there its over with i left him.

Posted by victoria- there its over with i left him.

Congratulations. I hope you know there are many of us who are sincerely happy for you and proud of you for standing up for yourself. Don't let the next guy drag you so far down before you stand back up.

If you need anything else you know we'll always be around

Posted by Yield Congratulations. I hope you know there are many of us who are sincerely happy for you and proud of you for standing up for yourself. Don't let the next guy drag you so far down before you stand back up. If you need anything else you know we'll always be around

thanks a ton i mean it. its been a not so messy break up but it coulda went better he pulled out the i promis ill change baby i love you so much. tough stuff. but im glad its over
he dosn't wanna talk anymore ither.

Posted by victoria- thanks a ton i mean it. its been a not so messy break up but it coulda went better he pulled out the i promis ill change baby i love you so much. tough stuff. but im glad its over he dosn't wanna talk anymore ither.

1. He won't change, don't believe that shit. I pulled that bs in HS as well.

2. Not talking is a good idea, more so for him- give him time to "cool off" and think about things. If in (at least) a month, you still want to be friends with him, talk than- just be VERY clear what you want. (friends only)

Posted by victoria- thanks a ton i mean it. its been a not so messy break up but it coulda went better he pulled out the i promis ill change baby i love you so much. tough stuff. but im glad its over he dosn't wanna talk anymore ither.

Good! I'm really happy for you too. I've seen too many people fall for the whole, "i'll change I swear!!" bullshit WAAAAYYYY too often. It's quite depressing. Now you just need to be careful not to end up with someone similar. I've found that if you meet someone that reminds you of your ex, RUN FAR AWAY.

But again, congrats *hug*

Posted by Oryx Good! I'm really happy for you too. I've seen too many people fall for the whole, "i'll change I swear!!" bullshit WAAAAYYYY too often. It's quite depressing. Now you just need to be careful not to end up with someone similar. I've found that if you meet someone that reminds you of your ex, RUN FAR AWAY. But again, congrats *hug*

thankyou very much and yeah im going to be very careful. Robbie wasn't realy a guy that id go for anyways. I barely knew him when we started dating which is a big mistake. one that wont be made again.

I feel like the bad guy now. He begged and begged for me back and i said no. i hurt him.. i never wanted that ever..

Posted by victoria- I feel like the bad guy now. He begged and begged for me back and i said no. i hurt him.. i never wanted that ever..

it begins.

Sometimes you just need to say no and stick to your guns. I know women can be quite indecisive at times, thinking maybe they should have done something different or what they did might not have been the right way to do it. Hindsight is always 20/20. You need to have the willpower to stick with your decision if you truly believe it's for the better, and you will become a stronger person for it.

Good luck. Be you.

i'm definitely not going back out with him. no matter what. I just feel bad.

Posted by victoria- I feel like the bad guy now. He begged and begged for me back and i said no. i hurt him.. i never wanted that ever..

The boyfriend who raped me did that too.

Fuck that noise.

Posted by Dresden The boyfriend who raped me did that too. Fuck that noise.

^^this. trust us, curb-stomp that feeling of guilt.

thanks for all the help and support it will be a slow healing process but it will get better eventuly.

Posted by victoria- I feel like the bad guy now. He begged and begged for me back and i said no. i hurt him.. i never wanted that ever..

Well you can't reasonably expect someone to be thrilled by a breakup. The great thing is, with time, you guys will both move on and find significant others more suited to your needs! Unless you guys get back together... But that too is a life lesson haha.

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Posted by MindHacker <applause>

Encore?

_{Just teasin', victoria.}

I took the day off school yesterday and hungout with friends that he wouldn't let me hangout with while we were dating. I had a ton of fun. I dont feel sad anymore i just feel sorry for him being so Butthurt.

Posted by victoria- I took the day off school yesterday and hungout with friends that he wouldn't let me hangout with while we were dating. I had a ton of fun. I dont feel sad anymore i just feel sorry for him being so Butthurt.

Awesome. You're freeeee!

These next few days for you are going to be critical.

Being alone is the worst. Your heart and your head are going to wage a war, and you're going to have second thoughts. DON'T let yourself get lost in your thoughts. Don't text him, don't call him, don't put sappy updates on your facebook about him.

Go out with friends, go to the movies, surround yourself with people, and don't bring up the ex. Basically, go have the time of your life.

I'm telling you this because I just went through a breakup. Like in your situation, my bf was more interested in spending time with Mary Jane and video games than he was with me. Since we've broken up, I've had the time of my life. I've seen people I haven't seen in a while, I've gone exploring, and I've learned how to be happy with myself without him.

You'll do great. Best of luck.