying I date everyone I run into on the street but I make a ton of new acquaintances just by getting out there and striking up conversations with people. I have no doubt online dating is easier for someone with limited time and shyness, but I'm also one of those people for whom the entire idea of 'dating' is a turn off. I never set out to be with someone, and I don't like meeting anyone under the pretense of "I'm lonely, I want to be in a relationship" or know they're meeting me under those same guidelines. Or being set up by friends, can't stand that either. I prefer friendships, and if something awesome happens, then great. So yes, take us naysayers with a grain of salt too ;) everyone has their own preferences and reasons. I just feel some of you should get out and meet people on the street more. It's not as scary as you think, and you don't have to want to date someone to strike up conversation.
| Fine, but there was a definite judgmental vibe from some of the comments, like VBJag who was coming across like he was Casanova reincarnated, when he is actually a 22 year old college kid who has no excuse for not meeting women...... Now me, I am 43 with 2 teenage children. Almost every woman in my age range I have been interested in or meet in real life has a ring on her finger or has a boyfriend. I found online dating to be a fun way to interact with others "on the market." At least you know they are looking too!
| “You've got to remember that these are just simple farmers. These are people of the land. The common clay of the new West. You know... morons.” |
| Shawn W.
Location: Niagara Falls, NY Gender: Male Total Likes: 131 likes
Optimistic Pessimist
| | | | | Re: Online dating < Reply # 48 on 6/7/2011 7:40 PM > | Reply with Quote
| | | Posted by Louie Everyone IS different, and we should embrace it. Sorry if I offended you, but I have some anger towards psychology and psychotherapy in general, even though brief therapy has helped me with deaths of family members. I guess I have problems with categorizing people ALA the DSM... im sure the V will be very interesting. |
I look at those fields with some disdain, as well, partly due to my misdiagnosis of bipolar disorder, and the resulting prescription of lithium, which I was on for several years before taking myself off cold turkey in October 2001. The result? The world didn't end, and I've felt much more like I feel that I should. Also, last year, at my mother's request, my GP referred me to a psychiatrist to treat the depression that I've felt, which, I'd like to note, is not clinical in nature. I went with an open mind, but found a "professional" who, after the initial 45-50 minute session, pretty much dismissed my AS diagnosis and was ready to diagnose clinical depression and prescribe medication to treat it, despite not having bothered to read my medical file. When I suggested that I was open to meds, but would like to try therapy first, she asked me why I was there in the first place if I wasn't going to use meds, and rather rudely explained that she didn't have time for 45 minute sessions every time, even showing me her appointment list to illustrate the point. My initial session turned out to be my only session with her, as when she asked if I wanted her to close my case, I said yes. I am a very intelligent and independent individual, and am not going to allow myself to be bullied, especially in matters pertaining to my health, both mental and physical, and/or talked down to, whether or not the bully has an MD or other doctorate.
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