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Shael
Location: Witherbee, NY. Gender: Female Total Likes: 7 likes
Baaaaah.
| | | Re: What do i do? < Reply # 142 on 6/5/2010 3:51 AM >
| | | Don't chase anybody for anything, period. At least for a while. Somebody always gets hurt in a rebound situation and there are some people that just don't deserve getting hurt that way. I'm struggling with something myself right now too, it's taking everything I have to keep from chasing someone to fill the hole that's there, so I throw myself into my job. What's worse is I work with the guy. We've worked together for almost 5 years. I'm struggling against it because I don't want to ruin a friendship and I don't want to ruin my working relationship with him for just a good lay, which I sorely need. I care about him a lot more than I probably should and I don't want or need to get hurt or hurt someone else in the process just because of something so trivial. About all I can say is just back off. Don't jump into anything. If something develops, then analyze it and if it feels right, run with it, but be careful. Somebody will get hurt if you aren't. I have a series of rules I live by, and I'd break them all just for this one person and be breaking them all for this one person...but I keep thinking of it this way, what if I ruin something that's taken an extremely long time to build? I can't afford that and I won't let that happen. So, look before you leap.
| "The best wine lies at the bottom of the pail/And Happiness lies below the navel." - Drukpa Kunley, "The Divine Madman of the Dragon Lineage" and "Saint of 5,000 Women". |
| TrixieSparrow
Location: Hamilton, ON Gender: Female Total Likes: 27 likes
I guess.
| | | Re: What do i do? < Reply # 143 on 6/5/2010 5:37 AM >
| | | Posted by Skold
Dude you called her retarded.
| No, I asked her if she was. Because she was being stupid. And she knows that. And I am sure she has come to expect honesty from me. Lying to a friend to make them feel better won't help them. It's just destructive to lie like that. I call my friends on it when they are being ridiculous, with the hopes that hearing it in blunt terms will open their eyes. Friends don't lie to you or stab you in the back because it's easier. Would you not show the same honesty to your friends? Now, victoria, why does he want you to cut contact with this guy? Also this request seems a little amusing after he just promised things would change. You aren't stupid, so I know you can see the bull he is pulling.
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| TrixieSparrow
Location: Hamilton, ON Gender: Female Total Likes: 27 likes
I guess.
| | | Re: What do i do? < Reply # 144 on 6/5/2010 5:40 AM >
| | | Posted by Shael Don't chase anybody for anything, period. At least for a while. Somebody always gets hurt in a rebound situation and there are some people that just don't deserve getting hurt that way. I'm struggling with something myself right now too, it's taking everything I have to keep from chasing someone to fill the hole that's there, so I throw myself into my job. What's worse is I work with the guy. We've worked together for almost 5 years. I'm struggling against it because I don't want to ruin a friendship and I don't want to ruin my working relationship with him for just a good lay, which I sorely need. I care about him a lot more than I probably should and I don't want or need to get hurt or hurt someone else in the process just because of something so trivial. About all I can say is just back off. Don't jump into anything. If something develops, then analyze it and if it feels right, run with it, but be careful. Somebody will get hurt if you aren't. I have a series of rules I live by, and I'd break them all just for this one person and be breaking them all for this one person...but I keep thinking of it this way, what if I ruin something that's taken an extremely long time to build? I can't afford that and I won't let that happen. So, look before you leap.
| I have to agree with this. I used to do that whole rebound thing. Never brought me anything but heartbreak in the end. I was really stupid to have ever done it. It's a habit I broke because of that. Rebound never brings happiness to any ofthe parties involved.
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| Shael
Location: Witherbee, NY. Gender: Female Total Likes: 7 likes
Baaaaah.
| | | Re: What do i do? < Reply # 147 on 6/6/2010 3:47 AM >
| | | In my case...I honestly have feelings for the guy I work with. I have for a while, probably longer than I was with Sam. I've already come to the conclusion that I really don't want Sam back, as much as I still care about him, I don't want it back. My situation is just excruciatingly complicated. It breaks a few rules I try to live by, simple ones, but ones that actually sometimes work. My biggest rules are: 1) Age difference of no more than 10 years. He breaks that rule because he's 18 years older than I am. 2) No married men. He's married but in an awful marriage. 3) No dating people you work with. I work with him and have for nearly 5 years. What's crazy is he's everything Sam isn't. He's always been there when I needed him, he's always been willing to listen and one of the first people I call when I need help. The only thing saving me from the entire thing is he doesn't have any idea how I feel. So, that's a big plus right now and I fully intend to never tell him because of those rules. I also have no clue as to how he feels about me and I fully intend to never ask. Eventually I'll get over it, but I'll trip over tongue and myself until then.
| "The best wine lies at the bottom of the pail/And Happiness lies below the navel." - Drukpa Kunley, "The Divine Madman of the Dragon Lineage" and "Saint of 5,000 Women". |
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