Cancer is so stupid. I lost my grandfather to it this January. I never had a father in my life so he was like a dad to me. He was diagnosed with stage 4 prostate cancer. He fought it till the very end. that man put up a tin roof on his house he built the last year of his life. One of those guys that just never stopped doing.
I miss him dearly.

Anyone notice facebook charging to send messages to people who are not your friends?


That's just one example and the amounts vary, one was $0.54 another was $1.00

Posted by MeoW Anyone notice facebook charging to send messages to people who are not your friends?

Yes... this shit, fuck it.

1. close fb account.
2. use actual email.
3. ????
4. PROFIT.

I could see maybe $0.05

I wanted to contact someone who had previously done a field school I'm apply for - to get their take and ask how they liked it.

I guess I could make a second facebook account and add all the people I don't like, old high school classmates, family, and pretty much anyone. Of course the person would then need to add you its so still rather pointless.

The group of fuckheads on one of LinkedIn's forums.

Posted by MeoW Anyone notice facebook charging to send messages to people who are not your friends? http://i.imgur.com/0fv8mUu.png That's just one example and the amounts vary, one was $0.54 another was $1.00

What the fuck?

When my family tells me about my cousins who've spent all this money going to college but can't find work... well duhh they majored in useless shit. No offense to anyone here, but a bachelors in any of the below is pretty useless. If you have a PhD. then there might be some work but only in academia.

- Biblical Studies
- Old Testament History and Literature
- African American History

Posted by KublaKhan The group of fuckheads on one of LinkedIn's forums.

Run a group and ban the fucktards! That's fun!

Getting REAL tired of all this passive-aggressive bullshit. I asked a person straight up why they seemed pissed at me, and all they could do was dance around the subject. And then proceed to get whiny about something trite that happened a month ago. If you're still stewing on that and THAT is your biggest beef in life? I envy you. I really do.

Posted by jellybeans95 Getting REAL tired of all this passive-aggressive bullshit.

The only real way to deal with these sorts of people is to fuck their girlfriends. Or their boyfriends. Whichever. See how they manage their 'passive aggression' then.

Posted by jeepdave Yeah. Found out a good friend has cancer a week ago, found out my dad has lung cancer Friday. Looks like best case is they will be removing his lung next week. I'm still trying not to think about worst case.

Damn that sucks. I just lost my dad to lung cancer on April 22. Unfortunately, it was by far the worst case. It happened right in front of me and it was the most fucked up and horrifying thing I could imagine. I'm still having trouble sleeping and will probably never forget it. So I definitely sympathize. I've seen some shit. Feel free to pm or call or something if you need anyone to vent to. It seems to help.

***Graphic. Like seriously possibly the most fucked up shit you'll read today. Don't read if sensitive to that shit.***
<sub>I had No idea he was close to the end. I had went out of town to mamu 5. A half hour after I got home, he went to the bathroom for like 20 minutes or so, came out, and called for help. He was projectile puking blood and coughing up lung pieces and couldn't stop. I woke up my mom and called 911 and handed her the phone. Went back to him as he collapsed into the trashcan. I tried to wake him but there was no response. There was blood everywhere and I could see a big chunk of obviously lung on the ground next to the trash can

I rushed outside and grabbed my flashlight to flag down the ambulance, and was in the room as they put him on the stretcher. There was just blood fucking everywhere. He just had this blank stare. Naturally in a panic I said all I could think. "Help's here you're gonna be alright!" but he didn't respond at all. Didn't move. I could see in his eyes it was already over. They tried compressions, but couldn't get an airway, or a pulse. After 10 minutes they leisurely drove to the hospital without lights or sirens where they pronounced him doa. It only took about 2 minutes tops. I'm fairly sure he was dead before we were even off the phone with 911. It was the craziest shit ever. I didn't even think that was possible. Fuck.</sub>
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What happened was so goddamn crazy and unlikely, I highly doubt this is typical. Never really found out what exactly happened, but doctors assumed his tumor ruptured and he bled out. And 3 hours later his alarm clock went off because he was gonna go to work. It's crazy. He worked 40 hours a week up until the end. Through stage 4 lung cancer spread to his liver, diaphragm and brain, partial paralysis from radiation, through chemo. He was head of maintenance at a local steel treating plant, and essentially the place would fall apant without him. He couldn't leave his coworkers hanging. The only reason he didn't work his last day was because it was sunday. Throughout his whole battle he only called in sick once. Woke up with a fever of 104°, was like "fuck this I'm going back to bed."

He was never dying. He was living. Still got up at 5am everyday. Still drank, smoked until the last 2 weeks when he was on a new rougher chemo. He was willing to give it all up to keep going. Still enjoyed bitching about the government and weather with me, helping fix up the house. When I left for Louisville Friday, he was working, watching tv, playing with the dogs, just living, and then Sunday night, as soon as i got home, he was gone.

That is what makes this so hard. It's like he was ripped away in an instant. No warning. It still hasn't set in. That's what's so fucked up about cancer. You never see it coming even when you do. Nothing could fucking stop him. He was indestructible, until one day it just happened. I'm just so desperate to talk to him about anything. I keep going to the cemetery, Drink a beer, pour one on the ground, and just ramble on about life and stuff for a while. It's fairly cathartic, and seems to hurt less every time. That's when memories and shit take over. I'm really just happy to know him, and try to carry on his spirit. Never met anybody who didn't like him. He did his best to make sure my Mom, brother and I, his coworkers, friends, family, would be ok and put everyone else first even until the end. There's no words to describe what the world has lost.

I wish I had some words of wisdom to offer you. I don't. It just sucks. It really fucking sucks. All you can do is just keep on going. That's what my dad did, and that's what my family's doing. Eventually it'll suck a little less. If my dad proved anything, it's that the human spirit can conquer fucking anything.

Budda, sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine how rough that is.


Dave, sorry for what you are going through as well, cancer is a real whore. I wish both your dad and your friend the absolute best.



Lost 3 people close to me (a grandma, a grandpa, and a good friend)to cancer and now am watching the boyfriend's dad have an uphill battle with it. You are right that even when you know it's there, you never see it coming. What doesn't help in our situation is the bf hasn't really lost anyone close to him, other than 3 years ago, his grandpa dying. He had Alzheimer's, was 83, and half out of his gourd, so that wasn't as big a shock. Further that with the fact that his mom has tried to sugarcoat and prance around the severity of what's going on with his dad so the bf "won't worry", and now that things are getting worse, it's really blindsided him. He feels he was cheated out of time with his dad while he was healthy and won't get another chance to do everything he wanted.

Posted by jellybeans95 He feels he was cheated out of time with his dad while he was healthy and won't get another chance to do everything he wanted.

I'm so happy my grandpa taught me how to drive before he went from prostate cancer. We spent a TON of time together. I had to move away as he got sicker but I made it up and grandma always told me he was asking about me. Yesterday his brother came and got his old tractor. It's hard adjusting. He was basically my father. But I'm content with the time I had with him.
Tell you're boyfriend its never to late to create memories and talk. even as my grandpa was at the very end he never lost his sharp wit or his mind. He was still excellent to talk to.

Posted by victoria- I'm so happy my grandpa taught me how to drive before he went from prostate cancer. We spent a TON of time together. I had to move away as he got sicker but I made it up and grandma always told me he was asking about me. Yesterday his brother came and got his old tractor. It's hard adjusting. He was basically my father. But I'm content with the time I had with him. Tell you're boyfriend its never to late to create memories and talk. even as my grandpa was at the very end he never lost his sharp wit or his mind. He was still excellent to talk to.

I'll be sure to pass that on to him. I've told him "hope for the best, prepare for the worst."

I know he wanted his dad to help him with his Galaxie, but who knows if his health will rebound enough for that. For the sake of my bf, I really hope so. He's been watching the Wings playoffs with his dad, so that's something at least. He's trying to spend every weekend we aren't busy with his dad as well.

Budda and Dave, my condolences on your loss.

I remember when my Dad died. He went to the hospital on a Saturday with the symptoms of a heart attack, wasn`t checked until Monday when they found a two day old heart attack. Tuesday, we found out he was dying from the gangrene that went into his vital organs and he was dead on Wednesday.

It hit hard and even after 26 years, I still get angry when I think of how he laid there for two days before being checked. Sad part was that the `doctor-patient confidentiality routine was used so we never got any real answers and our doctor tried to give my Mom some tranquilizers when she got insistent with the answers.
As for lawyers, yeah right. Justice only if you`re filthy rich or have the right friends in the right places. They wanted at least 8 grand up front which we didn`t have.

If I had my way there would be a chihuahua holocaust!

People that aren't responsible enough or have the funds to get their animals spayed or neutered. My boyfriend has 2 female cats that go into heat basically constantly. One goes out the other goes in. The one has had like 500 litters of kittens which irritates me extremely. I constantly nag him to get them fixed. The yowling is unbearable.

He should not own animals.

Time to buy a cat trap! My grandpa has the same problem with his neighbors the cats go into my grandparents backyard break shit, meow at all hours of the night and keep multiplying.

Hes caught three so far, problem is they're wild and most are too smart to get caught hahaha One actually flipped the metal trap over-and-over about 5-6ft. After he catches them he drives them about 10 miles away and lets em loose.

Posted by MeoW Time to buy a cat trap! My grandpa has the same problem with his neighbors the cats go into my grandparents backyard break shit, meow at all hours of the night and keep multiplying. Hes caught three so far, problem is they're wild and most are too smart to get caught hahaha One actually flipped the metal trap over-and-over about 5-6ft. After he catches them he drives them about 10 miles away and lets em loose.

The most humane thing for those cats, (and I know it sounds harsh) is a bullet to the head. there is no need for more cats breeding. It is an epidemic already. People need to be more responsible with their pets. It irks me so much to hear about lazy, irresponsible owners contributing to the mass population of shitty animals and neglect. How are the conditions the animals are living in at the neighbours? If you call animal control and it's bad enough they can be charged with cruelty and banned from owning animals.

My grandparents had a similar issue with shitty neighbours dogs. They formed packs in the evening and went down to my grandparents farm. Killed their beloved pet sheep. Animal control suggested we shoot the dogs. My grandmother is too kind hearted to do that but I would have no issue.

Be as righteous as you want but a dead animal is better then a suffering malnourished neglected animal.